Moms of kids with autism or anyone who can give some advice
Here is the story
Last Thursday a child in 4th grade who's autistic was standing on the bus. My 3rd grade son touched his bag and reminded said child to sit down. ( my son was trying to keep him from getting a blue slip) the kid turned around grabbed my child by the neck of the shirt and put his fist in my child's face and threatened to beat him up.
I reported it to the school. The other family is pissed that he got detention ( normally it would be auto suspension)
They are also pissed at me because I said at his age he should know right from wrong as far as physical violence. They used his autism as an excuse for all of his behavior including racial slurs.... And also excused that language because he said the N word with an ah instead of an ER and lauged and said its different and doesn't mean the same thing. Then accused my son of threatening her child by putting his hand on the kids backpack...
Also told me her son has the mind set of a 6-7yr old, I have a 6 and 7 yr old and they still know better. Then she went further and blamed it on his ADHD , I have a child with ADHD and would never excuse his behavior based on his diagnosis he is still taught right from wrong.
That's the short version of the story
So my question is
Do your children know right from wrong at a 4th grade age so 9-10?
If your child threatened another child or caused bodily harm would you blame it on their diagnosis or make your child take responsibility for his actions?
I am trying to figure out if I am handling the situation correctly. She's been blowin up my fb all weekend long. And my cell phone