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I demoted my sister from MOH to bridesmaid UPDATE UPDATE 2

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Why? Because my wedding is 3 months away and she hasn't done anything. I'm really not being petty. I have to remind her to do everything, she didn't invite any of my SO's family to my wedding shower, the people she did invite she put their name in the "for" instead of mine, his family thinks I forgot about them now or I'm stupid and can't fill out an invite, every one offered to help her (me and my bridesmaids) she asked her friends to help her instead, she "forgot" to tell the bridesmaids about dress orders now they won't get their dresses until about a month before they wedding.







There is A LOT more but that was just the last 2 weeks.



She told my mom she did a bunch of stuff she didn't do (I have evidence) and my mom called me all sorts of names. So whatever anyone wants to bash me about my own mother has already.







Then my mom (after believing all of my sister's lies) asked MY SO who's side he was on and then talked shit about me to him.







Vent over. Bash away. I do feel bad about replacing her but I honestly believe she wasn't ready for this. My SO (and everyone else) told me to replace her months ago but she is my sister, I defended her for so long but I do not have time to fix everything she messed up or will mess up.





UPDATE: I have questions to answer. My sister offered to do the dress orders. I insisted that I did them but my sister cried to my mom and my mom texted me calling me a controlling bride-zilla. So I backed off. A lot of things I backed off from, it was slowly turning into my sister and mom's wedding. When I would step in, I was called names and my sister would cry.





New MOH is my SO's cousin and my friend of 10 years. We met at her wedding. She is who I wanted in the first place but again my mom was mean and my sister cried.





Those of you who do not agree with me, I still respect your opinion and thank you for taking the time to read my post.





Those of you who are being supportive, thank you. It does mean a lot to me even if I can't thank you all personally.







UPDATE 2: as the goes on I'm starting to find out more and more. My sister is ignoring me and SO asked if he could talk to her, my sister said "as long as it's not about what I did or didn't do" why is she avoiding the questions? Because this is what she has all our lives when she lies.



I'm even more mad she lied to me than anything else if she had done nothing and not lied about it she would still be MOH.



She wrote the new MOH a long letter and it's true she didn't do anything. She said "I just gave the invites to the main people and hoped word of mouth spread". Also, she was going hand out bachelorette party invites at the wedding shower. New MOH said a lot of her "ideas" were half baked and there is no way she could have pulled it off.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 20 on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:03 PM
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When DH and I got married 12 years ago we did everything ourselves,I'm not staking something that important on other people. My MOH had one duty,pick out whatever dress she wanted in a certain color,DD and niece wore identical bridal gowns and headpieces to mine except they didn't have trains. DH,DS and my brother who was his best man wore the exact same tuxes,hats,cuff links,everything. Your sister and mother sound like selfish jerks and if they want to screw up someone's wedding tell them it won't be yours. 

elliem87
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:07 PM
I did not expect my sister to do anything. She offered and I took her up on it. Yes I did a lot for my wedding but a promise is a promise and she didn't follow through on what she offered to do.


Quoting Raeann11:

I didn't expect my Maid of honor to do a thing. It was my wedding and my responsibility. Yes she did offer to help and yes she was only 16 years old. But really I was happy to have her as my maid of honor and be there for us.


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 21 on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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I didn't even invite my sister to my wedding, lol

Miller0305
by Platinum Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:10 PM
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I'd kick her out totally and tell your mom to stop treating you like shit or she's not invited either.  I don't put with with people treating me like that, even if they are family.

tifbrown
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:12 PM
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Good for you! My sil was my moh and she sucked. My mil threw my shower, the best man and his wife through the stag / stagette party, which my sil didn't even attend, she didn't show up for the rehersal. And, she later told me that she took $100 out of our gift so that her and her bf could get a hotel room because they had done E at the reception and couldn't drive home. Aside from making a nice speech at the wedding she was useless. 

elliem87
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:16 PM
Oh wow. I would have killed them.


Quoting tifbrown:

Good for you! My sil was my moh and she sucked. My mil threw my shower, the best man and his wife through the stag / stagette party, which my sil didn't even attend, she didn't show up for the rehersal. And, she later told me that she took $100 out of our gift so that her and her bf could get a hotel room because they had done E at the reception and couldn't drive home. Aside from making a nice speech at the wedding she was useless. 


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by Anonymous 22 on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:18 PM

I have only brothers, so it might not really go the same way with sisters...I would have just told them to shut the fuck up!

Its your wedding..not theirs, and shes NOT doing her job. You had every right to demote her. You shouldn't feel bad at all.

elliem87
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:20 PM
No sisters cry haha


Quoting Anonymous:

I have only brothers, so it might not really go the same way with sisters...I would have just told them to shut the fuck up!


Its your wedding..not theirs, and shes NOT doing her job. You had every right to demote her. You shouldn't feel bad at all.


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tifbrown
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:21 PM
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Ya I was pretty choked. I forgot to add she didn't attend my shower that her mom through. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding, and I made sure to go above and beyond. It is what it is. I've since let it all go.

Quoting elliem87:

Oh wow. I would have killed them.


Quoting tifbrown:

Good for you! My sil was my moh and she sucked. My mil threw my shower, the best man and his wife through the stag / stagette party, which my sil didn't even attend, she didn't show up for the rehersal. And, she later told me that she took $100 out of our gift so that her and her bf could get a hotel room because they had done E at the reception and couldn't drive home. Aside from making a nice speech at the wedding she was useless. 



Anonymous
by Anonymous 22 on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:24 PM

 Yeah, my brothers would have just laughed because they think its funny when I get mad. But then again, they wouldn't get into my wedding business either so..I'm actually really glad I don't have sisters. Just SIL's, who are all great, but I'm glad I didn't grow up with them, lol.


Quoting elliem87:

No sisters cry haha


Quoting Anonymous:

I have only brothers, so it might not really go the same way with sisters...I would have just told them to shut the fuck up!


Its your wedding..not theirs, and shes NOT doing her job. You had every right to demote her. You shouldn't feel bad at all.



 

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