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"Traditional/Oldfashioned" Gender Roles

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Do you believe in them?

Do you live your life by them?

How important is it to you to live this way?

If you found yourself in a relationship that was "New age/Non Traditional" how would you feel?


By this I mean the old school, forties style home where the wife stays home and raises the kids while the husband works or even the somewhat newer Husband is the major breadwinner but wife works part time to supplement. Baisically anything that puts the man as the money maker and the woman as the homemaker as their main focus.



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by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:33 AM
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susan115
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 3:16 PM

 I loved being a stay at home mom.  Yes, I am traditional, but in every society both spouses have worked to support the family, whether it was one staying at home or both going to work to put food on the table.  It depends.  But, I do believe that (1) should be in charge of the funds and both should have excess to it. But, only one doing the balancing, paying bills, etc., but both having a say on retirement and long term planning. 

Deshonsmommy
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 3:20 PM
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Not me, I'm black the 50's weren't a good time for us!!

Quoting unsuspected:

If I woke up tommorow in the 50's I'd be good.



mrspena
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 3:29 PM
My household has traditional roles now. I stay home cook, clean, take care of the kids, run the errands, handle all the dr. visits, and school stuff. When my husband comes home the house is clean, dinner is cooked and on the table.
My husband does help out time to time. He will cook dinner maybe once a month , or on occasion help me clean. But his main focus is work. His only household task is to pay the bills.
I didnt used to be this way. I worked full time for the first 11 years of our relationship so all tasks were split even. Than 2yrs ago I had a part time job. So I took over more responabilities. Now as of a year and 1/2ago, my son is 10, I stay home.
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ksueditz
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 3:44 PM
I love being in the traditional role of homemaker, while my dh is the breadwinner. I pay the bills, only b/c he has NO financial sense. But otherwise, I am in charge of all things inside the home. Dh is in charge of earning the money.
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notjstasocermom
by Emerald Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 3:45 PM

Both Dh and I pretty traditional

MaskedMomma
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:08 PM

 yes

yes

it gives security, love, and we're all happy

I've been in 'non traditional' relationships & didnt like it

oh and we have 4 girls that we're raising w/ the accomplish your dreams attitude but making sure they are learning housewife/homemaker skills too.

toybar02
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:11 PM
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i dont go by old school or new school, i go by what works, if i have to work to support my family and hubby stays home with the kids then so be it and vice versa, as long as my family is taken care of thats all that matters, theres no set rule in my household of who the breadwinner is as long as theres bread then we are all winners lol, as far as bugs we both kill them ( depending on what kind of bug lol)
boshs1andonly
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:20 PM

I'm sure they exist but it isn't an issue for me and dh. When we first got married, I made over double what he did, and he never cared. Even now, my plan is to ultimately have a 7 figure business (have a long way to go though lol) and he's not threatened by that at all, nor do I care if he decided to be a SAHD once I have a more stable income. But it's not my life so whatever floats their boat i guess. 

hellomilla
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:26 PM
We are VERY traditional. I'm a SAHM and love it. My husband and I both agree that that is where women should be if they have children. I understand that sometimes families can't afford that. In my opinion it was the womens suffrage movement that made the economy based on a two income household to begin with. I honestly don't think I could be in a relationship where the man believed men and women had to do the same things. I believe man and woman are equal, just in different ways.
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leavinglasvegas
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:28 PM
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In my family, it is not "traditional" for women not to have an income. My mother worked to help pay the bills, my grandmother worked on the farm and at the shipyard to help pay the bills and feed her family, my great-grandmother turned her home into a boarding house for women after her husband died young. The concept that women are SAHM as a traditional role is false. Historically, unless a woman was upper-middle class, she worked. Many women had garden and animals to tend to, other women did washing, mending, or cooking for other families or had homemade wares to sell. Some just watched other women's children and were compensated in money, services or goods.

To say that "feminism" has changed the face of a woman's role in the household is misguided and insulting. Women have always worked and generations have worked for an income long before the Womens Rights Movement. But, thanks to them standing up for me, I can get paid what I deserve at my job, I am protected by the same laws that men are, and I can tell my daughters that they can strive to be what they want to be in life and not be seen as property or "less than" because they are women.

I could quit my job and stay at home and raise my children - but I have the choice. My foremothers didn't have that choice because they didn't have the money. In my home, I cook and do laundry because I want to and it needs to be done. My husband washes the dishes, gets my girls breakfast and bathes them because he wants to and it needs to be done. Whatever gets the job done and puts food on the table.

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