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Insensitive?? *Edited to answer questions

Anonymous
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 Would it be insensitive to bring our 8 m/o out ot dinner when the other couple we would be eating with recently lost their 2 m/o?

 

The loss was 3 months ago. We would be eating out at a restaurant. My dh and the man do business with one another and we have become friends. We wanted to take them out for referring customers to us. It isn't really a business dinner. We are buying their meals to say thank you but we wont be discussing any business. It is more to hang out bc they are good people.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:48 AM
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elijahXmom
by Gold Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:50 AM
Where is the dinner at? Who idea was it to go out? How long ago was the lose?
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BEXi
by BEXi on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:50 AM

Um.. I would give them some time before bringing my baby around them. Unless they insist that you bring your LO.

                                                         
                                          
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:52 AM
Yes. If you absolutely feel you must bring him/her....stay home instead.
wifeynmommie80
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:52 AM

slightly yes. I am sure if you found a babysitter, it would be a much better atmosphere for them

SpnFulOfSugar
by Emerald Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:52 AM
Yes
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:53 AM
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Yes, yes it would be. No question about it.

When you take a baby to dinner, the baby ends up being the focus. These people need your support.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:00 AM
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Putting the loss of their child aside for a moment, in what universe do you believe bringing your 8 mo along to dinner at a restaurant as a thank you for referring customers, is a good idea? Since you don't seem to know...its not.

The fact that you said "the loss was 3 months ago" as if its time for them to  move on, and justify your postion shows how incredibly insensitive you both are.  I personally wouldn't expect any further referrals from this couple.

SpiritedWitch
by Froggie on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:17 AM

Just ask them. We lost our son in 2008 at the age of 22 and people still avoid us and treat us with kid gloves. 

KrissyKC
by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:18 AM

Hell yes.


KrissyKC
by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:19 AM
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If you don't trust sitters yet, then get them a gift basket with a gift card to a nice restaurant inside and let THEM go out for a date night.


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