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mom at 16, A total disgrace! THOUGHTS? (EDIT blue)

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For anyone who thinks I am trying to make teen pregnancy something magical and perfect I am not. I am now 19 years old and my son will be three this year, We are not on PA, FS or any type of assistance for the past 18 months. My Husband is 20 has a job that brings enough to survive comfortably, no we're not rich but we rent our home, brought our furniture even if it is second hand and a little ratty, I am doing online schooling and trying to get my GED this year, I took the last 2 years off to care of my son because I do not like daycare centers and didn't want my son away from me. I NEVER go out, I have no friends, I have no life outside my family because I gave it all up! I love him, I love my DH, honestly I love my life and once again for that I am judged because I am PROUD OF HOW FAR WE HAVE CAME SINCE THAT DAY I MADE THE CHOICE FOR THIS TO BE OUR LIFE I am not proud of being pregnant at 16.

This is my story from my heart. Pregnant at 15 and a mom at 16.


I want a car,

Get out of this place,

Tired of being seen as a disgrace,

16 years young I became a mom,

but to me its the best thing I have ever done.

I love what I have created that baby I hold everyday,

Of course I have had to change my teenage ways,

What I hate the most is my decisions are seen as mistakes,

People say hes taken my childhood and I have taken his faith.

He'll grow up in a broken home they say,

While I will be a welfare mom until my last days,

What people don't realise is I walked out that day,

I was going to pretend this never happened,

Have it all cleared away,

None of you would have known he even had existed,

That he was even here,

But seeing that black and white picture gave me tears,

I held my breath and shook my head,

I told me them to let me off the bed,

I held my moms hand and asked her to take me home,

I didnt want this, I guess she heard it in my tone,

I knew there was a reason that nurse turned the screen,

She knew one day I would dream,

Of the child I gave up, The one I thought I couldnt raise,

Even now the stares, words, the judgement put me in a daze,

I wonder what people would think of me if I had gone through with it,

If they had never seen his face?

I wonder if I would still be the family disgrace?

The family judges me, puts me down,

My mom stand by me and never frowns!

I hold my head high but inside I'm drowning in emotional rain,

They put me in the same catagory as people with an addiction,

Disgusting trash,

I dont deserve a crucifixion,

I am not dirty nor am I a whore,

I didnt spread my legs like an open door,

I didnt make a mistake, I made a life,

My son doesnt deserve the judgement nor do I.

I had a baby young,

I left my childhood behind me,

I was not robbed of a life,

I gave it away,

I gave it up for a beautiful baby,

And for that I am thankful everyday.


Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 2, 2013 at 3:49 AM
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by Blessed be on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:03 PM

You wrote this? It's lovely.

I hate that society ostracize young moms instead of trying to help them. Yes a mistake is made when you get pregnant young, but no one is perfect. You do the best you can under the circumstances. Some people will go out of their way to make a young moms life hard. That's just not right.

by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:04 PM
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My son and his girlfriend got pregnant when they were 18 and the baby was born when they were 19. They've done a wonderful job making a life for themselves and their beautfiul daughter and I couldn't be more proud of them! My grandbaby wasn't a mistake! She is a beautiful blessing and our family would not be the same without her. 

Loved the poem OP! Don't let the haters bring you down! Your baby wasn't a mistake! He was and will always be a beautiful blessing!

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:04 PM
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Your peom made me cry!

Shame on the parents, relatives and/or anyone who made you feel like a disgrace, a whore, trash and anything else that is degrading, Shame, shame, shame on them! It does not matter who the father was or the circumstances, the choice was, as it should be, yours to make.  More power to you!  I had my children late.  Early or late, so what!  I know some women who cannot have children. These woman would trade everything they have now to have a child. 

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:05 PM
I like it!
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by *Angelicious* on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:06 PM
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What do I think? Being an unwed teen mom IS disgraceful... That's why I wasn't one & that's also why I'm teaching/encouraging my children not to be one either.
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by Ruby Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:08 PM

Beautiful poem. I know alot of teem moms who are better moms then the ones in there 30s. 

by New Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:12 PM

This is a beautiful poem and it sounds like you have made the right decision for you.  Good luck and enjoy your baby, they don't stay little for long.

by Anonymous 34 on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:14 PM

Quoting sevensmommy:

I think this is beautiful. I am a teen mom and I think Im doing better than most older parents :)

Of course you do, you're a teenager.  You know everything!

by Sapphire Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:18 PM

Quoting HelloBayybee:

Your opinion stinks as bad as your butthole.

Quoting SommelierMom:

Sorry, but being a teen mom IS a disgrace in my opinion, especially a young one.

Good one.  

by Anonymous 34 on Feb. 2, 2013 at 1:22 PM
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Quoting Mel0dy:

Beautiful poem. I know alot of teem moms who are better moms then the ones in there 30s. 

No you don't.

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