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In the restaurant, those were my kids...

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Yup, that was me, my sis and her guy, and all of those little ones were my kids in that restaurant today. Yup, that was my daughter making the mess with her food because she grabs too much and shoves it into her face instead of mouth. Yup, that was my almost two year old giving the soccer whistle screech at the top of his lungs because he can't communicate. Yup, that was my second child yelling at the top of his lungs while having a conversation. Yup, that was my oldest making all of those weird movie effect sounds and tapping on the table. I know it bothered you.

I know you saw me trying to handle the situation. Trying to feed my baby; taking my almost two year old into the bathroom for punishment; signing to my three year old to use signs instead of trying to talk in a place he cannot hear language due to crowd; and trying to get my oldest to stim by rubbing the table instead of tapping it.

It's tradition for us to eat out the first week of February when we first get our returns back. It's the only time I do it because of my kids.

I thank the waitress deeply for putting up with us (yes, we tipped her very well). I thank the other patrons for not coming up to me this time (I have been approached before). I did like the "knowing smile" that the one man gave my sister's boyfriend when he downed his beer and got another one. I really appreciate the nice lady who said "hi" to my oldest while we were leaving and giving him a brilliant smile.

I know we were loud. I know it looked like I had no control over them, but believe me when I say that it could have been worse.

Now I'm going to go and take a bath before one of them starts the nightly wake-up routine they all still have. I am just very thankful that this time no one came over to tell me to control my children. I am very thankful that only a few people looked over with annoyance. I can see you, even while trying to handle them all.

But, again, thank you for not coming up to me to attack my parenting.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 5, 2013 at 11:06 PM
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Tay06
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:39 AM
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I know the feeling.  You have way more on your plate than I do, but sometimes that understanding smile from a stranger when your two year old is crying and yanking on your hair can make your day.

pampire
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:39 AM
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You have a lot on your hands mama!  Hang in there!

Sekirei
by LoKitty on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:39 AM

I know (somewhat) how you feel. I have a 6 yr old with Aspergers. Loud places make him nervous. Because of the reactions I normally recieve, I rarely take him out. 

Hugs mama, you do have more patience than I though :3

Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:40 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:

There isn't a ChuckECheese here. At what age do you think I might be able to eat out?



When they act like adults at the table or when you hire a sitter and go out without them.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:40 AM
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I'm just going to assume any "grown" woman who is making snotty comments to another about children behaving like *gasp* children in a restaurant was one of those kids who climbed on top of the tables and yelled at the top of her lungs, because obviously you are still not behaving like a civilized human being, so I doubt you ever have.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:41 AM
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Then go to those. I dealt with each issue as it came up and it was done quickly. There was no spoon banging. He was tapping on the table with his fingers.

Quoting Anonymous:

Sorry, but that's why I like no kids allowed restaurants. I'm sorry your kids are a lot to handle. But is it really fair to other patrons to have to put up with your kids?

Out pf respect to other patron's, I don't take my child to places I know he won't sit still or behave. It's not fair to them to pay for a meal full of yelling, spoon banging and temper tantrums.
Sekirei
by LoKitty on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:42 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

There isn't a ChuckECheese here. At what age do you think I might be able to eat out?



When they act like adults at the table or when you hire a sitter and go out without them.

I know I am not the OP, but, not many people are willing to watch special needs children. So, you expect them to hide them away at home for the entirety of their childhood?

moosesmom
by Ruby Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:44 AM
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That's life :-)
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JP-StrongForTwo
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:44 AM
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Girl i dont know how you do it. I have one child, she is 9, and she stims verbally mostly, but can sometimes tap and bang on things as well. both of which are a pain to deal with in public! My DD is learning sign language right now becuase her therapist said it may help her communicate without getting so angry becuase she 'says things bad' and people dont understand her. Im hoping it helps. but im not sure if it will help, or hold her back (if that makes sense) 


You have my prayers hon. I can barely handle the angel i have, let alone more! 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:45 AM
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You free on Friday?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

There isn't a ChuckECheese here. At what age do you think I might be able to eat out?





When they act like adults at the table or when you hire a sitter and go out without them.
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