Insensitive?? *Edited to answer questions

[Anonymous]

 Would it be insensitive to bring our 8 m/o out ot dinner when the other couple we would be eating with recently lost their 2 m/o?

 

The loss was 3 months ago. We would be eating out at a restaurant. My dh and the man do business with one another and we have become friends. We wanted to take them out for referring customers to us. It isn't really a business dinner. We are buying their meals to say thank you but we wont be discussing any business. It is more to hang out bc they are good people.

[elijahXmom]

Where is the dinner at? Who idea was it to go out? How long ago was the lose?

[BEXi]

Um.. I would give them some time before bringing my baby around them. Unless they insist that you bring your LO.

[Anonymous]

Yes. If you absolutely feel you must bring him/her....stay home instead.

[wifeynmommie80]

slightly yes. I am sure if you found a babysitter, it would be a much better atmosphere for them

[SpnFulOfSugar]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Yes, yes it would be. No question about it.

When you take a baby to dinner, the baby ends up being the focus. These people need your support.

[Anonymous]

Putting the loss of their child aside for a moment, in what universe do you believe bringing your 8 mo along to dinner at a restaurant as a thank you for referring customers, is a good idea? Since you don't seem to know...its not.

The fact that you said "the loss was 3 months ago" as if its time for them to  move on, and justify your postion shows how incredibly insensitive you both are.  I personally wouldn't expect any further referrals from this couple.

[SpiritedWitch]

Just ask them. We lost our son in 2008 at the age of 22 and people still avoid us and treat us with kid gloves. 

[KrissyKC]

Hell yes.

[KrissyKC]

If you don't trust sitters yet, then get them a gift basket with a gift card to a nice restaurant inside and let THEM go out for a date night.