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omg get up and take care of ur kid or go home!!! upddate update 2!!!!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

dear sil,

i dont miund watching ur baby for you while you work till 11pm  but if you are going to stay  over the night. TAKE CARE OF YOUR DAMN KID! DONT LEAVE HER IN HER PACK AND PLAY SCREAMING  SINCE 8 AM  BECAUSE YOU WANT TO SLEEP!

im so annoyed right now. mil lives in MY home. and sil stays over with the baby often. she is straight ignoring this screaming child because shes too tired. at one point she took the baby out of the crib and let her run around mils room not only destroying her room but when mil found her had money and jewlery in her mouth ( mils room is not baby proof)  not only am i pissed off mil left sil here while she went to work, but this child has been screaming because shes hungry and probably wet for hours on and off. and i here sil tellhing her to hush and be quiet.dh has told me to stop taking care of the baby for her ( i used to do everything because sil would just let her suffer) and to stay out of it and let him handle it. but hes not home. i have been up all night long sick im exhausted and wanted to sleep before i had class...so much for that!

and no im not going up there and getting her kid and doing what she should be doing.we have told her what she needs to do, she refuses, cps has been called but nothing is ever done. mil enables her and im tired of it. she needs to get her lazy ass out of bed and take care of that kid and get out of my house!


update the baby started screaming bloody murder...i now have the baby  and shes eating and happy...sil is STILL out cold despite us trying to get her up....frustrated


update 2

so mil came home i told her what was going on she said its not her fault shes on medication for insomnia and took it late...whatever!  she said she couldnt here the baby screaming while she was sleeping because of the medication. then 15 minutes later yells up the steps at sil to get up and sil responds..hmmm..thought she couldnt here anything ..plus i heard her telluing the baby to shut up and be quiet ect.

mil then made sil a nice cup of coffee and a big lunch and they are sitting at the table chatting....while the baby wonders my house ( im watching but sil doesnt know that) if i wasnt so damn tired from being up all night i would say something but ill just let dh handle it later.



Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2013 at 11:53 AM
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MommyRJ
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:27 PM
Agree






Quoting sampson200:

It's YOUR home.

Crank up your music, set it outside her room, blast some KISS or something.

Take the baby, feed and change her, and when lovely SIL comes down, let her know that her time at your place is OVER.

And if MIL has an issue with that, she is more that able to find another home to live in as she sees fit.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:29 PM
Mil is the only one living here. We let her move in because her husband had an affair and let the house forclose without her knowing. She was only supposed to stay till January but now needs till August. She let us live with her for two years when we first started out and hit hard times so we felt we owed her...sil follows mil and thinks because her mom lives here she can do dust she wants...sil is only 19.


Quoting MrsDavidB25:

 Then MIL would be out. Why do you allow all of these people to live in YOUR home?


Quoting Anonymous:


ive tried. mil allows this. i watch the baby to help out and so i know shes taken care of because god knows what would happen otherwise. sil has been caught smoking a blunt while the baby played at her feet. so if its ok for her to do that  who knows what enviroment she would leave the baby in.  and as far as cps... she has been reported SOOOOO many times by multiple people and they havnt even investigated. cps does nothing here. we tried to  get her to sign rights to  either me or mil so we could take care of her properly and sil refuses. she wont let someone hae the legal right to care for her but she wants us to raise  the kid anyways ...and i refuse to do that. if im going to raise the baby im not having her mother walking  in and out as she pleases taking the baby from me when she feels like being a mom and dumping her off when she doesnt. ( which is what she was doing) for the first year i thought of that baby as my own because i had to care for her, take her to drs apts, do physical therapy with her, go to specailists ect. her mother has NEVER gone to one of these apts, doesnt do the exersizes or work with her. i begged her to let me have her so sil could go to school and get her life together, get a stable place, ect. sil refused but still expected me and mil to raise the baby so i had to pull back. it broke my heart to see how neglected this child is, and love her so much. i had to pull back and let sil make her mistakes and hope for the best. i pray cps gets inolved but i know how cps works here and they wont do anything till its to late.


 


Quoting LoveMyLos:


they wouldn't be in my house. i wouldn't be watching the baby. and i would be on cps's asses like white on rice. what a loser.


 


 


 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:29 PM
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I getany you don't want to take cafe of the baby......but clearly the baby isn't going to make her get up.

Start being LOUD & rude. Take care of the INNOCENT baby- or your no better...and when she gets up.
Tell her to leave. If MIL gets upset...show her the door.
sampson200
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:35 PM
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If that were happening in my home, I would be SO angry.

I would walk into that bedroom, SLAMMING the door open, grab up that poor baby, and wake my lazy SIL up by yelling about what an ungrateful and shoddy mother she was and if she started to talk back, I would tell her if she didn't like what I had to say she was welcome to leave my home and could return when she grew the fuck up and learned some motherfucking responsibility.

Babies do NOT get abused and neglected in my home.

Those who do so will be kicked out swiftly with their baby still in my arms.

I would not be allowing her to just sleep around and be lazy when there is a child in need, OP.

Go wake her ass up RUDELY and tell her that you'll be coming in every 3 minutes with pots and pans and dancing children jumping on the bed until she wakes up and washes her face and begins to act like an adult.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:40 PM
I now have the baby...she's out cold...mil said she took some medication last night or something...whatever ...how about every other time she does this?


Quoting sampson200:

If that were happening in my home, I would be SO angry.

I would walk into that bedroom, SLAMMING the door open, grab up that poor baby, and wake my lazy SIL up by yelling about what an ungrateful and shoddy mother she was and if she started to talk back, I would tell her if she didn't like what I had to say she was welcome to leave my home and could return when she grew the fuck up and learned some motherfucking responsibility.

Babies do NOT get abused and neglected in my home.

Those who do so will be kicked out swiftly with their baby still in my arms.

I would not be allowing her to just sleep around and be lazy when there is a child in need, OP.

Go wake her ass up RUDELY and tell her that you'll be coming in every 3 minutes with pots and pans and dancing children jumping on the bed until she wakes up and washes her face and begins to act like an adult.


afwifeandmommy3
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:42 PM
Go tell her to leave . She has 30 min to get out . She doesn't live there .
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amy31308
by Ashlee on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:43 PM
Start video recording this garbage and call the cops for neglect and give copies to cps and make more reports. Then I would take care of the baby. It isnt the babies fault. It's not your problem but if she is in your home then I would feel responsible and wouldn't want a child to suffer a form of abuse because its "not my problem". Take care of that baby and fight for its rights. :(

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sampson200
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:44 PM
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Your husband should be dealing with this issue; it's his family.

I would have him inform his mother that his sister is no longer welcome in YOUR home unless she is 100% accountable for her child and her actions.

They have now both been warned that if something close to this happens again, you have the authority and the RIGHT to tell her she has 10 minutes to leave your home or you will be calling the police to escort her out.

His wife will no longer be handling her slacking parenting skills and if mom doesn't like this, she is more than welcome to find another home or apartment before August because this will not be happening for another 6 months.

Quoting Anonymous:

I now have the baby...she's out cold...mil said she took some medication last night or something...whatever ...how about every other time she does this?


Quoting sampson200:

If that were happening in my home, I would be SO angry.

I would walk into that bedroom, SLAMMING the door open, grab up that poor baby, and wake my lazy SIL up by yelling about what an ungrateful and shoddy mother she was and if she started to talk back, I would tell her if she didn't like what I had to say she was welcome to leave my home and could return when she grew the fuck up and learned some motherfucking responsibility.

Babies do NOT get abused and neglected in my home.

Those who do so will be kicked out swiftly with their baby still in my arms.

I would not be allowing her to just sleep around and be lazy when there is a child in need, OP.

Go wake her ass up RUDELY and tell her that you'll be coming in every 3 minutes with pots and pans and dancing children jumping on the bed until she wakes up and washes her face and begins to act like an adult.



ashthecat
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:44 PM
If this situation is as bad as it seems, you need to fight for that baby. It seems to me you are more of a mother to this baby than your SIL will ever be.
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JZB
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:46 PM
How late does sil sleep in?
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