My ex husband and I divorced 10 years ago. He was ordered to pay $515 a month in support for our two babies at the time. Two years later he remarried and moved away and didnt visit with the kids at all. Last year when his Dad died he came to town and facebooked me, and asked to visit them for a couple hours. He said his wife didnt want me to be there and asked if they could have a visit at his Moms house (who I trust and still see each week because we live close together and she still has a relationship with the kids.) So trying to be the bigger person, I said yes.
Anyway, last night the IRS kicked my taxes back because he decided to claim them. So I sent him a calm FB message asking if was indeed HIM that claimed them because the IRS said someone had already claimed them this year. He answered back "yeah because I pay support for them." In our divorce decree I was suppose to get one while he got the other (he was also suppose to have shared parenting and pay so much of their healthcare and preschool and schooling costs etc but doesnt do that either.)
So finally, I said this morning:
"Ok, I am going to go ahead and call the child support enforcement agency for a review. You makes a ton of money compared to what you used to and haven' t paid for many of the things ordered in our decree, and now you claimed the kids? I'm not trying to be nasty but I feel like this what needs to be done at this point. "
This is what he fired back at me.
"Go for it. When they see I make probably 60k-70k more than you they will give me custody of the girls if I ask for it and if you want to try and take my money just watch me I'll get the girls."
After that I said, back. "That was a nasty thing to say. This conversation is over with."
My anxiety is through the roof. The rational part of me says, the kids dont know who this man is and really he wouldnt try to take them from me over child support. Then another part of me is like "*I* dont know who this man is either- who is to say he wouldn't try???? I guess I am looking for outside validation that if I send in this paperwork I've already printed off this morning, even if he does try to get custody, no judge is going to just hand over two kids who dont know him. He lives several states away and has zero relationship with them. Its true he probably does make that much more than us. My husband is police officer and only made $46,000 last year and he (me ex) works for a defense contractor and I have no idea how much he makes. It looks like from his facebook its probably a great deal more than us as his house is newer, and he drives two new cars and we drive 2 old clunkers. Would a judge consider how much more they make as a factor in giving him partial custody of the kids???