What is with all of the mom's on here that want to go around bashing someone else's choice to have a child young? Just because you waited until you were out of your teens doesn't make you any better than the ones who had a baby young. Just because a woman is still in her teens that doesn't mean that she can't be a great mother. Yes life is harder when you are a young mother but one person saying that someone having a child young makes them a disgrace, or uneducated, or a slut or anything else. Just because you weren't in your teens or even early 20's when you have your child doesn't mean that you are better than anyone else and you need to quit bashing people or trying to make them feel like they are any less of a good parent because they chose a different path than you. Get off your high horses and remember what is right for you might not be what is right for someone else.
I will say that I think it is irresponsible to have a child in high school. But it's not my decision so not really something I'm going to rage over.
I agree with you to an extent. A teen can be a good parent but to me, part of being a good parent is being able to providing what that child needs. A mom having a child while still in high school or shortly there after is not financially able to provide for the needs of her child.
I was a teen mom so I do think it is possible for a teen to be a good mother and to not feel like she "gave up" or "missed out" on her teen years and to put all of themselves into their child, but my children have gone without bc of my poor choices, if I had to do it over again, I would have waited until I was finished with college to have my children.
Quoting LauraMH:I agree with you to an extent. A teen can be a good parent but to me, part of being a good parent is being able to providing what that child needs. A mom having a child while still in high school or shortly there after is not financially able to provide for the needs of her child.
I was a teen mom so I do think it is possible for a teen to be a good mother and to not feel like she "gave up" or "missed out" on her teen years and to put all of themselves into their child, but my children have gone without bc of my poor choices, if I had to do it over again, I would have waited until I was finished with college to have my children.
I think people question how responsible it is - meaning, can you finish your education, get a job and stand on your own tepee feet while having a child. Usually, these situations become something for the tax payers to deal with. And most hardworking people, paying their taxes don't like to pick up the tab for people making bad decisions.
it is different if you have the support of the father and you're a family unit providing for one another...sometimes grandparents and extended family help to support, out of kindness, but it isn't fair for them to have to take it on either.
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So then is this something that you would want for your son, that he starts a family while still in high school?
Quoting mjismom:I was a teen mom also. I did finish high school and college while working to support my son. I know how hard it is but it can be done. I'm not saying my son had it all but he had a mother that worked her butt off to provide for him and make sure he was well taken care of.
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?
- mjismom
on Feb. 4, 2013 at 7:06 PM