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Do the math. ETA:

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

Your weight divided by your child's weight. This is how many times your child's size you are.

Example: 130 lbs / 25 lbs = 5.2 times the size of your child.

Keep that number in mind every time to hit your little kid.


I'm not trying to bash anyone, I'm just asking you to think about it. How frightened would you be as an adult if someone 3 to 6 times your size were coming at you to hit you? Even if it was just with an open hand (and of course not during whoopie time) wouldn't you be scared? Wouldn't you feel traumatized if someone that much bigger than you was "spanking" you to "teach" you to behave the way they expect and there was nothing you could do to defend yourself, no way for you to leave the situation?

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 3, 2013 at 4:35 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:36 PM

lol lol We all have those days. I just wanted parents that spank/hit their little kids to really think about it... would they want someone 3 to 5 times their size hitting them to "teach them a lesson"? 


Quoting pce68:

My child is the almost the same weight as me and taller than me so does that mean it's okay to hit her, bc there are some days I'd like to start.



LilliesValley
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:39 PM
So I should like recite that as I'm hitting my kid? I'm 3.25 sizes bigger than you, slap, 3.25, I say, slap. Calm down for Christ's sake. We get it you don't spank your kid. You don't like that some of us do. Get over it!
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DolphinFan85
by Bronze Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:41 PM

 hmm...im 313lbs

13.6 times bigger than my youngest (23lbs)

9.4 times bigger than my oldest (33lbs)

Mamasgirl524
by Platinum Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:54 PM
Lol lol lol

Quoting bi-polarmommy:

 my weight is 145


my childs weight is 155

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Gardeningmom4
by Ruby Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:57 PM

eye rolling

Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:57 PM

I would assume most do consider that before spanking their child. Thus why it's supposed to be done while calm and as a punishment that comes after talking about what the child did wrong. It's not supposed to be done out of anger, with objects, or with enough force to leave marks. There is a difference between "striking" a child and a spanking. I was beaten as a child and also was given the occasional spanking. I would most certainly take the spankings after I misbehaved than the beatings, even as a child I knew the difference.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:01 PM

You wouldn't, however, tolerate it as an adult... say your husband sat you down and explained to you why he wants you to behave a certain way, then he calmly bends you over his lap and spanks you. Are you going to stay with him after that? What about the 5th or 10th time?

You wouldn't put up with it because you're an adult and you have the right to not be spanked... why should kids not have this right? I saw a woman in Target this morning grab her child by the arm, pull him to her and pop him 3 times on his thigh and the look of terror on his face when she reached for him was heartbreaking. 


Quoting Anonymous:

I would assume most do consider that before spanking their child. Thus why it's supposed to be done while calm and as a punishment that comes after talking about what the child did wrong. It's not supposed to be done out of anger, with objects, or with enough force to leave marks. There is a difference between "striking" a child and a spanking. I was beaten as a child and also was given the occasional spanking. I would most certainly take the spankings after I misbehaved than the beatings, even as a child I knew the difference.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:03 PM
115lbs - me

32lbs - son

3.6 x's bigger.

I don't spank my children :) Abusing your kids is just a pathetic way of parenting, & and an anger release even though all the parents pretend its not.

I'm not going to hit my kid and listen to them cry and look straight at me knowing I caused that pain.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:04 PM

Did my husband create me? Is he my parent, legally responsible for me for 18 years? No, he is not. When your child misbehaves, do you not discipline him or her? Does your husband put you in time out, ground you, take things away from you until you can earn them back? Why is this not common sense?

And the woman in Target gives parents who spank a bad name, that is NOT how it is supposed to be done. It would be equal to one parent giving a time-out for the proper amount of time and another keeping their child on a chair for hours. One is doing it wrong.


Quoting Anonymous:

You wouldn't, however, tolerate it as an adult... say your husband sat you down and explained to you why he wants you to behave a certain way, then he calmly bends you over his lap and spanks you. Are you going to stay with him after that? What about the 5th or 10th time?

You wouldn't put up with it because you're an adult and you have the right to not be spanked... why should kids not have this right? I saw a woman in Target this morning grab her child by the arm, pull him to her and pop him 3 times on his thigh and the look of terror on his face when she reached for him was heartbreaking. 


Quoting Anonymous:

I would assume most do consider that before spanking their child. Thus why it's supposed to be done while calm and as a punishment that comes after talking about what the child did wrong. It's not supposed to be done out of anger, with objects, or with enough force to leave marks. There is a difference between "striking" a child and a spanking. I was beaten as a child and also was given the occasional spanking. I would most certainly take the spankings after I misbehaved than the beatings, even as a child I knew the difference.





Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:06 PM

I sit with my child until she is calm, no matter how long that takes and then we talk about what she did and why she isn't supposed to do that. I give positive reinforcement when she does the right thing. It works for her because that's how we've always done it. I would never hit her. 

Yes, I created her. Yes I am her parent. Yes I am responsible for her. But, I don't "own" her body and it is not mine to do with as I please; it's her body, it belongs to her.

as an adult, would you tolerate your parent spanking you? They created you, they are your parents.


Quoting Anonymous:

Did my husband create me? Is he my parent, legally responsible for me for 18 years? No, he is not. When your child misbehaves, do you not discipline him or her? Does your husband put you in time out, ground you, take things away from you until you can earn them back? Why is this not common sense?


Quoting Anonymous:

You wouldn't, however, tolerate it as an adult... say your husband sat you down and explained to you why he wants you to behave a certain way, then he calmly bends you over his lap and spanks you. Are you going to stay with him after that? What about the 5th or 10th time?

You wouldn't put up with it because you're an adult and you have the right to not be spanked... why should kids not have this right? I saw a woman in Target this morning grab her child by the arm, pull him to her and pop him 3 times on his thigh and the look of terror on his face when she reached for him was heartbreaking. 


Quoting Anonymous:

I would assume most do consider that before spanking their child. Thus why it's supposed to be done while calm and as a punishment that comes after talking about what the child did wrong. It's not supposed to be done out of anger, with objects, or with enough force to leave marks. There is a difference between "striking" a child and a spanking. I was beaten as a child and also was given the occasional spanking. I would most certainly take the spankings after I misbehaved than the beatings, even as a child I knew the difference.







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