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"Traditional/Oldfashioned" Gender Roles

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Do you believe in them?

Do you live your life by them?

How important is it to you to live this way?

If you found yourself in a relationship that was "New age/Non Traditional" how would you feel?


By this I mean the old school, forties style home where the wife stays home and raises the kids while the husband works or even the somewhat newer Husband is the major breadwinner but wife works part time to supplement. Baisically anything that puts the man as the money maker and the woman as the homemaker as their main focus.



Wow I am featured.  Was not expecting that!

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:33 AM
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Hayleysmom88
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:17 AM
I am very traditional. It works out well for us. I stay home with dd and dh works.

I wouldn't like living a non traditional lifestyle. I feel like I'm living the life I've always dreamed of.
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SuDoNim
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:38 AM

And some of us who are Christian think it's a crock, too :)


Quoting Anonymous:

You love to contridict your self. get a education and quit getting on CM. You just told me "MOTHERS SHOULD be at home taking care of their children" yea you kinda did say what i wrote.  basically women should stay home and take care of the kids while the husband works. SHOULD as in obligated too because you say so from religious beliefs. because anyone who thinks a womens place is at home and not outside the house is anyone who is Christian. I am a Wiccan and before that i was a none practicing catholic. I still view it the same way. Men and women can work outside the house or in the house making money IF they want. I have that choice, i dont work outside the house because i have Anxiety and doing anything with costumers in a fast paced environment. but thats me.


Quoting hellomilla:

First off, most of those things you said about me, aren't true. So thanks for assuming things about me. Just because I think that women should be SAHMs or homemakers doesn't mean I look at them as an animal or property of their husband. Being a SAHM/homemaker is a job as well. Last time I checked cleaning up after yourself and your child doesn't make you a slave. I also don't think women should be sex slaves to their husbands or anyone else. I believe men and women are equal, they just have different roles in the family. I also have no problem with a woman being educated. If a woman is single, sure get a job and support yourself. I just think that mothers should be at home taking care of their children.


Quoting Anonymous:

LMAO you dont want women EMPLOYED outside the house.. Your fucking crazy! You dont value women rights, choice and freedom of speech. I hate to be your friend! I hate people like you that think women are supposed to get married after 18, stay a virgin, wear white at the wedding. Give birth as many times the husband say, fuck any time he wants. yes FUCK, Fuck is the same as sex. and do whatever he says and bring GOD into a marriage PSH SMH. Im not a Animal, i dont go having babies 24/7 just because i have two tits and a vagina/uterus.
So basically Women are here on this earth to serve men, not go to college and get a education. Because you know if they go to college/university they have to get a degree and that means they can get a job outside the house which entials leaving and driving. Making money? I guess you think thats absurd lol.. your nuts lmao.. weird weird... Actually my husband would prefer me working, driving and taking kids to places. I dont... i rather stay home while he makes money but at the same time he has to cook, clean, do laundry, make the bed. put his clothes on the hanger and hamper. etc etc... because as human beings we all should pitch in. Especially mean. I dont like lazy ass men who dont do a damn thing but work.

Quoting hellomilla:

I never said women shouldn't have the right to vote. I just don't think they should be employed outside of the house.





Quoting SuDoNim:

Men and women are equal... yet you seem to feel that women being allowed to vote is a negative thing??




Quoting hellomilla:

We are VERY traditional. I'm a SAHM and love it. My husband and I both agree that that is where women should be if they have children. I understand that sometimes families can't afford that. In my opinion it was the womens suffrage movement that made the economy based on a two income household to begin with. I honestly don't think I could be in a relationship where the man believed men and women had to do the same things. I believe man and woman are equal, just in different ways.












SuDoNim
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:47 AM

I always thought I would want a "traditional" family, too. I guess I sort of romanticised it as ideal, having grown-up in a very untraditional household myself. Truth is, after 6 years of it I was miserable and I felt like my family was sacrificing too much for me to be home. My wise husband reminded me that men don't stop being dads when they are at work, so why do we look at working mothers as being less devoted than at-home mothers?

Quoting CeceliaRosella:

I always thought that was the kind of marriage I wanted. Now that I'm stuck in one I hate it with a passion. It's degrading.



SuDoNim
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:56 AM

But why does the mom have to be at home full-time in order to guide and teach morals?

Quoting Jazmyn1:

I believe people should care less about material things and take care of their family!!! Yes mom should be mainly home!! I think this is a huge problem with society and our kids today they have no guidence and supervision and no one to teach them morals. Jmo sorry I feel very strongly about this



Jazmyn1
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 2:34 PM
Cause thats what a mother does...jmo day care shiuldnt be raising our kids, fathers dont have the proper skills again jmo!


Quoting SuDoNim:

But why does the mom have to be at home full-time in order to guide and teach morals?


Quoting Jazmyn1:

I believe people should care less about material things and take care of their family!!! Yes mom should be mainly home!! I think this is a huge problem with society and our kids today they have no guidence and supervision and no one to teach them morals. Jmo sorry I feel very strongly about this





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SuDoNim
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:24 PM
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Wow. I'm not sure which is more insulting: that women are less than mothers if they don't stay home, or that fathers aren't capable of raising children. 

Quoting Jazmyn1:

Cause thats what a mother does...jmo day care shiuldnt be raising our kids, fathers dont have the proper skills again jmo!


Quoting SuDoNim:

But why does the mom have to be at home full-time in order to guide and teach morals?


Quoting Jazmyn1:

I believe people should care less about material things and take care of their family!!! Yes mom should be mainly home!! I think this is a huge problem with society and our kids today they have no guidence and supervision and no one to teach them morals. Jmo sorry I feel very strongly about this







Jazmyn1
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:55 PM
I didn t say women are less then mothers but yes I feel men don t have all it takes sorry again imo everyone has a right to their own opinion i feel if kids had more supervision and guidence after they gethome from school and in summer ect the kids would be different then they are now...look at statistics


Quoting SuDoNim:

Wow. I'm not sure which is more insulting: that women are less than mothers if they don't stay home, or that fathers aren't capable of raising children. 


Quoting Jazmyn1:

Cause thats what a mother does...jmo day care shiuldnt be raising our kids, fathers dont have the proper skills again jmo!





Quoting SuDoNim:

But why does the mom have to be at home full-time in order to guide and teach morals?



Quoting Jazmyn1:

I believe people should care less about material things and take care of their family!!! Yes mom should be mainly home!! I think this is a huge problem with society and our kids today they have no guidence and supervision and no one to teach them morals. Jmo sorry I feel very strongly about this











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SuDoNim
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 4:03 PM

Sure, assuming kids are indeed left unsupervised if their mother works outside the home. I'd love to see supporting the notion that children fare better when their mother is home afterschool vs. someone other than her (eg. father, extended family member, afterschool daycare). 

Quoting Jazmyn1:

I didn t say women are less then mothers but yes I feel men don t have all it takes sorry again imo everyone has a right to their own opinion i feel if kids had more supervision and guidence after they gethome from school and in summer ect the kids would be different then they are now...look at statistics


Quoting SuDoNim:

Wow. I'm not sure which is more insulting: that women are less than mothers if they don't stay home, or that fathers aren't capable of raising children. 


Quoting Jazmyn1:

Cause thats what a mother does...jmo day care shiuldnt be raising our kids, fathers dont have the proper skills again jmo!





Quoting SuDoNim:

But why does the mom have to be at home full-time in order to guide and teach morals?



Quoting Jazmyn1:

I believe people should care less about material things and take care of their family!!! Yes mom should be mainly home!! I think this is a huge problem with society and our kids today they have no guidence and supervision and no one to teach them morals. Jmo sorry I feel very strongly about this













Mrs.Vallo
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 4:06 PM
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I am more of a 50s girl myself. I dont mind staying home taking care of my husband and kids. However I dont disagree with others about the non traditional. Each to their own! 

Jazmyn1
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 4:07 PM
Omg lol i mean not with a parent!!! Kids need their paren ts is what i am saying just cause they are supervised doesnt mean its ok op asked our opi io s and Im giving mine. Why cant I have my opinion? Im not raggn on you


Quoting SuDoNim:

Sure, assuming kids are indeed left unsupervised if their mother works outside the home. 


Quoting Jazmyn1:

I didn t say women are less then mothers but yes I feel men don t have all it takes sorry again imo everyone has a right to their own opinion i feel if kids had more supervision and guidence after they gethome from school and in summer ect the kids would be different then they are now...look at statistics





Quoting SuDoNim:

Wow. I'm not sure which is more insulting: that women are less than mothers if they don't stay home, or that fathers aren't capable of raising children. 



Quoting Jazmyn1:

Cause thats what a mother does...jmo day care shiuldnt be raising our kids, fathers dont have the proper skills again jmo!








Quoting SuDoNim:

But why does the mom have to be at home full-time in order to guide and teach morals?




Quoting Jazmyn1:

I believe people should care less about material things and take care of their family!!! Yes mom should be mainly home!! I think this is a huge problem with society and our kids today they have no guidence and supervision and no one to teach them morals. Jmo sorry I feel very strongly about this



















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