mom at 16, A total disgrace! THOUGHTS? (EDIT blue)

[Anonymous]

For anyone who thinks I am trying to make teen pregnancy something magical and perfect I am not. I am now 19 years old and my son will be three this year, We are not on PA, FS or any type of assistance for the past 18 months. My Husband is 20 has a job that brings enough to survive comfortably, no we're not rich but we rent our home, brought our furniture even if it is second hand and a little ratty, I am doing online schooling and trying to get my GED this year, I took the last 2 years off to care of my son because I do not like daycare centers and didn't want my son away from me. I NEVER go out, I have no friends, I have no life outside my family because I gave it all up! I love him, I love my DH, honestly I love my life and once again for that I am judged because I am PROUD OF HOW FAR WE HAVE CAME SINCE THAT DAY I MADE THE CHOICE FOR THIS TO BE OUR LIFE I am not proud of being pregnant at 16.

This is my story from my heart. Pregnant at 15 and a mom at 16.

A TOTAL DISGRACE

I want a car,

Get out of this place,

Tired of being seen as a disgrace,

16 years young I became a mom,

but to me its the best thing I have ever done.

I love what I have created that baby I hold everyday,

Of course I have had to change my teenage ways,

What I hate the most is my decisions are seen as mistakes,

People say hes taken my childhood and I have taken his faith.

He'll grow up in a broken home they say,

While I will be a welfare mom until my last days,

What people don't realise is I walked out that day,

I was going to pretend this never happened,

Have it all cleared away,

None of you would have known he even had existed,

That he was even here,

But seeing that black and white picture gave me tears,

I held my breath and shook my head,

I told me them to let me off the bed,

I held my moms hand and asked her to take me home,

I didnt want this, I guess she heard it in my tone,

I knew there was a reason that nurse turned the screen,

She knew one day I would dream,

Of the child I gave up, The one I thought I couldnt raise,

Even now the stares, words, the judgement put me in a daze,

I wonder what people would think of me if I had gone through with it,

If they had never seen his face?

I wonder if I would still be the family disgrace?

The family judges me, puts me down,

My mom stand by me and never frowns!

I hold my head high but inside I'm drowning in emotional rain,

They put me in the same catagory as people with an addiction,

Disgusting trash,

I dont deserve a crucifixion,

I am not dirty nor am I a whore,

I didnt spread my legs like an open door,

I didnt make a mistake, I made a life,

My son doesnt deserve the judgement nor do I.

I had a baby young,

I left my childhood behind me,

I was not robbed of a life,

I gave it away,

I gave it up for a beautiful baby,

And for that I am thankful everyday.

 

[dirby1988]

 I was 6 months pregnant on my 16th bday. Im 24 now and dd just turned 8. I think she saved me from alot of things i would have done if i never would have had her.

Quoting Anonymous:

 I am now 19 and my son will be 3 this year :)

Quoting ToYnyc:

 lol teenagers tend to romanticize everything, cute poem but being a mom is tough and often a thankless job, sacrifices will have to be made and your baby will have to come first , i hope for your childs sake you are prepared to cope with the reality of being a 16 year old mom. Good luck and God bless.

 

 

 

[Bigmetalchicken]

If writing this was therapeutic, I am glad for you. Sometimes it is best to get things out on paper.

[mommy_me]

So sad.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

 

Of cause not, in that being said I would not treat them the way I was and still am treated by my family. No baby is a mistake and I will never allow myself to think of this path as a mistake.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

So do you recommend your path for your children?

 

[Dzyre1115]

 That philosophy is what causes children to make bad choices, there are mistakes in life and having sex and a baby before you reach adulthood is a big one, with big consequences for both the child and the baby!

Quoting Anonymous:

 

Of cause not, in that being said I would not treat them the way I was and still am treated by my family. No baby is a mistake and I will never allow myself to think of this path as a mistake.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

So do you recommend your path for your children?

 

 

 

[Anonymous]

It's just like a teenager to think they shouldn't have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

Either way you had a baby before you were married, a college graduate or even had a home to take your baby. That's a mistake. And if it wasnt a mistake and it was a purposeful act then you're just stupid.

Congrats on the wedding.

Quoting Anonymous:

 We got married just last month and yes I understand the judgement but I dont think I deserve it

Quoting Anonymous:

It's a nice poem but you knew you would be judged when you decided to keep your son. That goes with the territory of being a teen mom.

Are you with the dad?

 

[supercarp]

You are certainly an intelligent person, by the way you write. You can be a super mom and succeed where your parents failed. Sex is not the be-all, end-all great pastime of the world. Obviously you know that now. Promise yourself to finish your education. You can still go to college, even if your parents don't see the point in it. Do something great, like publish your poems. That could get you into Harvard (Their scholarships are need-based) or any great college. There is help. You can have a wonderful life. You have a wonderful child. Do it for yourself and for him.

[mrspena]

Imo people make mistakes. If you choose to keep the baby, own up to it. I am so tired of teen moms that get pregenant and choose to keep the baby than complain about how hard it is because they are so young (not saying you did, or trying to bash you).
Your poem was very beutiful.

[Anonymous]

You are always so mean but right. I don't want to like you but I can't help it. Damnit!

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 That philosophy is what causes children to make bad choices, there are mistakes in life and having sex and a baby before you reach adulthood is a big one, with big consequences for both the child and the baby!

Quoting Anonymous:

 

Of cause not, in that being said I would not treat them the way I was and still am treated by my family. No baby is a mistake and I will never allow myself to think of this path as a mistake.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

So do you recommend your path for your children?

 

 

 

[imacafemomer]

Teenagers and poems.. poetry gets you nowhere in life, doesn't pay the bills. I wonder how little knowledge of reality people have who pride themselves on the ability to rhyme.