I've been married to dh since my sd was 13, together since she was 10. She's always been disgusting, but I kept my mouth shut because she only came over on the weekends. My cleaning day was Fridays because that was the only day I had free. I would start cleaning as soon as dh would leave for work. Sd would come after school and by Saturday it would look as if I hadn't cleaned in weeks. Every dish would be in the sink, crumbs on the floor, hair in the tub, toothpaste on the counter....so I just changed my cleaning day to Monday. When dh and I married I asked her to be a jr. bridesmaid. Biggest mistake of my life! Everything had to be about her. She didn't like the dress I picked out because it made her hips look wide, could we change the date of the rehearsal because that was her bff birthday party. Once again I didn't make a big deal because I didn't want to be seen as an evil stepmom. Our honeymoon was on his week with her (it was a summer wedding) so we took her to New York City with us. I thought she would love it, I mean who doesn't love nyc? That was why I picked nyc, because it was something we could all do. More of a family vacation then a honeymoon. She hated it so much that we left a day early.
Ok, ff. I found out I was pregnant. I had had a mc a year before so I told dh that I didn't want to say anything to anyone until I was out of my first trimester. I guess not a good idea. Her attitude towards me went from indifference to pure hate. Now she's living with us, since September. God forbid dh shows our ds or myself any attention. She starts acting like a jealous suitor. We get a date night once every two months. I had to tell him to leave his cell phone in the car because she will call him over the dumbest things. When are y'all coming home? Can you pick up a magazine on the way?
She even asked him to tuck her in one night! Or if he and I are on the couch and his feet are in my lap, she gets an attitude. And god forbid we hug or kiss and she sees it.
I'm ready for a divorce. He doesn't see any of this. Or he thinks I'm just overreacting. I don't know what to do.