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She is seeing her BM for the 1st time in 7-8 years -Update- -Update

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We tracked down my 9 year old's Bio mother and now we are in NY going to meet her. I want to sit her down and talk about her terminating her rights so I can adopt her daughter. I have been raising her since she was 6. We are meeting in a restaurant and I am going to try to talk nicely about it. I don't want a custody battle but I will fight for her like I fought for her sister. I want my daughter there so she can choose and tell her BM that she wants to be with me.





If she tries to fight I will get her for abandonment.





Please wish us luck. Will update later.



Update: I am sitting at the restaurant waiting for her. I did leave my daughter at home with a friend. BM is an hour late and I am nervous. I called her about 5x and it kept going to VM so I am going to assume it died or she is on the train

Update #2: It is 9:30 she never showed up. I left at about 7 and called and told her that if she still wanted to discuss I would give her until Sunday. If I go back home without meeting her then I will go to.court.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:44 PM

why do you have her in the first place? and why would you bring her and put her right in the middle?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:44 PM

do NOT put a child in the middle of that. Either don't take the kid along or don't even talk about any crappy subjects.

ttfnt20
by Bronze Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:46 PM
Goodluck..i hope the meeting goes well.
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by Meanie Pants on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:48 PM
I don't want much court. I want to be able to have her go up there, sign the papers and get out of there. She will be involved anyway because it is about her

Quoting catrig:

You shouldn't put the child in the middle of it. Handle it in court.
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emerald.forest
by Silver Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:48 PM
If you go in there demanding things it will not go well and you will cause harm to your daughters emotional well being. File with court first instead of making a whole other mess.
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by facta, non verba on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:49 PM
I agree with what some of the other mom's have already said for two teasonsThe child should not be there when you talkreasons. It could cause too much distress for her. If you want to get her for abandonment, the last thing I would do is give her the chance to meet the child. BM could say in court that she had just met her daughter and therefore there is no abandonment. I know the chances of this happeningr are small but some women will try everything...
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by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:49 PM
Good luck
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by Meanie Pants on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:50 PM
Everyone says don't bring her. So okay. I wont bring her. I am still going through with the meeting though.

Quoting Anonymous:

do NOT put a child in the middle of that. Either don't take the kid along or don't even talk about any crappy subjects.

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by Meanie Pants on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:52 PM
Thanks. I won't bring her. She can stay with my friend while I deal with it.

Quoting AtillaTheHun:

I agree with what some of the other mom's have already said for two teasonsThe child should not be there when you talkreasons. It could cause too much distress for her. If you want to get her for abandonment, the last thing I would do is give her the chance to meet the child. BM could say in court that she had just met her daughter and therefore there is no abandonment. I know the chances of this happeningr are small but some women will try everything...
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by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:52 PM
I wouldn't want the child there just in case she goes bat shit crazy. When is the last time you saw her?
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