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Shouldn't BM have picked different day to get married?? ***ETA in RED*** (for the morons who answer without reading!!!!) Added poll too

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

 

Poll

Question: Is what is good for the goose good for the gander?

Options:

BF should tell BM too bad so sad, should have scheduled the wedding on one of HER weekends

Hey, she can act whatever way she wants, she is BM! BF needs to suck it up and deal

BM may be being an ass but it's up to BF to be the bigger person or he's to blame

Let me take the time to read the actual post thoroughly and I might have a different answer....


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Ok seriously, I think the answers are going to be biased towards BM but here goes anyway.

1. DH just had a MANDATORY TRAINING trip for his JOB that he was not in charge of scheduling that fell on his weekend with SS.

2. When he asked BM to let him see SS the weekend right before or the weekend right after BM said no and when presented on here everyone said it was DH's own fault he was missing the visit and why should BM say yes to the weekends before or after just to accomodate DH.

OK! Well now BM is getting married on DH's weekend to have SS!!!

SHOULD Dad say too bad, you should have scheduled it for a weekend you had him Mom?

Mandatory job training = too bad Dad, should have told boss no or picked a different job.

WHAT IF it were DH getting married on BMs weekend? Too bad Dad, should have scheduled it for a weekend you had SS?

**ETA...DH is NOT going to keep SS from BM's wedding. And for the rest of you DIMWITS I THE SM don't care WHAT DH decides, yes or no. NOT MY KID, NOT MY PROBLEM. 

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:06 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:17 AM
I'd say too bad for her. She knew when her scheduled weekend is. She should have scheduled her wedding on one of her weekends to avoid the conflict. Sounds like she's just looking for a fight.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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See I'm real leinient with switching weekends because what goes around comes around.

He should be the bigger person so next time he wants to switch weekends he can bring it up. He'll have a little leverage that way.
AngeLnChainZ
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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At some point BD needs to be the bigger person and realize his child is the only one getting hurt with situations like this... Put his child first, especially if the mom wants to play childish games. Someone needs to be the adult.

Quoting Anonymous:

And avoiding the question, hmmm, let me guess, still too bad for biodad??


Quoting Anonymous:

Very immature adults. Poor kid


        

badylugs80
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:17 AM
This!


Quoting megan71108:

I would probably say it just because I'm that type of bitch but at the end of the day let him go

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Rain2Rinse
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:18 AM
I chose to marry a man without children from previous relationships. I seriously have no opinion. Just an outsider looking in.
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katemckenzie
by Kate on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:18 AM
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What's wrong with just being the bigger person and setting a good example for your son?

darcibeisheim
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:18 AM

 I must of missed the first post... but I honestly think both parents need to grow up and do what is best for the child....give a little, get a little.. I know its a big word, but COMPROMISE.

danandsamsmom
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:18 AM
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Well, use the child as a weapon, of course!  It is okay to hurt the child as long as it also really hurts BM.

Quoting Anonymous:

But she didn't...soooooo?


Quoting hddcooper:

I think when people act like assholes in situations like this, it's only the child who gets harmed. Honestly, I think BM should have accomidated the father in the previous situation and he should accomidate her now.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:18 AM
This is hysterical, the ones that think BM shouldn't get a dose of her own medicine dance around it by saying the poor kid has immature parents.


Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

Childish bullshit on both parts, being spiteful will get you nowhere but to a point where the child hates both as soon as he's old enough to realize whats going on. Be an adult, suck it up and deal with it.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:19 AM
Do you realize how childish that sounded? I honestly thought you were being sarcastic at first. If he steps up to be the bigger person, then she will be more willing to when he needs it.

Quoting Anonymous:

But she didn't...soooooo?




Quoting hddcooper:

I think when people act like assholes in situations like this, it's only the child who gets harmed. Honestly, I think BM should have accomidated the father in the previous situation and he should accomidate her now.

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