My sd makes me want to pull out my hair!
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Ok, ff. I found out I was pregnant. I had had a mc a year before so I told dh that I didn't want to say anything to anyone until I was out of my first trimester. I guess not a good idea. Her attitude towards me went from indifference to pure hate. Now she's living with us, since September. God forbid dh shows our ds or myself any attention. She starts acting like a jealous suitor. We get a date night once every two months. I had to tell him to leave his cell phone in the car because she will call him over the dumbest things. When are y'all coming home? Can you pick up a magazine on the way?
She even asked him to tuck her in one night! Or if he and I are on the couch and his feet are in my lap, she gets an attitude. And god forbid we hug or kiss and she sees it.
I'm ready for a divorce. He doesn't see any of this. Or he thinks I'm just overreacting. I don't know what to do.
Sounds about right...she's a teenager who has been an only child for most of her life. Teenagers are messy, can be clingy, jealous, call over the dumbest things and most (my oldest DD would, but she is weird) are not mature enough to appreciate NYC. Try having a teenage boy....they like to avoid showering for weeks.
deep breaths lol
Hve you tried maybe reconnecting with her? just a girls day you and her? it may take more than 1 you just need to be persistant. And since you rambled on about all the things you DONT like about her.. are there things you do LOVE about her??
Where is her Mom? it sounds like maybe she might have some issues going on inside her ...
As for what I like about her. Tbh, she's very pretty. Like model pretty. But she won't open up to me. I do know her favorite color is purple.
She is supposed to get weekend s with her mom now that she's living with us. But she won't go because in her words, her stepfather is an ass.
Quoting Jentily:deep breaths lol
Hve you tried maybe reconnecting with her? just a girls day you and her? it may take more than 1 you just need to be persistant. And since you rambled on about all the things you DONT like about her.. are there things you do LOVE about her??
Where is her Mom? it sounds like maybe she might have some issues going on inside her ...
Probably going over into some complex there.. there has to be a Greek term for it.......Opedius or Electra complex!!!! Yes, it's a weird thing..........and not very healthy.
the wise man needs to see this. He is not being too wise. She should be getting more and more involved out of the house right now, She should be getting prepared for independence. Dad should be gently "pushing" her in that direction.
good luck....
He needs to sit her down and put her in her place. That or you will have to. I would not be having that in my house, no i would not!
don't give up on the girl days ... and they dont even have to be outings.. maybe just hanging out in her room with her. Maybe you can let her have a small party and you can meet her friends...
Eventually she will open up to you but right now, she doesn't see you as a "friend" .. she most likely can tell that you don't like her.
Just remember, you are the adult
Quoting Anonymous:
I tried doing a girls day. You have no idea how bad that turned out. Even dh felt bad for me afterwards.
As for what I like about her. Tbh, she's very pretty. Like model pretty. But she won't open up to me. I do know her favorite color is purple.
She is supposed to get weekend s with her mom now that she's living with us. But she won't go because in her words, her stepfather is an ass.
Quoting Jentily:deep breaths lol
Hve you tried maybe reconnecting with her? just a girls day you and her? it may take more than 1 you just need to be persistant. And since you rambled on about all the things you DONT like about her.. are there things you do LOVE about her??
Where is her Mom? it sounds like maybe she might have some issues going on inside her ...
Quoting Jentily:
don't give up on the girl days ... and they dont even have to be outings.. maybe just hanging out in her room with her. Maybe you can let her have a small party and you can meet her friends...
Eventually she will open up to you but right now, she doesn't see you as a "friend" .. she most likely can tell that you don't like her.
Just remember, you are the adult
Quoting Anonymous:
I tried doing a girls day. You have no idea how bad that turned out. Even dh felt bad for me afterwards.
As for what I like about her. Tbh, she's very pretty. Like model pretty. But she won't open up to me. I do know her favorite color is purple.
She is supposed to get weekend s with her mom now that she's living with us. But she won't go because in her words, her stepfather is an ass.
Quoting Jentily:deep breaths lol
Hve you tried maybe reconnecting with her? just a girls day you and her? it may take more than 1 you just need to be persistant. And since you rambled on about all the things you DONT like about her.. are there things you do LOVE about her??
Where is her Mom? it sounds like maybe she might have some issues going on inside her ...
That's the ugliest name everrrr!!!