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Question: Would you let your DH/SO change your daughter's diaper?

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DH and I have two girls. When we visit MIL, DH can't change their diapers because my MIL thinks it's disgusting for a man to change a girl's diaper.

Obviously, when we're home, he changes diapers and has no issues; he knows its just part of being a dad. He thinks his mother is dumb for this and his response is, "Those are my DAUGHTERS. What's the issue?". I also think part of the issue is gender roles...changing a diaper is a woman's job.

Opinions?

***ETA: Don't worry, we're rarely around her. It's reasons like this (among others) that we limit our childrens' time with her, because overall, she doesn't respect our choices as parents. I was just wondering if my MIL was the only insane one, lol

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:47 PM
Replies (181-187):
KMadsen
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:57 PM

Honestly, if someone made comments like that guy does about other guys dicks & such, hell no he would not be changing my child's diaper. I could care less whether he was gay, straight, bi, or whatever else. The fact that he makes extremely innapropriate comments about someone's genitals is a little disturbing to me. If it was a woman doing the same thing she would not be changing my child's diaper either. Then again, I wouldn't be around that type of person.

Quoting Kitsun:

I hope to God she's a troll


Quoting SimplyErathy:

-_- i have no words...... so will my daughter be a lesbien since my lesbien sister changed her diaper?

Quoting Anonymous:

There is no relationship, never was one. And its just a decision I made so I won't be worried about my son questioning his sexuality also... its just to ease my mind. He's barely going to be around the baby anyway...





Quoting SimplyErathy:

if you feel he would be sexualy aroused by your infants penis and want to play with it i think the right thing to do is end the relationship..if you can call it that.

Quoting Anonymous:

That's freaking gross and I don't want him touching my sons penis. If he was straight and didnt want to play with other guys penises I wouldn't care. Oh plus he doesn't know how to change a diaper .








Quoting robibuni:

Yes you ARE wrong. His sexuality doesn't matter...he's still a dad and he won't look at your son sexually at all. Why would he?





Quoting Anonymous:

Nasty right? This guy and I just had sex once and got me pregnant but it was not like any other guy I've had sex with. He didn't know what he was doing? There are so many things that make me think he is gay but he won't admit it and when I tell people I think he is gay they laugh at me and tell me he isn't because he got me pregnant. Am I wrong for not wanting him to change my sons diaper when he is born?!?!











Quoting robibuni:

WHAT?! Just...seriously, what?!






Quoting Anonymous:

I won't let my child's father change his diaper because he always makes comments to other men about their privates .. like " I wish your dick was hard right now so I could use it to drum instead of these drumsticks" and being totally sober and kissing a guy. Lol yeah he won't admit he likes guys but man this baby sure was his cover up.

























I believe that when you find love, you hold onto it and cherish it because there is nothing finer, and it may never come again. -Mr. Feeny
Schleetle
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:58 PM
He changes DD's diaper... I think your MIL has personal issues. If anything is inappropriate it would be a father letting their female baby sit in pee, or poop because of some weird hang up.
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HaloWithHorns78
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:00 PM
Of course. I didn't marry a pedophile.
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Kitsun
by Ruby Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:15 PM
So he makes comments about other men, in an adult way, talking about adults... omg that must mean he wants to molest my son! Throw him in jail!

Sounds stupid right? Just like the original comment and yours


Quoting KMadsen:

Honestly, if someone made comments like that guy does about other guys dicks & such, hell no he would not be changing my child's diaper. I could care less whether he was gay, straight, bi, or whatever else. The fact that he makes extremely innapropriate comments about someone's genitals is a little disturbing to me. If it was a woman doing the same thing she would not be changing my child's diaper either. Then again, I wouldn't be around that type of person.

Quoting Kitsun:

I hope to God she's a troll





Quoting SimplyErathy:

-_- i have no words...... so will my daughter be a lesbien since my lesbien sister changed her diaper?

Quoting Anonymous:

There is no relationship, never was one. And its just a decision I made so I won't be worried about my son questioning his sexuality also... its just to ease my mind. He's barely going to be around the baby anyway...








Quoting SimplyErathy:

if you feel he would be sexualy aroused by your infants penis and want to play with it i think the right thing to do is end the relationship..if you can call it that.

Quoting Anonymous:

That's freaking gross and I don't want him touching my sons penis. If he was straight and didnt want to play with other guys penises I wouldn't care. Oh plus he doesn't know how to change a diaper .











Quoting robibuni:

Yes you ARE wrong. His sexuality doesn't matter...he's still a dad and he won't look at your son sexually at all. Why would he?






Quoting Anonymous:

Nasty right? This guy and I just had sex once and got me pregnant but it was not like any other guy I've had sex with. He didn't know what he was doing? There are so many things that make me think he is gay but he won't admit it and when I tell people I think he is gay they laugh at me and tell me he isn't because he got me pregnant. Am I wrong for not wanting him to change my sons diaper when he is born?!?!














Quoting robibuni:

WHAT?! Just...seriously, what?!







Quoting Anonymous:

I won't let my child's father change his diaper because he always makes comments to other men about their privates .. like " I wish your dick was hard right now so I could use it to drum instead of these drumsticks" and being totally sober and kissing a guy. Lol yeah he won't admit he likes guys but man this baby sure was his cover up.
































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KMadsen
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:23 PM

I'm not saying "oh, he wants to molest my child" but, yes, it would make me VERY uncomfortable. No, I would not allow someone who makes extremely innapropriate comments all the time, to change my child's diaper.

Perhaps to you it sounds stupid but to me it does not.

The fact that she is not okay with him being gay & changing his diaper is stupid, yes.

Quoting Kitsun:

So he makes comments about other men, in an adult way, talking about adults... omg that must mean he wants to molest my son! Throw him in jail!

Sounds stupid right? Just like the original comment and yours


Quoting KMadsen:

Honestly, if someone made comments like that guy does about other guys dicks & such, hell no he would not be changing my child's diaper. I could care less whether he was gay, straight, bi, or whatever else. The fact that he makes extremely innapropriate comments about someone's genitals is a little disturbing to me. If it was a woman doing the same thing she would not be changing my child's diaper either. Then again, I wouldn't be around that type of person.

Quoting Kitsun:

I hope to God she's a troll





Quoting SimplyErathy:

-_- i have no words...... so will my daughter be a lesbien since my lesbien sister changed her diaper?

Quoting Anonymous:

There is no relationship, never was one. And its just a decision I made so I won't be worried about my son questioning his sexuality also... its just to ease my mind. He's barely going to be around the baby anyway...








Quoting SimplyErathy:

if you feel he would be sexualy aroused by your infants penis and want to play with it i think the right thing to do is end the relationship..if you can call it that.

Quoting Anonymous:

That's freaking gross and I don't want him touching my sons penis. If he was straight and didnt want to play with other guys penises I wouldn't care. Oh plus he doesn't know how to change a diaper .











Quoting robibuni:

Yes you ARE wrong. His sexuality doesn't matter...he's still a dad and he won't look at your son sexually at all. Why would he?






Quoting Anonymous:

Nasty right? This guy and I just had sex once and got me pregnant but it was not like any other guy I've had sex with. He didn't know what he was doing? There are so many things that make me think he is gay but he won't admit it and when I tell people I think he is gay they laugh at me and tell me he isn't because he got me pregnant. Am I wrong for not wanting him to change my sons diaper when he is born?!?!














Quoting robibuni:

WHAT?! Just...seriously, what?!







Quoting Anonymous:

I won't let my child's father change his diaper because he always makes comments to other men about their privates .. like " I wish your dick was hard right now so I could use it to drum instead of these drumsticks" and being totally sober and kissing a guy. Lol yeah he won't admit he likes guys but man this baby sure was his cover up.

































I believe that when you find love, you hold onto it and cherish it because there is nothing finer, and it may never come again. -Mr. Feeny
Diamepphyre
by Ruby Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:36 PM

 MIL needs to get a grip. 

happykitty316
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:37 PM

When our kids were toddlers I worked weekends - DH had the kids for 11 hours.  Of course he changed her diapers, he bathed her.  Who else was going to do it?

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