He spent the night at another woman's house
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Not really, but he brought it up last night.
My SO and I have a very trusting relationship. We both have friends of the opposite sex that we hang out with. My outings are usually a one on one lunch kind of thing, he's always in a group on men and women when he goes out either to a bar or a gathering at someone's house. Sometime we join each other, sometimes we don't.
His friends drink a lot, he drinks MAYBE once a year. Last night he was talking about hanging out again in a couple weeks and maybe drinking. He said if we can't find a babysitter, he'll probably just crash at his friend's house. The house he would be sleeping at belongs to a female friend of his. I told him I'm not comfortable with that and I would drive him there and pick him up if that's the case. He said that he'd just be crashing on the couch and it's better than him driving home or waking me and DS up to come get him. Now he's irritated feeling like I don't trust him. That's not the case at all - I just think staying the night at another woman's house is crossing the line.
Does that make me insecure or is he just being stupid for even suggesting it?
My SO and I have a very trusting relationship. We both have friends of the opposite sex that we hang out with. My outings are usually a one on one lunch kind of thing, he's always in a group on men and women when he goes out either to a bar or a gathering at someone's house. Sometime we join each other, sometimes we don't.
His friends drink a lot, he drinks MAYBE once a year. Last night he was talking about hanging out again in a couple weeks and maybe drinking. He said if we can't find a babysitter, he'll probably just crash at his friend's house. The house he would be sleeping at belongs to a female friend of his. I told him I'm not comfortable with that and I would drive him there and pick him up if that's the case. He said that he'd just be crashing on the couch and it's better than him driving home or waking me and DS up to come get him. Now he's irritated feeling like I don't trust him. That's not the case at all - I just think staying the night at another woman's house is crossing the line.
Does that make me insecure or is he just being stupid for even suggesting it?
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:04 AM
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on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:07 AM
No, especially since you said you would pick him up. It's called a compromise lol.
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on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:07 AM
Meh.
It really just depends on the girl and how well you know her; and your spouse's personality.
My husband could fall asleep anywhere and not be thinking about boinking the person who let him crash on their couch.
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on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:08 AM
Ehhh... Comes off a little insecure to me.
If you trust him fully then you would trust that nothing would go in while he's there.
If you trust him fully then you would trust that nothing would go in while he's there.
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on Feb. 5, 2013 at 10:17 AM
I agree with you on this, he should be thrilled you offered to collect him. It isn't always how much you trust him, sadly you never know what the other person is like. Maybe give your husband a day or so to cool off :) Let him know you don't mind collecting him and explain trusting him isn't the case. Good luck.
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I think my husband's a sociopath