I gave my ex a bed set for our son and he lets his GF's DD sleep in my son's bed
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My parents gave me and my ex most the furniture we had. With the exception of our computer and big screen tv and just a few other things. So in court, the things my parents gave us did not go towards the furniture that needed to be divided. We only had to divided the kitchen table, the new flat screen 52 inch tv and the computer. I let me ex take all of those except the computer. I also let him take my younger son's bedroom set (my parents had an extra one in storage that was nicer anyway) so that he would have a place to sleep when he visited his dad, he is the only one of our children who is a minor.
Anyway, he recently informed me that now he has to sleep on the living room floor, I asked why he said that his dad's girlfriend (live in) kid visit at the same time he does and her DD gets to sleep in the second bedroom IN THE BED THAT MY PARENTS GAVE MY SON while her brother and my son sleep in the living room and "flip a coin" for the couch THAT MY PARENTS GAVE US. He said for some reason, he always looses the coin toss because if the girlfriend's son looses, he whines and she insists the coin was not flipped properly.
Well I immediately called my ex and asked what was going on, he said that he was teaching our son manners by letting the girl have the bedroom and the bed (the girl is 14, the boy is 11 and my son is 13). I told him that's not right, that I let him take the bedroom set (that I had every right to keep) for our son, not for his girlfriend's DD. I also reminded him that I also let him take the couch. I told him that my son WILL be sleeping in HIS bed and if he doesn't I will take it back to court and I doubt the judge will be happy to hear how my ex treats his own son.
I just can't believe that he would be this way to our son. Now I understand why my son doesn't want to go over there and to be honest, I don't blame him
I think that is horrible. BUT you gave it to him, so I guess he can do what he wants with it now.
My son is not trying to date his dad's girlfriend's DD, he has just as much right to be comfortable there as she does and to top it off, the bed is his. Also, that's not really teaching him manners, it's teaching him that he is less important then dad's girlfriend's kids. Really, they need a bigger place, it's a two bedroom place and every other weekend they have 3 kids there. They don't want to switch because they like having every other weekend to themselves.
Quoting Anonymous:
I was with you until I heard the manners part. He's kind of right about that. Why not switch weekends so they dont all visit at the same time?
Being a SAHM for the past 5 yrs has made me