He bruised me

[Anonymous]

Last night I was with my boyfriend at my friends house. He was behind me rubbing my back. He saw I was texting. (Try to imagine this) He kept hitting my chin to make me look up at him. If I'd look down he'd hit it again so I'd look up.

We left. He was driving and I kept saying sorry and he said "too bad cunt." And "oh well bitch." He was screaming at me and I was scared.

We got home and laid in bed. He turned me over on my stomach and started spanking me. Not play spanking. But the worst pain ever, hard, fast, over and over again. I was screaming and crying and trying to get away. He was holding me down and asking if I would ever learn. I kept saying yes I wouldn't talk to anyone anymore.

I couldn't sleep on my back bc my butt hurt. I tried to sit on the toilet and it hurt. So I looked in my mirror. I have bruises all over my butt and legs. I have some on my arms. I can even see his fingerprints on my butt.

Is spanking domestic violence?

He left today and I packed up and am at my friends house. He hasn't tried calling or anything.

[s.osborne]

Yes we are obviously on two different wavelengths

Quoting purpleducky:

You obviously do not get it since you continue to state those who don't fight back "let it happen".

Quoting s.osborne:

Ok so why can't you realize how I feel that it's unimaginable for me and I don't get that because I didn't let it happen?

Quoting purpleducky:

I am not mad at you for getting away. I am happy you got away. I just wish you would realize some go into shock and can't fight back.

Quoting s.osborne:

So you're allowed to be mad at me for getting away but I'm not allowed to be mad at you for not getting away? Nice.

Quoting purpleducky:

Well good for you for getting away but not everyone goes into flight or fight mode.

Quoting s.osborne:

I have been. Multiple times. And I fought and scratched and bled and escaped. That's why I now own a gun so I won't have to do that ever again should it happen again.

Quoting purpleducky:

Unless you have been there, don't judge. We all think we would behave in a certain way in abusive events. However, until you are in the middle of the event, you have no clue how you will react. Shock is real and happens.

Quoting s.osborne:

I can't understand because I do not tolerate it either so I have zero understanding why someone would let it happen

[AmyL3469]

Do you really have to ask if this is abuse? I mean, do you think it's acceptable for him to call you bitch and cunt? Nevermind the physical abuse. Mental and verbal does way more damage IMO. 

I'm glad you left. That's the best choice you'll ever make.

[humblemommy]

What in the actual fuck. He sounds like a fucking pussy. Any man that hits a woman is a low life piece of shit. Get help and get away from him forever.

[catrig]

Call the police and file a report.  There is no reason for that.