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Shouldn't BM have picked different day to get married?? ***ETA in RED*** (for the morons who answer without reading!!!!) Added poll too

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Question: Is what is good for the goose good for the gander?

Options:

BF should tell BM too bad so sad, should have scheduled the wedding on one of HER weekends

Hey, she can act whatever way she wants, she is BM! BF needs to suck it up and deal

BM may be being an ass but it's up to BF to be the bigger person or he's to blame

Let me take the time to read the actual post thoroughly and I might have a different answer....


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Ok seriously, I think the answers are going to be biased towards BM but here goes anyway.

1. DH just had a MANDATORY TRAINING trip for his JOB that he was not in charge of scheduling that fell on his weekend with SS.

2. When he asked BM to let him see SS the weekend right before or the weekend right after BM said no and when presented on here everyone said it was DH's own fault he was missing the visit and why should BM say yes to the weekends before or after just to accomodate DH.

OK! Well now BM is getting married on DH's weekend to have SS!!!

SHOULD Dad say too bad, you should have scheduled it for a weekend you had him Mom?

Mandatory job training = too bad Dad, should have told boss no or picked a different job.

WHAT IF it were DH getting married on BMs weekend? Too bad Dad, should have scheduled it for a weekend you had SS?

**ETA...DH is NOT going to keep SS from BM's wedding. And for the rest of you DIMWITS I THE SM don't care WHAT DH decides, yes or no. NOT MY KID, NOT MY PROBLEM. 

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:06 AM
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Tigress22304
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:11 AM

Okay-I'm a BM and a SM. If this were my situation-I know my skids BM would send the kids to me (even though Dad's not here) or she would send them another time to make up for the weekend lost.

However-we get my skids every weekend regardless.

Is there a CO on visitation?! And if so, what does it say about missing weekend visitation?!

Emt2Rn
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:12 AM
My mother never used my brother and I as pawns in a game, but my "father" and step-mom tried to, A LOT. So coming from a childhood where "adults" used kids like this, I must say: Grow the heck up. So what if she was a bitch and didn't bend a little? She should've. But now, you're wanting revenge, and you guys are willing to let a child be that weapon of revenge. I'm thankful I had my mother who cared more about her kids than if she caused hurt to my "father." Let the kid go to the wedding for crying out loud. But, let the woman have an earful over it too, if it makes you feel better, just not in front of the kid. Put the child's needs and feelings over your own.
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tonijustine
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:13 AM

What is good for the goose is good for the gander...but not necessarily for the gosling. Was she wrong to be inflexible? Yes. Will it help anything if BD doesn't allow SS to go to the wedding? Absolutely not. This is going to spin out of control if one of the "adults" (and I use that term loosely) doesn't decide to be the bigger person.

Since the ball is now in BD's court, it should be him.

wkukid
by Ocean Wave on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:13 AM
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I'd say too bad too. She can move it a weekend.

crazygirl907
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:14 AM

While I think BM was being petty, a wedding is a bit different. I think both parents need to grow up and co parent. The petty bullshit hurts no one but the child in the end. 

Nee86
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:15 AM
2 wrongs don't make a right. Take the high road.
pbjtime87
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:15 AM
I don't like either of you... Too bad so sad? Wtf? Let the kid have his parents for fucks sake!
Larsbug
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:16 AM
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 I agree

Quoting brebugmom91:

Too bad should have picked a different day to get married. I'm a bitch like that though.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:16 AM
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OP, you sound very hateful and all you want is revenge. Get some help, there is no way you're going to be a good step-mom to that kid if all of your focus is going towards payback to BM.
cLanief
by Ruby Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:16 AM
They both need to grown up. Simple.
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