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I refuse to let my son have a D on this assignment *had a meeting with the teacher and VP

Anonymous
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Grade this assignment for me, and at the end of this post i will put what grade my 1st graders teacher gave him on it.


Instructions: What makes your mom and dad the BEST mom and dad? What do you like to do with your parents? Does mom make good cookies you like? Do you and dad like to play catch together? Tell me why your mom and dad are the best parents ever.


His answer

my mom is the best mom because she is my mom and dad stuck in one. she doesnt make me eat the yucky veggies at supper and she lets me eat chistos? (cheetos?) before bedtime. I like it when me and mommy watch veggy tails late at nite once jaejae is sleeping and when we get to stay up late until almost 10pm is fun and so is late nite drives without jaejae.

my dad is not cool because he got lost at lego land and never got out





His grade was a D.

I don't agree with that. He wrote what he liked about his mommy, and what he likes to do. He got a D due to the fact he didn't talk about his dad. He doesnt KNOW his dad! His dad and his dads friend took him to lego land on his 5th birthday and ran into a family friend, asked if they would watch him for a few minutes and left. Never paid a dime of child support or ever made an attempt to see him. The teachers response (email) was that the assignment was to right about what a GOOD mom or dad is, and that if he wasn't able to write about a personal response, he was to write about a friends dad, or any dad he knows. He knows his uncle (he has 4 kids) however he doesn't see him as a dad figure to know what to write, and hes only a FIRST grader. He doesn't even think like that to think of a family member or friends dad to write a story about when it said YOUR mommy and YOUR daddy.

She said she would up it to a C but due to the fact he didn't complete the assignment it can't be an A or B.


I know his grades in first grade don't mean anything, but this whole situation annoys me, and i don't think its appropriate (atleast not the instructions she gave as far as u HAVE to talk about a mom and a dad) when alot of the families around here are broken families. Its suppose to be a valentines kind of assignment.


Maybe i'm overreacting and looking to far into it. But my son can't see why he got a bad grade on it when he told the truth.


I dropped my son off at school, and while they were having breakfast i went to the teachers classroom to talk to her, and there was 2 other parents who were waiting to talk to her about this assignment. 

I was talking to them while we were waiting and one of them was infuriated about the assignment, to the point she was almost crying because her 6 year old niece had to do this assignment. Her neices parents and brother were all 3 killed in a car accident. Her niece never did the assignment because she didn't want to talk about it. Shes in therapy for it, and if you ask about her parents she'll break down and cry. The teacher gave her a 0 and kept in her for afternoon recess because she wouldn't work on her homework. 

The teacher stated that it was just a fun assignment for valentines day and that we are all taking it to personal. She was very defensive and just refused to do anything about it. The vice principal got involved and the VP ripped up the assignments and threw it all way and said the grade was to be erased from the gradebook and no more assignments like this would ever be assigned. Not even the one about there favorite friend.  The teacher had to apologize and the VP said if we wanted our children switched over to the other classroom with a different teacher we could.  The other lady put her niece in there that second, she didn't even think about it. I asked my son and he said he wanted to go in the other classroom (thats were his friends are, and he likes that teacher)

I'm glad it was worked out. It annoyed the hell out of me and i felt sorry for that girl and her niece :(

But its all good now and i know and love the teacher he has now. 

And she won't give any assignments like that because her personally have 2 foster children, 1 step child and 2 children that arent her current husbands. So she'll understand stuff like that instead of miss perfect house wife.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:08 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:13 PM
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Thats bull shit
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:32 PM

BUMP!

MooBaaLaLaLa80
by Silver Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:35 PM

Stupid. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:35 PM
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C- or a D.
girlywifey
by Silver Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:35 PM

Wow! I would have fought it as well. That is bs

Lorriane
by Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:38 PM
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That assignment is so out of line in todays world. This teacher needs to get a hold of reality and get her nose out of those fairy tales.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:38 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

C- or a D.

Why?

What would you expect him to say? Im not being rude, i want to know what you would expect a 1st grader with no dad in his life, and no male figure in his life, to say when asked about why his dads so great?

tossed
by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:39 PM
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I am a former high school teacher. Her directions were HORRIBLE and totally inappropriate. My sons would have had trouble with this assignment. Kids who have 2 moms would have trouble with this assignment. She may have given other oral instructions, but the written instruction are really bad. She put kids in a position to fail. I hate it when a teacher does that and I do not think you over reacted. She is totally insensitive to modern families and the assignment makes kids who don't have 2 parents in the home feel bad. If she wanted an answer to the question "What is a good parent in your opinion?" she should have asked that question. 

artio.sd
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:39 PM
I agree with you. And how low of his dad to do that to him. And how low of the teacher for not
a) realizing not everyone has a dad and b) not making herself clear about substitute father figures.

I wonder what the teacher would have done with my son's response "my dad died". Since that is how he responds when people ask about his dad
thefiregoddess
by MotherDucker on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:41 PM
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This! I had a high school french teacher make us do something similar in french... for our final.

I was foster child. I refused she give me a d. I took it to the school board they made her change it.

That's ridiculous.



Quoting Lorriane:

That assignment is so out of line in todays world. This teacher needs to get a hold of reality and get her nose out of those fairy tales.

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