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Going anon for this because I am about to offend the hell out of ASD parents

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Do you know that people with non-asd kids don't automatically hate your children?
Do
Do you understand that not every kid with a behavior issue is autistic? So stop trying to diagnose every brat with autism.

Do you know that when we ask questions about your kids it is not to bash you or your kids?

Why can't you fathom that people without ASD kids do try to understand you and don't hate your kids?

Why is it impossible for you to understand that we don't blame you for your child having ASD but if you refuse to discipline them because they are autistic then you will get looks. And its not beccause we hate your kid but because seeing a kid throw a tantrum in Walmart is bizarre to us

And if someone doesn't understand and is trying to understand, calling them ignorant bitches will completely turn them off to you and your child. So when people are looking to learn, teach them.

Why do you strive for equality for your kids by pushing them into regular ed classes but don't care about the NT kids. How are they equal if they get special treatment and take away from the NT kids?

This isn't a bash post. I am just super curious as to why ASD parents think this way
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:03 AM
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LDennany
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:09 AM
:-/ this should be interesting.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:09 AM
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Autism Spectrum disorder

Quoting Judesmom333:

please update me on what ASD is ...
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:10 AM
Their* parenting...here can't edit from my phone.
Susanmomof
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:10 AM
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 Some times they would rather label them instead of accepting their kids are being a brat

Sharbear42371
by Bronze Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:12 AM
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Really?  wow!  I dont know anyone who does that.


Quoting Susanmomof:

 Some times they would rather label them instead of accepting their kids are being a brat



rosaleeandtwo
by Gold Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:12 AM
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Sorry I don't know any ASD parent that assume everyone out there are ignorant morons. In fact a lot of people are beginning to be much more compassionate and caring towards my son than, say, 10 years ago when it was less understood.

And my son isn't mainstreamed. In fact I had to move to change districts to KEEP the from mainstreaming him. Its just not what he needs.

And I have no problem answering questions or giving info as long as its not being asked with the completely idiotic stupid assumption that asd has something to do with lack of discipline. That assumption was cleared up years ago by people that actually study these issues for a living.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:12 AM
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Autistix spectrum disorder one and two wtf. You want an answer how about how even if we try to explain it people still get all huffy. What do you want for us to hang a.sign around their neck that says " please excuse me for having fits im autistic"? How hard it is to disipline them even in public. My dd has to be squeezed to calm her down, to you it looks like im hugging her but im not. Its a pressure thing that allows her to ground herself to her surrounding. Maybe thats why...........
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:12 AM
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Right because I label him and want a 4 yr old who can't talk and who rocks back and fourth while chewing his fingers raw . Yep you caught me . This is the ignorance that pisses me off .

Quoting Susanmomof:

 Some times they would rather label them instead of accepting their kids are being a brat

CuriousArentYa
by Platinum Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:13 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:

Do you know that people with non-asd kids don't automatically hate your children? Yes.
Do
Do you understand that not every kid with a behavior issue is autistic? So stop trying to diagnose every brat with autism. Yes

Do you know that when we ask questions about your kids it is not to bash you or your kids? Yes

Why can't you fathom that people without ASD kids do try to understand you and don't hate your kids? Please don't generalize. I have an open curious mind and can understand other people being the same way. 

Why is it impossible for you to understand that we don't blame you for your child having ASD but if you refuse to discipline them because they are autistic then you will get looks. And its not beccause we hate your kid but because seeing a kid throw a tantrum in Walmart is bizarre to us  I do believe that my husband and I are the reason two of our kids have autism as I feel it is genetics, but that is my personal opinon. Oh and btw my sons are disciplined and treated just like our "normal" kids. 

And if someone doesn't understand and is trying to understand, calling them ignorant bitches will completely turn them off to you and your child. So when people are looking to learn, teach them. I have never called somebody an ignorant bitch. If anything, if somebody shows interest I try to give them the most accurate information I can but sadly nobody really can pinpoint much about autism, because of the variables. 

Why do you strive for equality for your kids by pushing them into regular ed classes but don't care about the NT kids. How are they equal if they get special treatment and take away from the NT kids? My son is in regular classes because he is too high functioning for the Special Ed, it would hold him back. There really isn't an "in between". His grades are modified. Trust me, I have issues that he is in class rooms with teachers who are not equipped to fully handle him if he has a meltdown. But he has a kick ass awesome guidance counselor who has been with him since he entered school and she knows how to handle and help him. 

This isn't a bash post. I am just super curious as to why ASD parents think this way. It sounds like you had a bad run in and I am sorry, but truly not all of us act this way. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:13 AM
No. I am serious. I want to know why every time someone brings up ASD someone else gets called a bitch or ignorant. It could be the simplest if least offensive questions and they always find offense to it.

Quoting afwifeandmommy3:

Really are you kidding
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