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Am I wrong?? I feel lied to UPDATED

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Update: when he came home, without my asking, he showed me the receipts from the bank. He said it took 5 mins @ the bank, he had to take money out and put into his bro's account as per lawyers request so he could show he has money, that's another matter that I do know about. He then returned the money back to our account all in a few mins. He asked why I'm suspicious. I said one day I feel like you will up and do something to cause a situation where our family will break up. I've been a Sahm for nearly 11 years. He earns well. My teaching job will get me 35 K to raise our kids. I don't know if I can count on him through the years because of these little things he does. He said he bought this big house for us, the cars, my staying home is for me and the kids. That we will grow old together. He said money isn't everything, and it shouldn't be the only thing to keep me feeling secure.

My dh went out this morning to drop his bro off to work. It only takes about 30 mins altogether, so when it was getting to be an hour I texted dh saying I will head out for errands since you're still not home. No reply from him.

i know he is also taking the same bro to the lawyer to sort out some things for the guy. I always suspect he is paying for the lawyer fees, but it is taboo in our home to bring it up. Apparently I am lucky to be  a Sahm, I'm taken care of and o are the kids.

when I left to do my errands, I had a nagging feeling he would be at the bank. No big deal, but I followed my gut and there is our car at the bank. I text him saying what's holding him up. He says he went to the sports store as the kids needed something etc. I said, ok I thought you were at the bank till a few mins ago.

he replies no.

I said, I saw the car there. He says I saw you drive off too, why are you spying on me? I don't know either. I knew he probably was taking money out to pay the lawyer. The same month, where he said he didn't have enough to give me my usual monthly spending money.

im hurt, I told him if I lied how would you feel? I'm your wife you should include me on what's going on. I unloaded a lot of feelings. Etc etc. we ended up in a huge fight. 


Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 4, 2013 at 11:49 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:48 PM
Quoting ChanellesMommy:

Your lucky your a sahm? Really? This is honestly the reason why I chose to work and not be a sahm I would be pissed if my so threw that in my face because staying home with the kids cooking and cleaning is a job to bad he doesn't appreciate that, and yes I would be mad to if he lied to me especially about something petty like that's just my opinion.



Yeah. Seriously I would go back to work in a minute if dh talked that way to me. He knows be is damn lucky I'm doing the best for our kids.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:48 PM
I think if you're a sahm then you have little say in how money is spent as long as you're taken care of. He shouldn't need your permission on how to spend money he earned.


Quoting Anonymous:

My dh went out this morning to drop his bro off to work. It only takes about 30 mins altogether, so when it was getting to be an hour I texted dh saying I will head out for errands since you're still not home. No reply from him.

i know he is also taking the same bro to the lawyer to sort out some things for the guy. I always suspect he is paying for the lawyer fees, but it is taboo in our home to bring it up. Apparently I am lucky to be  a Sahm, I'm taken care of and o are the kids.

when I left to do my errands, I had a nagging feeling he would be at the bank. No big deal, but I followed my gut and there is our car at the bank. I text him saying what's holding him up. He says he went to the sports store as the kids needed something etc. I said, ok I thought you were at the bank till a few mins ago.

he replies no.

I said, I saw the car there. He says I saw you drive off too, why are you spying on me? I don't know either. I knew he probably was taking money out to pay the lawyer. The same month, where he said he didn't have enough to give me my usual monthly spending money.

im hurt, I told him if I lied how would you feel? I'm your wife you should include me on what's going on. I unloaded a lot of feelings. Etc etc. we ended up in a huge fight. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 4, 2013 at 1:50 PM
You were fishing for his response when bringing it up. Same darn thing. You wanted to know what he was going to say.


Quoting Anonymous:

He said to that, he just wanted to see what I was going to say?? How does that make sense.

Quoting Mayra99:

He lied, you have every reason to be suspicious.



ElizabethGracie
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 2:33 PM

I just can't get over the 'giving me my usual monthly spending money'.

I don't know,my marriage is different.We both work,but our accounts our combined.We don't discuss purchases with each other unless it's something major... giving money to pay for someone else's lawyer...yeah,that would definitely be something that needed to be discussed.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:47 PM

Yeah may be that way. Feels like it sometimes.

Quoting Abby.N.Amys.Mom:

Umm.. I couldn't live like that.  He seems to like the fact that you depend on him so much.  Like he feeds off it.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:49 PM

I've always taken 400 to 500 a month for my personal things. This is just money I try to save part of and spend on me and kids the rest.

Quoting ElizabethGracie:

I just can't get over the 'giving me my usual monthly spending money'.

I don't know,my marriage is different.We both work,but our accounts our combined.We don't discuss purchases with each other unless it's something major... giving money to pay for someone else's lawyer...yeah,that would definitely be something that needed to be discussed.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:11 PM

Bump

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:13 PM

Bump

armstrong7984
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:13 PM
Wow that's all sorts of f&$@ked up
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:17 PM

:(

Quoting armstrong7984:

Wow that's all sorts of f&$@ked up


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