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Going anon for this because I am about to offend the hell out of ASD parents

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Do you know that people with non-asd kids don't automatically hate your children?
Do
Do you understand that not every kid with a behavior issue is autistic? So stop trying to diagnose every brat with autism.

Do you know that when we ask questions about your kids it is not to bash you or your kids?

Why can't you fathom that people without ASD kids do try to understand you and don't hate your kids?

Why is it impossible for you to understand that we don't blame you for your child having ASD but if you refuse to discipline them because they are autistic then you will get looks. And its not beccause we hate your kid but because seeing a kid throw a tantrum in Walmart is bizarre to us

And if someone doesn't understand and is trying to understand, calling them ignorant bitches will completely turn them off to you and your child. So when people are looking to learn, teach them.

Why do you strive for equality for your kids by pushing them into regular ed classes but don't care about the NT kids. How are they equal if they get special treatment and take away from the NT kids?

This isn't a bash post. I am just super curious as to why ASD parents think this way
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:03 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:21 AM
That has happened to me a few times. It is one of those things that turned me off against the parents.

Quoting sheramom4:

We were at Kohl's a few weeks ago shopping. DH was smacked into by two kids (around 5 and 7 maybe) who were running around the store. DH is disabled and unsteady on his feet (he was using his walker). He asked both kids where their mother was and was told by the older child she had told them to "go play." They were across the store from her and DH and I escorted them back to their mother. He explained to her what happened, the mother got very indignant, pointed at the younger one and said "He is autistic, so he can do what he wants." DH's jaw dropped to the floor. We don't care if the child was autistic, nor did that change why we brought them back to their mother. Our nephew is on the spectrum and we both a big kid lovers in general. It was because one, it was not safe for two kids of that age to be running free in the store and two, they were running into people and obviously were not mature enough to explore the store without running and causing a problem.


This is the first time we have run into this type of attitude from a parent and it shocked us. Had DH and I been bad people we could have simply walked out of the store with these kids and the mom wouldn't have noticed. They walked back to her with us willingly and seemed to have no clue about not going with strangers when we escorted them back to their mother.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:22 AM
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You should be more open minded and do your own research. 

AdellesMom
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:23 AM
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Well, my son isn't a brat.

He really is Autistic.


Quoting Susanmomof:

 Some times they would rather label them instead of accepting their kids are being a brat

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:23 AM
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You should be more open minded and do your own research. 

baquick
by Ruby Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:24 AM
Sadly enough, there are. I know a girl who would rather have her and her dd labeled with some kind of disorder, disease or other ailment than just admit she's stuck up and a hypochondriac and her dd is just Undisciplined and in need of some stability and control.

Quoting Sharbear42371:

Really?  wow!  I dont know anyone who does that.



Quoting Susanmomof:

 Some times they would rather label them instead of accepting their kids are being a brat




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CuriousArentYa
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:24 AM
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I would almost love to have this happen to me. I live in a bubble world though where I have never experienced half of the stuff that Cafemomers experience lol. 

Quoting Anonymous:

That has happened to me a few times. It is one of those things that turned me off against the parents.

Quoting sheramom4:

We were at Kohl's a few weeks ago shopping. DH was smacked into by two kids (around 5 and 7 maybe) who were running around the store. DH is disabled and unsteady on his feet (he was using his walker). He asked both kids where their mother was and was told by the older child she had told them to "go play." They were across the store from her and DH and I escorted them back to their mother. He explained to her what happened, the mother got very indignant, pointed at the younger one and said "He is autistic, so he can do what he wants." DH's jaw dropped to the floor. We don't care if the child was autistic, nor did that change why we brought them back to their mother. Our nephew is on the spectrum and we both a big kid lovers in general. It was because one, it was not safe for two kids of that age to be running free in the store and two, they were running into people and obviously were not mature enough to explore the store without running and causing a problem.


This is the first time we have run into this type of attitude from a parent and it shocked us. Had DH and I been bad people we could have simply walked out of the store with these kids and the mom wouldn't have noticed. They walked back to her with us willingly and seemed to have no clue about not going with strangers when we escorted them back to their mother.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:26 AM
Yes brat. Kids who are misbehaved, rude and snotty. There are millions of them.

Quoting Anonymous:

Brat? Aren't you a ray of sunshine......

sheramom4
by Ruby Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:26 AM
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Quoting CuriousArentYa:

These stories piss me off. Please don't think that all parents are like this. My boys are very well behaved because they know there are consequences for their actions. 

I am so sorry that happened.

Quoting sheramom4:

We were at Kohl's a few weeks ago shopping. DH was smacked into by two kids (around 5 and 7 maybe) who were running around the store. DH is disabled and unsteady on his feet (he was using his walker). He asked both kids where their mother was and was told by the older child she had told them to "go play." They were across the store from her and DH and I escorted them back to their mother. He explained to her what happened, the mother got very indignant, pointed at the younger one and said "He is autistic, so he can do what he wants." DH's jaw dropped to the floor. We don't care if the child was autistic, nor did that change why we brought them back to their mother. Our nephew is on the spectrum and we both a big kid lovers in general. It was because one, it was not safe for two kids of that age to be running free in the store and two, they were running into people and obviously were not mature enough to explore the store without running and causing a problem.

This is the first time we have run into this type of attitude from a parent and it shocked us. Had DH and I been bad people we could have simply walked out of the store with these kids and the mom wouldn't have noticed. They walked back to her with us willingly and seemed to have no clue about not going with strangers when we escorted them back to their mother.


I am much more open-minded than that. Neither DH or I think that. We just had a bad experience and chalked it up to a parent who was probably overwhelmed and made poor parenting decisions. Like I said, our nephew is on the spectrum and is almost 17 and is DH's buddy.

We don't even blame the kids. They were told to go play and they did so.

 

Schleetle
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:27 AM
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Well I'm not sure who you have been running into, but I'll just state my general feelings. I don't want my child treated differently. I expect him to behave, be respectful, and always try his best. He is capable (and I believe other ASD children are included in this too) of being just plain bratty - he's still just a kid. There is a huge difference between a meltdown caused by ASD, and a regular old fit. I don't excuse bad behavior, and really he's my most well behaved child anyway he almost never gives me trouble. I know that in general he has to work harder to do a lot of the things most kids his age are expected to do, but that just makes him a stronger person. I'm there to help him when he needs it, but I also push him to learn on his own. I don't typically get offended by questions, but the stigma around ASD right now does make me feel shitty if I think about it too much.
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Retrokitty
by Jasmyne on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:27 AM
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I work in middle school where they are getting rid of special ED except for two kids. Kids with autisim do really well in the classes. Most are very sweet.
For autisim sometimes you can't nessisarily dicipline them in a normal way. Sometimes its taking away TV or a sticker etc. and that wouldn't be apparent to other people watching. Reward systems tend to work best in my experience.
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