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Am I wrong?? I feel lied to UPDATED

Anonymous
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Update: when he came home, without my asking, he showed me the receipts from the bank. He said it took 5 mins @ the bank, he had to take money out and put into his bro's account as per lawyers request so he could show he has money, that's another matter that I do know about. He then returned the money back to our account all in a few mins. He asked why I'm suspicious. I said one day I feel like you will up and do something to cause a situation where our family will break up. I've been a Sahm for nearly 11 years. He earns well. My teaching job will get me 35 K to raise our kids. I don't know if I can count on him through the years because of these little things he does. He said he bought this big house for us, the cars, my staying home is for me and the kids. That we will grow old together. He said money isn't everything, and it shouldn't be the only thing to keep me feeling secure.

My dh went out this morning to drop his bro off to work. It only takes about 30 mins altogether, so when it was getting to be an hour I texted dh saying I will head out for errands since you're still not home. No reply from him.

i know he is also taking the same bro to the lawyer to sort out some things for the guy. I always suspect he is paying for the lawyer fees, but it is taboo in our home to bring it up. Apparently I am lucky to be  a Sahm, I'm taken care of and o are the kids.

when I left to do my errands, I had a nagging feeling he would be at the bank. No big deal, but I followed my gut and there is our car at the bank. I text him saying what's holding him up. He says he went to the sports store as the kids needed something etc. I said, ok I thought you were at the bank till a few mins ago.

he replies no.

I said, I saw the car there. He says I saw you drive off too, why are you spying on me? I don't know either. I knew he probably was taking money out to pay the lawyer. The same month, where he said he didn't have enough to give me my usual monthly spending money.

im hurt, I told him if I lied how would you feel? I'm your wife you should include me on what's going on. I unloaded a lot of feelings. Etc etc. we ended up in a huge fight. 


Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 4, 2013 at 11:49 AM
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brittney28
by Brittney on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:40 PM
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I'd be pissed and hurt too.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:42 PM

Bump

silverdawn99
by Ruby Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:43 PM
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Lol i see a lot of things wrong
You should feel lucky? That alone would make me get a jon
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:44 PM

:(

Quoting silverdawn99:

Lol i see a lot of things wrong
You should feel lucky? That alone would make me get a jon


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:44 PM

Bump

Mayra99
by Bronze Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:49 PM
He lied, you have every reason to be suspicious.
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smushy79
by Gold Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:50 PM

 Money decisions are a joint thing in our house so that right there would piss me off. As far as lying, that is a huge no no with me too.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:50 PM

He said to that, he just wanted to see what I was going to say?? How does that make sense.

Quoting Mayra99:

He lied, you have every reason to be suspicious.


catrig
by Platinum Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:51 PM
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This looks like the least of your problems.
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Mayra99
by Bronze Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 12:53 PM
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It doesn't. He did something wrong & he's turning it around on you to make you feel guilty & take the pressure off of himself.


Quoting Anonymous:

He said to that, he just wanted to see what I was going to say?? How does that make sense.

Quoting Mayra99:

He lied, you have every reason to be suspicious.



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