"Stay home from the party and watch my kid"

[Anonymous]

My sister has two DDs. The older is turning 5 next week and the younger is 2 1/2. My older niece is having a birthday party at a Gymboree type place (a giant fast food play place only indoors with a game room) this Saturday. The party will be in a private play room appropriate for kids 4 and older, but there is also a smaller play area for younger kids in the room. There will be about 15 kids (including my niece and my 4.5 year old DS) ages 4 and 5 there at a two hour party.

My sister just called me and said she doesn't want her younger one at the party because she will want to play where the bigger kids are and will throw a fit and that she (my sister) "doesn't want to deal with her and wants to relax and enjoy the party." So she asked if my DH can take DS to the party and if I will stay home and watch my younger niece.

Both my sister and her husband will be at the party. I just don't understand why having my younger niece there is such a big deal. This is DS' first time attending a birthday party, and he is mildly autistic so both DH and I are planning to be at the party to support him. I definitely think DH could handle DS alone, but I just don't think I should have to stay home from my niece's birthday party because my sister doesn't want to deal with HER kid.

What do you ladies think? What would you do?

To add: I did tell her no. She sounded very annoyed and said, "I guess I will figure something out"

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Bump!

[Anonymous]

Tell her that.....if she doesn't want her younger dd there then she can hire a sitter

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

She said she can't afford a sitter and doesn't want to leave DN with someone she doesn't know

Quoting Anonymous:

Tell her that.....if she doesn't want her younger dd there then she can hire a sitter

[Anonymous]

Too bad for her then.....why is this your problem?

Quoting Anonymous:

She said she can't afford a sitter and doesn't want to leave DN with someone she doesn't know

Quoting Anonymous:

Tell her that.....if she doesn't want her younger dd there then she can hire a sitter

[TAG_ur_it]

i'd tell her she needs to find a sitter, that if your son goes, you go.  period.  her child is not your responsibility

[Anonymous]

I would tell her they are her children her responsibility. I wouldn't do it personally. She should have thought about that before hand and hired a sitter. Why should you have to stay home with her child? People these days!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

That's what I don't understand

Quoting Anonymous:

Too bad for her then.....why is this your problem?

Quoting Anonymous:

She said she can't afford a sitter and doesn't want to leave DN with someone she doesn't know

Quoting Anonymous:

Tell her that.....if she doesn't want her younger dd there then she can hire a sitter

[CoolRelax]

The fact that she would try to exlude one kid from the other kid's party is crazy.  Just tell her no, and that you and your dh plan on being there for your son.  That's the dumbest idea of heard all day. 

[zebbyzebby06]

Say no she can find a sitter

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Thank you! She is constantly trying to pawn the girls off because she "doesn't want to deal with blah blah blah"

Quoting TAG_ur_it:

i'd tell her she needs to find a sitter, that if your son goes, you go.  period.  her child is not your responsibility