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ETA Thank you! --My brother & sil POISONED me! Long but please read.

Anonymous
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Yeah the title sounds dramatic but they really did!

To make sure this all makes sense, I'll just tell you now that I have a severe sensitivity to wheat (not gluten, the actual protein in wheat itself) and I am VERY careful about what I eat. If we're going to a party, I always make sure to either eat before we leave or take something with me, just in case.

When I say severe, I mean full-body hives so bad that they bleed, itching, pain and swelling of joints and abdomen, and my eyes will go bloodshot. It something that takes days to go away, and no, nothing like benadryl or allergy meds work. i really can't take steroids, so I have to let a reaction run it course. It's miserable and doesn't happen often because like I said I am rigid with my diet.

Yesterday we went to my brother's house for Superbowl. My brother and I don't really get along, but my sil and I have always been pretty decent to eachother. We're not close, but we're okay. Anyway we went because my entire family and a bunch of family friends were there too.

I tooks some food I can eat and put it in his mini fridge with his beer. He immediately started his usual rant about how I'm a sissy, I'm really not allergic, I do it for attention, I have an elitest attitude toward food, etc. He was pretty cruel, so I walked into the kitchen to help my mom and sil, and that was kind of it. Until

A couple of hours later, sil called me into the kitchen and wanted me to try a dip she made. she swore on her life it was wheat-free, that she made it especially for me, and even pulled out a sleeve of rice crackers to go with it. at this point my brother was in the kitchen too along with several other family members.

I took a big bite of the dip, touched that my sil went out of her way for me, and immediately my brother and sil started cackling loudly. They were laughing so hard, I was chewing and confused, and all of a sudden I felt an attack coming on. My brother yelled SEE I TOLD YOU SHE JUST WANTS ATTENTION SHE'S NOT ALLERGIC TO SHIT! He and sil continued to laugh and said they'd put a few spoonfuls of whole wheat flour into the dip.

And then I broke out in the worst case of hives I have ever had. They were even inside my ears, my mouth, I could have taken a fork to scratch my eyeballs out. They broke out all over my body. My husband was going to kill my brother, but my parents got him and the kids loaded up into the truck and off we went.

I guess after we left the shit went down. Friends left angry at my brother and sil and my family tore them to pieces. I had to call off of work and I'll have to miss several days until I clear up (my appearance counts in my job).

I got a phone call from my sil a little while ago, let it go to voicemail, she said she was sorry but it was my own fault, i should've known it was a joke since they've never gone out of their way for me before.

My issue is, it's my son's birthday next weekend, and I don't know if I want them in my house. I'm sad that this has caused a rift, but I'm still pissed as is my husband & my parents, and I don't think I'll be over it that fast.

Am I justified in telling them they're uninvited to my home?

2-5-13

I just want to thank all of you for your kind words and support! Even though we are complete strangers, it does mean a lot because my heart is broken.

No, I won't press charges against or sue my brother. Yes, he probably deserves for me to do so, but I wouldn't do that to my parents and the rest of my family, kwim? But especially my parents.

I haven't heard anything else from my sil or my brother and I doubt I will. I'm guessing they either feel really guilty or they don't. Either way, I'm guessing they lost of few friends on Sunday and pissed of several family members indefinitely, since so many people were witness to what happened.

I wasn't really worried about my brother & sil when I asked about uninviting them, but my niece and nephew. Even though we're not close, our kids love eachother. I'd hate for their relationship to be affected because of this, but I know the reality is that it probably will. :( My mom said she'd see if maybe brother and sil will let her bring the kids with her, but they probably won't. They'll punish the whole family by withholding their kids. They've done it before, to my parents, over really really petty stuff.

I still look and feel like shit. I haven't had an attack in a very long time because, like I said, I am extremely careful and rigid with what I'm exposed to. Usually, lol.

I have to be careful with what I take, steroids, because I have abnormal liver function from a childhood illness. I have an appointment Thursday though and I'm hoping I'll be prescribed with epi-pen.I don't know what my dr. will do. This was probably the worst attack I've ever had and I don't believe it was life-threatening. But I know allergies can become worse over time.

Oh, I know what I wanted to add! My husband really wanted to KILL my brother, but I am so glad that I married a man who can see the long term consequences of short-term actions. :) He's worked too hard to get where he's at to throw it away over my brother and sil. And something tells me they wouldn't shy away from an opportunity to strike back legally at my husband, simply out of spite and jealousy. And besides, no ones kids needed to see it come to that.

But thank to all you mommies. I feel better. And my son WILL have a completely drama free party this weekend! :)

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:45 PM
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two4one
by Gold Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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Disown them both. They could have killed you over trying to "prove a point". Call and let them know that they better not set foot into your home again.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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BUMP

happykitty316
by Gold Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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I wouldn't have them in my home....What if they did it to you again?  Not to mention they sound like assholes.

frankiesma530
by Platinum Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:49 PM

 I would say uninviting them is okay. :)  They can do something with your son for his bday another time without you if they want.

EmilysMom2010
by Ruby Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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I would ask them not to come.
What fucking assholes!
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bowribbonmama
by Ruby Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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They would not be invited.
I could even consider having them charged.
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mistie900
by Gold Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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 I would not allow them to come to the party. That is horrible. Especially since your SIL basically said it was your own fault. I would not talk to my brother for a long, long time.

EmilysMom2010
by Ruby Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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Or you could play a trick on them....
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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Wow, what a bunch of assholes.  I don't think I would ever allow them around me or my children again. What if that would have been your child?  What if you had a deadly allergy and went into shock?  They obviously have no clue about allergies and no respect for anyone.  As a mom with kids with allergies, I feel really sorry they did that to you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:50 PM
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They didn't apologize, they called and gave a fake thing while continuing to blame you. They should feel blessed that you aren't asking that they reimburse you for your lost wages in court. I wouldn't let them near my home until they could grow the fuck up and apologize...for REAL.

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