Agree with this mom?

[Anonymous]

[Kris_PBG]

No - she doesn't. You don't stop a bully by having a bigger bully bullying him.


I think it is great she took his actions seriously, but I think her actions are misguided. It is like the scared straight programs.... Initial shock provides a change in behavior, but without teaching insight, changing cognitions, etc.... The behavior change is very temporary.

[ladysamanda]

Awwww. Sad all around.at least his momma REALIZES though. So many parents have their blinds on when it comes to this. Kudos

[white_wolf454]

hey at least the mom is showing him what it is like to be made fun of and i hope he learns to have empathy 

[Anonymous]

It's great she isn't just ignoring the fact that her son is a bully but I don't think that is really going to fix his behavior.

[Anonymous]

yup

[Anonymous]

maybe that oughta be told to some cops, too...

Quoting Kris_PBG:

No - she doesn't. You don't stop a bully by having a bigger bully bullying him.


I think it is great she took his actions seriously, but I think her actions are misguided. It is like the scared straight programs.... Initial shock provides a change in behavior, but without teaching insight, changing cognitions, etc.... The behavior change is very temporary.

[xXSoSincereXx]

yes I agree

[Anonymous]

I think her point was to let him know what it feels like to be publically humiliated and laughed at. Im sure there will be more to this lesson and she will speak to him and communicate to him why people shouldn't bully and etc. But first , she wanted him to know how it felt.

[PerfectVirgo]

I agree. Sometimes it takes creative disciplining.

[Anonymous]

How can you conclude that the mother will not be "teaching insight or changing cognitions" from one picture? Her point was to open up the realm of HOW it feels to be publically humiliated and laughed at. Afterwards, she very we'll could have sat him down and discussed HOW it made him feel to stand outside and do that. Then, that opens the lines for communication and it goes from there. Many children DO need to feel what it's like to have something done to them, that they are doing to other people. Then, as a parent, you use that experience as the opening door to conversation about the action

Quoting Kris_PBG:

No - she doesn't. You don't stop a bully by having a bigger bully bullying him.




I think it is great she took his actions seriously, but I think her actions are misguided. It is like the scared straight programs.... Initial shock provides a change in behavior, but without teaching insight, changing cognitions, etc.... The behavior change is very temporary.