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Is it time to kick my mom out?

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So my mom moved in with us almost a year ago. she lost her place and didnt have anywhere to go. It was suppose to be a short term thing. 10months later she is still here. We did not charge her or ask her to pitch in for the first 6 months. she did not have a job. but would get money from other people so she could buy herself smokes and alcohol. then she got a job for about 2 months and was paying a third. She was fired 4 months ago and hasn't givin us 5 bucks sense. I dont work but my dh does and he doesn't make much. we have 2 kids and one on the way and live in a 2 bedroom apt. not only is there not room but we are not financially able to help her anymore. My dh wants to kick her out like 6 months ago. i keep telling her she has to figure something out soon but nothing has happened. me and my dh fight all the time about her. i dont have the heart to kick her out but my dh says she has to figure things out for herself and stop free loading off of us. if u need more detailes about her just ask. i didnt want to make this super long cuz i could go on and on about her.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 4, 2013 at 2:55 PM
Replies (11-13):
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:31 PM
If you have to ask whether or not it's time to kick your mother out, then yes, it is time to kick her out.
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:34 PM
Why didn't she leave when she got hired on at her job?
I'm so sorry :-/
I'm actually in the almost exact same situation as you, and I'm pregnant too. I don't know what to do or how to handle my live in mother, either. If you ever want to talk/vent...go ahead and message me.
Are you renting your apartment? Does the management know she's there?
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by Gold Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:34 PM

sorry to hear that. I understand its not an easy situation but you have to be on you husbands site. Talk to you husband then and both of you come up with a solution to this problem. Maybe he can tell her instead of you? And its non of her business what you or your husband spent money on. Shes a guest in your house and should show respect. If shes so negative you really dont need her around you. Good Luck

Quoting Anonymous:

Im a only child and she was put up for adoption, she knows her sisters now but not very close so its not like she can ask for a place to stay. even though they seem to be in a way better situation to be helping someone out then me. she has always made her problems my problems. and i have a big heart but she is very unpleasant and gripes about everything. she has become one of the negative people that has nothing nice to say about anyone or anything for that matter. To be honest im afraid to tell her she has to leave by a certain time cuz she makes me feel so guilty  and some how twist what my dh spends his money on. its literally impossible to tell her anything cuz she only seems to see things her way. 

Quoting LittleBirdFly:

thats a bad situations. You in between because it's your mom and you probably dont wanna hurt her but you also dont wanna fight with you husband! And in this situations I say you and your family comes first. You have 3 kids and there's no space for her. I can also see how that can get pretty annoying. And if she get money for smokes and alcohol but nothing to help you guys out - she would have been gone a long time ago, if it was me. Can no other family member take her in? Or a friend of hers? I guess its hard because I am sure no one really would want to deal with this issue. You need to talk to her and not just say soon, give her a date.

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