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SAHM and lonely? :(

Posted by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:02 PM
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Before I start, I'd appreciate it if anyone that has any kind of snarky comment to just please click the back button. 

I'm 23 with two beautiful little girls. My oldest is 2 my youngest is 1. I loe them more then life itself. My husband is 28. He works 12 hour shifts, 6pm-6am. He's supposed to do 4 days on 4 days off but always signs up for overtime. I understand why he works his butt off, even though we are NOT hurting for money. I admire and appreciate everything he does. I just can't help but feel so damn lonely anymore.  I barely see him. He takes the only car we have to go to work so it isn't like I can go visit  anyone. I don't have much of a social life anyway because all of my friends are doing their own thing. 

I'm not looking for a pity party or any nasty comments.. just wondering if anyone can relate? 

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:02 PM
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VannaMae307
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:05 PM

Go meet someone new. Find mom-friendly places, that's where the moms hang out. Libraries, parks, book stores. When you go to the park and see a mom, start a conversation. If she thinks you're creepy....oh well, she was only in your life 5 whole minutes, no big loss. If she talks back and you become friends, you've gained a friend.

As far as not having a car...I really don't know...maybe meet someone and have them pick you up. I didn't read that part before replying the first part ^^

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:07 PM
As someone who still shares the one vehicle with a swing shifter I understand. It's rough, but the only thing you can do is try to make understanding friends and make sure you maximize the time you do have with the car.

I'm sorry, I know it sucks!
cmabbott
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:08 PM

Sorry Momma, I'm in the same boat.  Only now I'm 3 1/2 hours away from my friends and family and have no real friends here, everyone say's they'll be there but then *poof* they're gone.  I hate it.  On top of it DH has a porn addiction that has been creating a huge lack in our sex life.  I'm here if you want to talk.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:10 PM

I can relate..... I got a new puppy. I suggest you sit your husband down and explain to him how you feel before it gets worse. Bad things happen when someone in the relationship gets lonely....

jellybeanjean
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:13 PM
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Yes I can totally relate. DH works like crazy too...Saturdays even. I barely get time to spend with him. I also have an 11 m/o that takes up most of my time, and I have another on the way! I also don't have a car in the day because DH takes it work, and its just too damn cold to go for walks to the park right now...

The best I can do is get out of the house when I can. Give DD to my mom or DH's mom and go out! Rarely it actually happens though...

I dunno I guess I kind of learned to appreciate the little time we have together....I get lonely sometimes...but I guess I have learned to occupy myself without company.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:13 PM

Drive him to work if you can, then locate some playgroups!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:14 PM

You're asking for nasty comments with the sentence on the top and bottom of your post. Do you know what group you're in?

egbkeb
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:16 PM

Ughh I'm kind of there too. By the time he comes home he's always exhausted & falls right to sleep until he has to wake up and get ready to leave (commute is an hour)  Come to think of it, maybe if I had sex more often I wouldn't feel as crappy? lol j/k.. well maybe not ;) I'm sorry your so far away from everyone. 

Quoting cmabbott:

Sorry Momma, I'm in the same boat.  Only now I'm 3 1/2 hours away from my friends and family and have no real friends here, everyone say's they'll be there but then *poof* they're gone.  I hate it.  On top of it DH has a porn addiction that has been creating a huge lack in our sex life.  I'm here if you want to talk.


egbkeb
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:17 PM

That would be an awesome idea but the commute is about an hour & I wouldn't want to wake the girls up that early, and dont get me started on gas prices lol

Quoting Anonymous:

Drive him to work if you can, then locate some playgroups!


dlnimo
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:19 PM
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I have been there! My DH just switched shifts so now he is home at night. We also just moved in with my MIL so I'm not alone anymore. It used to be me home alone with the twins and my toddler with no car. I have friends but it was/is hard to get together. Feel free to pm me if you want :)
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