I have a friend who has been involved with a guy for about six months. She is a single mom of 3, ages 9,8, and 6. She moved this dude in almost immediately because he was homeless and is a general scumbag who lives off ssi and food stamps even though he's perfectly capable of working.
All that aside, I don't get involved in who she chooses as a mate, but lately some of his behavior towards her kids disturbs me and is downright awful.
Every time I stop over to visit, I can 99% of the time hear his mouth from down the street before I even get in the house. He is constantly screaming and yelling at them about every little thing, and every sentence is literally littered with f-bombs... He threatens to 'whoop their ass' every five minutes and says things like 'if I was your father I'd be throwing your ass through a wall!' And similarly disgusting statements all.day.long.
He's a daily alcoholic and is drunk EVERY time I go over there, without fail. I have never witnessed him putting his hands on the kids but I wouldn't put it past them, he hits my friend all he time.
He also plays rough with the dog and what used to be a wonderful family pet is now a vicious biting machine because he said the dog was a pussy and needed to toughen up. He has now bitten 2 out of the 3 kids.
It's gotten to the point where I avoid visiting them because his antics are so aggravating that I can't stand it. I hate this man with every inch of my humanity for the way he acts in this house. He's a toxic personality and has brought nothing but misery to my friend and her children.. And it's getting progressively worse. The kids positively hate him and avoid him at all costs by holing themselves up in their rooms all day.
I have tried to talk to my friend but I feel it's none of my business and not my place totry to cajole her into leaving him...
I am concerned about the children, however. Their grades have plummeted this spring and they are exhibiting behavioral problems at school that they never had before.
I hate to bring the wrath on her house, but should I call CPS? Or stay out of it?
I'm really not trying to overstep my boundaries here and stay out of it, but I really feel these kids quality of life is going down and I love them like my own.
ETA: I am here now posting mobile... I came to visit for the Superbowl and its the middle child's birthday as well... I was convinced hed be trashed but he's surprisingly tame tonight.
However, the youngest has a new dog bite on her arm and they are keeping her home from school tomorrow because they fear the school calling CPS and Animal Control on the dog. I'm absolutely livid. I've had enough. Cps WILL be hearing from me... This cannot continue.
Thanks again for all your input.