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Question: Would you let your DH/SO change your daughter's diaper?


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DH and I have two girls. When we visit MIL, DH can't change their diapers because my MIL thinks it's disgusting for a man to change a girl's diaper.

Obviously, when we're home, he changes diapers and has no issues; he knows its just part of being a dad. He thinks his mother is dumb for this and his response is, "Those are my DAUGHTERS. What's the issue?". I also think part of the issue is gender roles...changing a diaper is a woman's job.


***ETA: Don't worry, we're rarely around her. It's reasons like this (among others) that we limit our childrens' time with her, because overall, she doesn't respect our choices as parents. I was just wondering if my MIL was the only insane one, lol

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:47 PM
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by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:36 PM

Quoting Anonymous:

Why would a woman have a child with a man she doesn't trust to change a diaper? That's just stupid ass to me.

this.. why have a kid with a man you wouldnt trust? makes no sense!

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:37 PM

BTW, I'm probably your MIL's age, or close to it. I voted YES. My dh changed our dd's diapers. Her brothers changed her diapers (they are 8, 10, and 15 years older) THAT may be the question to ask your MIL. She would faint dead away!

by Ruby Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:38 PM
I hope to God she's a troll

Quoting SimplyErathy:

-_- i have no words...... so will my daughter be a lesbien since my lesbien sister changed her diaper?

Quoting Anonymous:

There is no relationship, never was one. And its just a decision I made so I won't be worried about my son questioning his sexuality also... its just to ease my mind. He's barely going to be around the baby anyway...

Quoting SimplyErathy:

if you feel he would be sexualy aroused by your infants penis and want to play with it i think the right thing to do is end the relationship..if you can call it that.

Quoting Anonymous:

That's freaking gross and I don't want him touching my sons penis. If he was straight and didnt want to play with other guys penises I wouldn't care. Oh plus he doesn't know how to change a diaper .

Quoting robibuni:

Yes you ARE wrong. His sexuality doesn't matter...he's still a dad and he won't look at your son sexually at all. Why would he?

Quoting Anonymous:

Nasty right? This guy and I just had sex once and got me pregnant but it was not like any other guy I've had sex with. He didn't know what he was doing? There are so many things that make me think he is gay but he won't admit it and when I tell people I think he is gay they laugh at me and tell me he isn't because he got me pregnant. Am I wrong for not wanting him to change my sons diaper when he is born?!?!

Quoting robibuni:

WHAT?! Just...seriously, what?!

Quoting Anonymous:

I won't let my child's father change his diaper because he always makes comments to other men about their privates .. like " I wish your dick was hard right now so I could use it to drum instead of these drumsticks" and being totally sober and kissing a guy. Lol yeah he won't admit he likes guys but man this baby sure was his cover up.

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by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:38 PM

So, who changed his diapers when he was a baby? 

by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:39 PM
We don't have girls. My husband has changed our niece's diapers when we watched them. My sister and I both knew that my husband wasn't sexually attracted to kids.
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by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:41 PM
That is so awesome that ur dh has no problem changing his daughters diapers. My dh will be changing baby girl's diaper forsure. Why shouldnt he? He is just a responsible for her well being. He jokes and says he wont but he will. He says "ok i'll change her diaper but i draw the line at breastfeeding" lol
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by Anonymous 19 on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:46 PM
My dh always felt weird changing dd's diaper and when she potty trained he felt weird to wipe her butt. He did it cuz he had to.
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:50 PM
I changed most of the diapers because I know DH felt a little weird about it. Not because she is our DD, but because he had NEVER changed a diaper before her and it was just a little hard for his boy brain to process, hahaha!!

He was completely capable though, but instead I took diaper duty 99% of the time and he took the late night hallway walking 99% of the time.
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by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:53 PM

Did you ask her why she feels this way? Does she have some explaination? Because I'd love to hear it....sorry if I missed a previous response. 

by Leah on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:53 PM

My MIL changes DD's diapers as well but I'm not sure if it's for that reason or not. But that's crazy! of course men should change diapers!

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