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mom at 16, A total disgrace! THOUGHTS? (EDIT blue)

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For anyone who thinks I am trying to make teen pregnancy something magical and perfect I am not. I am now 19 years old and my son will be three this year, We are not on PA, FS or any type of assistance for the past 18 months. My Husband is 20 has a job that brings enough to survive comfortably, no we're not rich but we rent our home, brought our furniture even if it is second hand and a little ratty, I am doing online schooling and trying to get my GED this year, I took the last 2 years off to care of my son because I do not like daycare centers and didn't want my son away from me. I NEVER go out, I have no friends, I have no life outside my family because I gave it all up! I love him, I love my DH, honestly I love my life and once again for that I am judged because I am PROUD OF HOW FAR WE HAVE CAME SINCE THAT DAY I MADE THE CHOICE FOR THIS TO BE OUR LIFE I am not proud of being pregnant at 16.

This is my story from my heart. Pregnant at 15 and a mom at 16.


I want a car,

Get out of this place,

Tired of being seen as a disgrace,

16 years young I became a mom,

but to me its the best thing I have ever done.

I love what I have created that baby I hold everyday,

Of course I have had to change my teenage ways,

What I hate the most is my decisions are seen as mistakes,

People say hes taken my childhood and I have taken his faith.

He'll grow up in a broken home they say,

While I will be a welfare mom until my last days,

What people don't realise is I walked out that day,

I was going to pretend this never happened,

Have it all cleared away,

None of you would have known he even had existed,

That he was even here,

But seeing that black and white picture gave me tears,

I held my breath and shook my head,

I told me them to let me off the bed,

I held my moms hand and asked her to take me home,

I didnt want this, I guess she heard it in my tone,

I knew there was a reason that nurse turned the screen,

She knew one day I would dream,

Of the child I gave up, The one I thought I couldnt raise,

Even now the stares, words, the judgement put me in a daze,

I wonder what people would think of me if I had gone through with it,

If they had never seen his face?

I wonder if I would still be the family disgrace?

The family judges me, puts me down,

My mom stand by me and never frowns!

I hold my head high but inside I'm drowning in emotional rain,

They put me in the same catagory as people with an addiction,

Disgusting trash,

I dont deserve a crucifixion,

I am not dirty nor am I a whore,

I didnt spread my legs like an open door,

I didnt make a mistake, I made a life,

My son doesnt deserve the judgement nor do I.

I had a baby young,

I left my childhood behind me,

I was not robbed of a life,

I gave it away,

I gave it up for a beautiful baby,

And for that I am thankful everyday.


Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 2, 2013 at 3:49 AM
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by BEXi on Feb. 3, 2013 at 3:36 PM

Very nice poem :)

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by Platinum Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 3:40 PM
Very proud of u stay strong momma
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by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 4:18 PM

so you would support abortion? This mom may have been 16 but obviously mature enough to care for herself and her child. What would you say about someone that was raped and got pregnant at 17? still say they are a disgrace? I bet you would, Myself I was raped at 17 and ended up pregnant, i do not believe in abortion so I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl who looked just like me. I had paperwork for her to be adopted but once I seen her I could not give her up. She is now 12 years old a happy healthy girl who loves hiking, boating, fishing, hunting, exc does that mean I made a bad choice no it does not. OP dont let them get you down they are just insecure with themselves and feel that they need to belittle people to make themselves feel better, keep your chin up you are doing a great job!!

Quoting SommelierMom:

Sorry, but being a teen mom IS a disgrace in my opinion, especially a young one.

by Anonymous 75 on Feb. 3, 2013 at 4:19 PM
by Platinum Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 4:26 PM

My mom always said she wouldn't trade my or her life for anything BUT that it would have been easier if she waited. Then when I was older she confided in me that getting pregnant probably saved her life bc she was hanging out with a really bad crowd. 

by Amy on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:14 PM


by Sapphire Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:33 PM
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Quoting JLo1486:

You got knocked up at 17 and, regarding your dad, "knew he wouldn't be mad"?!

I can hear the dueling banjos now.
by Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:39 PM
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You go girl! Kudos to you for doing what you felt was right and for taking care of your baby. Being a mom isn't easy but it sounds like you are doing what you can and taking care of your family which is all anyone of us can do. Don't let other people make you feel bad, ignore them and enjoy your lil man!!! :)
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by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:52 PM

This was a beautiful poem and you are a beautiful woman for doing what you did and what you are doing. I am sure you are a good mom and screw the ones that judge. No have a child young is not ideal, but it is not the end of the world either. :) Good luck to you and your family, by the way feel free to friend me on here. everyone needs friends. 

by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:57 PM
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 I was a teen mom..Had my son at 16..Here I am now 31 and he is 15, and my ONLY child... At first it wasn't easy, but we grew together. By the time I'm 35 my son will be 18 and off to college.....Ahhhh, I'm so done and life is good...I'm 3 years out for regaining my personal freedom. I've been saving for his college since he was a baby..All I have to do for my son on his 18th birthday is buy him some luggage..I'm going to throw us both a party..LOL...So its not all bad....Its truly not...I wouldn't suggest it..By all means a baby can wait..However, some of us miss that memo.......From my youth straight to being a mom...I wouldn't trade him for anything..Wrecks my LAST nerve but he's my best friend.... teen mom 15 years later and life is GOOD...


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