She has 3 kids. 2 teen boys, and 1 9yo girl.
Their house is disgusting. It has damn near literal biohazards. There is poo from their chihuahua that died last year, boogers on the walls, NO food in the house, ever... I cant even list everything wrong in their place. You cant walk through the house without tripping, there are condoms & wrappers from her 17yr old boy scattered all over the boy's rooms, the bathroom, and the livingroom.
They eat at their friends houses, school, our house, everywhere but home.
My sister has a bf, that buys her food, and clothes. She works 2 part time jobs, but is home every night.
I had no idea it was so bad over there :( she called me a couple months ago, because one of her dds friends came over, and told her mom how dirty it was. The friends mom reported it. So my sister called me to help clean up. It was the first time I had been in her home for a few years. They gave her 30 days to clean up.
I did 99% of the work. Her, her teens, and even dd wouldnt get off their lazy asses to help me. Cps checked, and okayed it, but said they would be back to continue folow-ups.
Well, I went back 2 weeks later, and it was just as bad!! I made her boys clean the livingroom & kitchen. Left a note with instructions to finish the rest of the house. She never did it, and never made the kids.
I came back this week, to work in her room, and bathroom... I almost vomited. There were used tampons under the bed, a bag of trash in the bathroom that was FULL of poop covered napkins & paper towels. Aparently they broke their toilet weeks ago... so they couldnt flush tp. Then they ran out of tp.
The list goes on and on.
I cant stand it. I get so tempted to let them take her kids, but I'm the only family they have, so the kids would end up at my house :( idk how to handle it anymore.
I have no problem taking the kids in. None at all. My problem was, if they knew I called, they would be living with me AND hating me for calling, therefor making it hard for me to help them turn their lives around, since they wouldnt give a shit what I said anymore.
I have since been informed in comments, that I can call anonymously, or even call police. I did not know either of those things, and it definately gives me a new outlet to consider.
I talked to my sister this morning. I told her that me doing all this work, and he doing nothing had to stop. I talked to her and asked how long its been this way, and why.
Long story short:
She had a misscarriage 6 months ago. Nobody knew she was pregnant. She was 4-5 MONTHS along. She was hospitalized when she had told everyone she was working that evening. She almost bled out and died!! Her house had (supposedly) been clean up until that point. (I say supposedly because of the dog poo) but I guess because of missing a lot of work, she lost her weekend job. We didnt know she couldnt afford food. She applied for PA, but was denied because she made 50$ a month too much. She was too ashamed to ask us for help.
It made her depressed.
She has agreed that if I will continue to help, that her & the kids will do all the work. She said she needs my direction to know where to start, and help motivate her kids. She begged me to let her prove that they can change.
I agreed that I will give her 2 weeks to prove it. I will go there every wednesday & saturday, to check progress and give them chore lists. I also volunteered to buy them some food when I go shopping every week, as long as she either looks for another job, or starts getting more hours at the job she has left. She said I can also come in and check randomly if I want, and gave me a spare key to their back door.
It is more in depth than I can really get into right this minute, but I think there IS hope! And that makes me happy.
I am resigned though, to calling CPS if they dont get up and do their jobs. 2 weeks is a time period I feel willing to wait out.