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In the restaurant, those were my kids...

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Yup, that was me, my sis and her guy, and all of those little ones were my kids in that restaurant today. Yup, that was my daughter making the mess with her food because she grabs too much and shoves it into her face instead of mouth. Yup, that was my almost two year old giving the soccer whistle screech at the top of his lungs because he can't communicate. Yup, that was my second child yelling at the top of his lungs while having a conversation. Yup, that was my oldest making all of those weird movie effect sounds and tapping on the table. I know it bothered you.

I know you saw me trying to handle the situation. Trying to feed my baby; taking my almost two year old into the bathroom for punishment; signing to my three year old to use signs instead of trying to talk in a place he cannot hear language due to crowd; and trying to get my oldest to stim by rubbing the table instead of tapping it.

It's tradition for us to eat out the first week of February when we first get our returns back. It's the only time I do it because of my kids.

I thank the waitress deeply for putting up with us (yes, we tipped her very well). I thank the other patrons for not coming up to me this time (I have been approached before). I did like the "knowing smile" that the one man gave my sister's boyfriend when he downed his beer and got another one. I really appreciate the nice lady who said "hi" to my oldest while we were leaving and giving him a brilliant smile.

I know we were loud. I know it looked like I had no control over them, but believe me when I say that it could have been worse.

Now I'm going to go and take a bath before one of them starts the nightly wake-up routine they all still have. I am just very thankful that this time no one came over to tell me to control my children. I am very thankful that only a few people looked over with annoyance. I can see you, even while trying to handle them all.

But, again, thank you for not coming up to me to attack my parenting.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 5, 2013 at 11:06 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:21 AM
Why? It is in fact a disability

Quoting Anonymous:

Please don't take offense to this, I mean it in the best of ways, but do you know many people in the deaf community?  Calling it a hearing disability is not a good thing.  I myself am profoundly deaf and I know many who would jump down your throat far enough to tickle your ovaries for using that term.  Not me, I think some are overly senstive about using "pc" terms for things.  But was just curious if you were aware how offensive some in the deaf community can find the term hearing "disability."



Quoting Anonymous:

 I don't know why they all do, honestly. I didn't ask for them to have something wrong with them. My oldest has ASD and ADHD; my second child has a hearing disability and a heart defect; my third child is being looked at for ODD; and my fourth has delays and a heart defect (which is a different defect than my third child's). Honestly, not a single one is the same.


Quoting Anonymous:

Why do all your kids have something wrong with them? No offense ..





eesmommy
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:21 AM
Did no one you were with try to help?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:26 AM
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Just like she and her children deserve to treat themselves and not be shunned from society so you can have a peaceful meal. Want to eat in a quiet environment? Get yours to go, wait in your car, and then go the hell home. Problem solved.

Quoting ButterMeUp:

While I do appreciate you for trying to control them, I have to ask why you feel it's okay to subject other customers to this year after year. If your children can not behave/ function in restaurants why continue to take them there and disrupt others meals? Why not get your meals to go and wait in the car? You still get a special meal but don't have to disrupt others! As much as I get your struggle I would have ask if the manager could make you quite them down or ask you to leave. As a paying customer I deserve a simil peacful play to eat my meal.
1L2CMommy
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:33 AM
Your not alone. We had similar situation last Friday. My kids are normally very good in restaurants, and we go out to eat alot, once or twice a week. Last week we went to a large, loud, out of town restaurant we hadn't been to before. We were there at 5:30, so ahead of the dinner crowd, and they sat us all the way in the back. DD, 14 months has just recently, like 2 days prior started this loud ear splitting screeching sound, for no reason. She thinks it's funny. So of course she did it all through dinner. We tried to quiet her and distract her, but didn't have much luck. The looks we got were so evil.
Oh well. Not everything can always go smoothly. Hopefully she and we will do better this week! At least you have the justification that all of your kids have special needs.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:35 AM

next time, get take out and eat at home, then you won't have to worry

disneymom2two
by Platinum Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:42 AM
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As I've told one of our students with Aspergers, if you have to say "No offense" or "I don't mean to offend you.", whatever you want to say is offensive and probably shouldn't be said.  My student's lacking in social skills due to having Aspergers; what is your excuse?


Quoting Anonymous:

Why do all your kids have something wrong with them? No offense ..



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:46 AM
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As a manager of a restuarant I would not ask a patron to leave or br quiet. I would offer to move the complaining customer but that's all.


Quoting ButterMeUp:

While I do appreciate you for trying to control them, I have to ask why you feel it's okay to subject other customers to this year after year. If your children can not behave/ function in restaurants why continue to take them there and disrupt others meals? Why not get your meals to go and wait in the car? You still get a special meal but don't have to disrupt others! As much as I get your struggle I would have ask if the manager could make you quite them down or ask you to leave. As a paying customer I deserve a simil peacful play to eat my meal.

SunshineBird
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:56 AM

Oh, wow. I think you did great OP. I am pretty shocked at the people who would rather have you deny your children a meal at a restaurant just so others aren't "bothered". You were attentive to your children and there was a lot going on with each of them. That's all I would hope for if I was a patron at a restaurant with you. 

May I ask a question? You said one of your children stims. Can I ask why he does this? My son is big on stimming (along with other behaviors) and we are having him evaluated for Autism. I didn't see you mention Autism with your kids and I thought stimming was generally a behavior with it. I'm sorry if I'm being too nosy....I'm just trying to figure my boy out. 

frzmamaof4
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:08 AM
Agreed!

Quoting Anonymous:

I will keep you in my prayers because you are handling way more than I ever could. <3




Quoting Anonymous:

 I don't know why they all do, honestly. I didn't ask for them to have something wrong with them. My oldest has ASD and ADHD; my second child has a hearing disability and a heart defect; my third child is being looked at for ODD; and my fourth has delays and a heart defect (which is a different defect than my third child's). Honestly, not a single one is the same.



Quoting Anonymous:

Why do all your kids have something wrong with them? No offense ..


 


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ninjakids
by Christina on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:11 AM
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Goodluck with the idea of finding a sitter for 4 children with conditions. I know people who cant even find a sitter for her one child with ASD. So let us know how your foot tastes sitting in your mouth.

- in other news.... My bank account says I can eat where I please ;) lol.


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Sekirei:

I know I am not the OP, but, not many people are willing to watch special needs children. So, you expect them to hide them away at home for the entirety of their childhood?





With the number of special needs kids out there I'm quite confident that someone would be willing to watch them. No need to hide at home...just take them to a child friendly place.



Eating at a restaurant isn't a right. It's a privilege.

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