Do your parents or in-laws try to buy your kids love?
My MIL is terrible about trying to buy my kids' affection by buying them a ton of things they don't need and sometimes things they really don't want. Valentines Day is coming up (she gets them something for every little holiday) and she called me to see if they would like pinwheels and I said "I'm sure they would, but they'd probably get torn up easy."
Then she says "I just want them to love me." I told her they do and they'd love her just as much if she didn't give them presents. She responded with "The way to a child's heart is through presents."
I just shrug it off. I know that my kids prefer my own mother to my MIL but that's simply because my mother will get down and play with them and interacts with them whereas my MIL just gives them presents and then expects them to sit quietly and she doesn't really talk to them.