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Question: Would you let your DH/SO change your daughter's diaper?

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DH and I have two girls. When we visit MIL, DH can't change their diapers because my MIL thinks it's disgusting for a man to change a girl's diaper.

Obviously, when we're home, he changes diapers and has no issues; he knows its just part of being a dad. He thinks his mother is dumb for this and his response is, "Those are my DAUGHTERS. What's the issue?". I also think part of the issue is gender roles...changing a diaper is a woman's job.

Opinions?

***ETA: Don't worry, we're rarely around her. It's reasons like this (among others) that we limit our childrens' time with her, because overall, she doesn't respect our choices as parents. I was just wondering if my MIL was the only insane one, lol

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:47 PM
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robibuni
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:28 PM

And what if your son is gay? What then? Will it be because you didn't shield him enough from the gay guy you had sex with? Will you love him any less?


Quoting Anonymous:

There is no relationship, never was one. And its just a decision I made so I won't be worried about my son questioning his sexuality also... its just to ease my mind. He's barely going to be around the baby anyway...


Quoting SimplyErathy:

if you feel he would be sexualy aroused by your infants penis and want to play with it i think the right thing to do is end the relationship..if you can call it that.

Quoting Anonymous:

That's freaking gross and I don't want him touching my sons penis. If he was straight and didnt want to play with other guys penises I wouldn't care. Oh plus he doesn't know how to change a diaper .





Quoting robibuni:

Yes you ARE wrong. His sexuality doesn't matter...he's still a dad and he won't look at your son sexually at all. Why would he?




Quoting Anonymous:

Nasty right? This guy and I just had sex once and got me pregnant but it was not like any other guy I've had sex with. He didn't know what he was doing? There are so many things that make me think he is gay but he won't admit it and when I tell people I think he is gay they laugh at me and tell me he isn't because he got me pregnant. Am I wrong for not wanting him to change my sons diaper when he is born?!?!








Quoting robibuni:

WHAT?! Just...seriously, what?!





Quoting Anonymous:

I won't let my child's father change his diaper because he always makes comments to other men about their privates .. like " I wish your dick was hard right now so I could use it to drum instead of these drumsticks" and being totally sober and kissing a guy. Lol yeah he won't admit he likes guys but man this baby sure was his cover up.



















spunky946
by Ruby Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:29 PM

My dh changed dds.

TattooedMomto4
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:30 PM
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 Hmmm, for those who say they wouldn't let him....if they have sons, is dad the only one allowed to change them?

myloves.050709
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:30 PM

That has probably got to be one of the dumbest things I have ever heard.  That is when I tell someone to mind their own business.

robibuni
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:30 PM
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No, you're not.

What his father does during his ADULT time doesn't make him a bad parent. Does it make him a bit pervy? Sure. But most men are, and talk about pervy crap amongst their friends.

Also, I was ASKING if his being gay was the only reason you didn't want him to change diapers. You see that question mark behind it? Guess not. 

You're in a for a rude awakening when the baby is born. If you put him on that birth certificate as the dad, you can't deny him time with his child. A court will back him up too.


Quoting Anonymous:

I think I'm an awesome mom for not letting some guy who likes penis and talks about playing with them change his diaper... I doubt he will be able to learn how to change cloth diapers so he won't be changing them anyway. Also he is barely going to be around so I don't have to worry about it. I just rather do it than him if he's around. Oh I didn't know that was the ONLY reason I didn't want him doing it btw thanks for telling me.


Quoting robibuni:

So seriously, the ONLY reason you don't want him changing your child's diaper is because he's possibly gay? Gay and interested in MEN does not mean he's a child molester!

As far as not knowing how to change a diaper, surprise, I didn't either. I'd never changed a diaper in my life when I had DD1.



Quoting Anonymous:

That's freaking gross and I don't want him touching my sons penis. If he was straight and didnt want to play with other guys penises I wouldn't care. Oh plus he doesn't know how to change a diaper .





Quoting robibuni:

Yes you ARE wrong. His sexuality doesn't matter...he's still a dad and he won't look at your son sexually at all. Why would he?




Quoting Anonymous:

Nasty right? This guy and I just had sex once and got me pregnant but it was not like any other guy I've had sex with. He didn't know what he was doing? There are so many things that make me think he is gay but he won't admit it and when I tell people I think he is gay they laugh at me and tell me he isn't because he got me pregnant. Am I wrong for not wanting him to change my sons diaper when he is born?!?!








Quoting robibuni:

WHAT?! Just...seriously, what?!





Quoting Anonymous:

I won't let my child's father change his diaper because he always makes comments to other men about their privates .. like " I wish your dick was hard right now so I could use it to drum instead of these drumsticks" and being totally sober and kissing a guy. Lol yeah he won't admit he likes guys but man this baby sure was his cover up.





















amyleigh80
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:31 PM
In my experience mothers in law are crazy bitches so I say of course I would let my DH change my DD diaper. She is six now so it doesn't matter but you can bet your butt he changed a whole bunch of diapers when she was little....
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twyliatepeka
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:32 PM
He changed our daughter's diapers & now changes his niece's from time to time.
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sassysuie
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:33 PM

 I let df change our daughters diapers, but not any other man.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 18 on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:34 PM

It's just the same as a woman changing her sons diaper.......

ilovemykids323
by Ruby Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:36 PM

 this is dumb... than according to your MIL you shouldn't change boys diapers. same thing.

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