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In the restaurant, those were my kids...

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

Yup, that was me, my sis and her guy, and all of those little ones were my kids in that restaurant today. Yup, that was my daughter making the mess with her food because she grabs too much and shoves it into her face instead of mouth. Yup, that was my almost two year old giving the soccer whistle screech at the top of his lungs because he can't communicate. Yup, that was my second child yelling at the top of his lungs while having a conversation. Yup, that was my oldest making all of those weird movie effect sounds and tapping on the table. I know it bothered you.

I know you saw me trying to handle the situation. Trying to feed my baby; taking my almost two year old into the bathroom for punishment; signing to my three year old to use signs instead of trying to talk in a place he cannot hear language due to crowd; and trying to get my oldest to stim by rubbing the table instead of tapping it.

It's tradition for us to eat out the first week of February when we first get our returns back. It's the only time I do it because of my kids.

I thank the waitress deeply for putting up with us (yes, we tipped her very well). I thank the other patrons for not coming up to me this time (I have been approached before). I did like the "knowing smile" that the one man gave my sister's boyfriend when he downed his beer and got another one. I really appreciate the nice lady who said "hi" to my oldest while we were leaving and giving him a brilliant smile.

I know we were loud. I know it looked like I had no control over them, but believe me when I say that it could have been worse.

Now I'm going to go and take a bath before one of them starts the nightly wake-up routine they all still have. I am just very thankful that this time no one came over to tell me to control my children. I am very thankful that only a few people looked over with annoyance. I can see you, even while trying to handle them all.

But, again, thank you for not coming up to me to attack my parenting.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 5, 2013 at 11:06 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:13 AM

Sorry but you should have more control of you children or not go out to restaurants.

Quoting Anonymous:

 I don't know why they all do, honestly. I didn't ask for them to have something wrong with them. My oldest has ASD and ADHD; my second child has a hearing disability and a heart defect; my third child is being looked at for ODD; and my fourth has delays and a heart defect (which is a different defect than my third child's). Honestly, not a single one is the same.

Quoting Anonymous:

Why do all your kids have something wrong with them? No offense ..



SweetPea2004
by Platinum Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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Was it a fancy place or a place like Applebee's?

SweetPea2004
by Platinum Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:17 AM


Honestly if I had one child with any kind of disability I would stop having children.

Quoting MrsErdos2011:

There is nothing wrong with children that have disabilities. They are children no matter what and deserve to be loved and I bet you anything OP doesn't care about their disabilites because she loves them as indviduals rather than finds them a burden, just as every mother does. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Why would you keep having children if you know that they have some type of disability. I don't feel sorry for you, you probably should have started to use birth control after number 1 or 2. 


Quoting Anonymous:

 I don't know why they all do, honestly. I didn't ask for them to have something wrong with them. My oldest has ASD and ADHD; my second child has a hearing disability and a heart defect; my third child is being looked at for ODD; and my fourth has delays and a heart defect (which is a different defect than my third child's). Honestly, not a single one is the same.

Quoting Anonymous:

Why do all your kids have something wrong with them? No offense ..







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BeKind2All
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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I wouldn't have given you bad looks unless I thought you were abusing a child.  Other than that, your family deserves a night out and all those people who give ugly looks need to remember that they were young at one time too. :O)

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:18 AM

not sure why you came on here anonymously and then described your kids problems so thoroughly that most of us know who you are....

either way... I am a firm believer that parents should not take their kids out when they know they ARE going to misbehave. Chuck-E-Cheese is that way >>>, let people who want to eat in peace do so.  Just because no one came up to you to complain, doesnt mean they didnt want to... they just knew that you would get your panties in a bunch if they dared say "Im trying to eat, could you take your obnoxious kids outside?" Because I bet a lot of them are also on a budget and *this* was their one opportunity to eat out for a long while as well. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:22 AM

OP's  (now ex) husband was the controlling caveman type... I don't think she had much choice in the matter. Not trying to defend her... just remembering her stories... *cringe* best thing she ever did was get rid of him

Quoting SweetPea2004:


Honestly if I had one child with any kind of disability I would stop having children.



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:22 AM

I would've left. Screaming kids, no matter the reason, piss me off. If you know your kids have something that make them act that way, or if they are unruly just because, don't bring them out, especially to nicer restaurants where people go to enjoy a nice dinner. Thanks for ruining my nice evening!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:23 AM
So children with disabilities shouldn't be allowed out?

Quoting Anonymous:

Sorry but you should have more control of you children or not go out to restaurants.

Quoting Anonymous:

 I don't know why they all do, honestly. I didn't ask for them to have something wrong with them. My oldest has ASD and ADHD; my second child has a hearing disability and a heart defect; my third child is being looked at for ODD; and my fourth has delays and a heart defect (which is a different defect than my third child's). Honestly, not a single one is the same.


Quoting Anonymous:

Why do all your kids have something wrong with them? No offense ..



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:24 AM
So children with disabilities shouldn't be allowed out?

Quoting Anonymous:

I would've left. Screaming kids, no matter the reason, piss me off. If you know your kids have something that make them act that way, or if they are unruly just because, don't bring them out, especially to nicer restaurants where people go to enjoy a nice dinner. Thanks for ruining my nice evening!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:24 AM

Why are you letting your child blow a whistle in a restaurant?

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