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I demoted my sister from MOH to bridesmaid UPDATE UPDATE 2

Posted by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:43 PM
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Why? Because my wedding is 3 months away and she hasn't done anything. I'm really not being petty. I have to remind her to do everything, she didn't invite any of my SO's family to my wedding shower, the people she did invite she put their name in the "for" instead of mine, his family thinks I forgot about them now or I'm stupid and can't fill out an invite, every one offered to help her (me and my bridesmaids) she asked her friends to help her instead, she "forgot" to tell the bridesmaids about dress orders now they won't get their dresses until about a month before they wedding.







There is A LOT more but that was just the last 2 weeks.



She told my mom she did a bunch of stuff she didn't do (I have evidence) and my mom called me all sorts of names. So whatever anyone wants to bash me about my own mother has already.







Then my mom (after believing all of my sister's lies) asked MY SO who's side he was on and then talked shit about me to him.







Vent over. Bash away. I do feel bad about replacing her but I honestly believe she wasn't ready for this. My SO (and everyone else) told me to replace her months ago but she is my sister, I defended her for so long but I do not have time to fix everything she messed up or will mess up.





UPDATE: I have questions to answer. My sister offered to do the dress orders. I insisted that I did them but my sister cried to my mom and my mom texted me calling me a controlling bride-zilla. So I backed off. A lot of things I backed off from, it was slowly turning into my sister and mom's wedding. When I would step in, I was called names and my sister would cry.





New MOH is my SO's cousin and my friend of 10 years. We met at her wedding. She is who I wanted in the first place but again my mom was mean and my sister cried.





Those of you who do not agree with me, I still respect your opinion and thank you for taking the time to read my post.





Those of you who are being supportive, thank you. It does mean a lot to me even if I can't thank you all personally.







UPDATE 2: as the goes on I'm starting to find out more and more. My sister is ignoring me and SO asked if he could talk to her, my sister said "as long as it's not about what I did or didn't do" why is she avoiding the questions? Because this is what she has all our lives when she lies.



I'm even more mad she lied to me than anything else if she had done nothing and not lied about it she would still be MOH.



She wrote the new MOH a long letter and it's true she didn't do anything. She said "I just gave the invites to the main people and hoped word of mouth spread". Also, she was going hand out bachelorette party invites at the wedding shower. New MOH said a lot of her "ideas" were half baked and there is no way she could have pulled it off.
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Pooobaihr
by Platinum Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:45 PM
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Welp, thats what happens when you don't take your job serisouly. You get demoted. :D

ilovemykids323
by Platinum Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 6:47 PM
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 yeah i would have replaced her too. It's your wedding and she is just causing more stress and frustration which is not the MOHs job. no bashing here

elliem87
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 9:37 PM
Thank you ladies. I'm just amazed at my family right now.
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kitchen.ninja
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 9:41 PM
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Can you have a friend help her rather than demote her?
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LovelyMommy24
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 9:44 PM
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Wow! I'm pretty sure I might have kicked her ass by now... Just joking! :D But really, that's ridiculous! 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 3, 2013 at 9:44 PM
Well I would have just told her that you would rather have her to be fun with and get opinions but she was too busy maid of honoring.
Kaybean
by Ruby Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 9:47 PM
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My sister was my MOH and if she wasn't getting stuff done, I would have had others help to make sure it got done and shared my feelings with her. I would not have ever replaced her though. To me, being the MOH isn't just about getting stuff done. It's about that person being very important to you. No one in this world would have been able to replace my sister and I wouldn't dream of having anyone else have that special place.
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elliem87
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 9:48 PM
No, they have tried to help her and she said nothing needs to be done. Then she says no one is helping her when they have shown me texts and emails stating otherwise


Quoting kitchen.ninja:

Can you have a friend help her rather than demote her?

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elliem87
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 9:49 PM
I'm sorry, I do not understand what you are trying to say here :)


Quoting Anonymous:

Well I would have just told her that you would rather have her to be fun with and get opinions but she was too busy maid of honoring.

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by Anonymous on Feb. 3, 2013 at 9:51 PM
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hey, do what ya gotta do! you get the title moh for a reason and it comes with responsibilities. if she couldnt handle them or didnt/doesn't feel like doing anything than she should have just told you. she has no reason to be upset and if she is, too damn bad. it's your wedding, your day...don't worry about it. focus on whats important!

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