SD doesn't want to be near this "man". He is an alcoholic who drives after drinking with a beer tucked between his legs WHILE he is driving with SD in the car. SD refuses to go to BM's because of him (we have custody - and are in talks with our lawyer, and 12 is the age of decision input state). BM knows why SD won't go there and last night when SD asked if BM was still with him BM lied straight to her and said no. We know it is a lie because he was there, we heard him in the background and when SD asked who the voice was BM admitted it was the boyfriends. So now we can't trust anything she says.
The last conversation DH had with this guy he was screaming at DH (mind you guy has been in the picture for a month to 6 weeks), telling him he had dirt on him, he would have him served, he knows people who know him etc and then said they will be getting SD (that was 3 weeks ago) and nothing came of it. He knows that SD has been telling us stuff about him and we are afraid of what will happen of SD goes over there and he is there. We don't have a problem with BM seeing SD as long as this man isn't around- hence the restraining order. Any ideas?