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would you be offended or am i over reacting? *edit*

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 just got off the phone with dh's cousin. apparently they dont like coming over here in the winter (or rainy weather) because we do not allow smoking in the house. I do not want my house to smell like an ashtray but it sucks that family wont come over for a better chunk of the year because of it. I have been tempted to say f--k it, let them smoke in here but then i remember what my mothers house always looked and smelled like from smokers. and i am actually upset that that is the reason why they dont come over here. would you be offended too or am i getting upset for no reason?

 

you all are replying faster than i can read LOL ok to answer a few questions:

1. we  do go over there and deal with the smoke smell and the wall of smoke that you literally walk into, i can tolerate it for a few hours before i get sick

2. would you want your kids around that much smoke (for those who are saying so go over there)

3. i am offended and upset that they cant be bothered to visit, yes they are respecting boundries but i think they are going about it in the wrong way.

by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 9:56 PM
Replies (11-20):
SRUsarahSC
by Platinum Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 9:59 PM

NO way anyone smokes in my house, including my MIL.  Everyone completely respects the rule.  You'e not overreacting.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 6, 2013 at 9:59 PM
I wouldn't worry about it. I know with family it's hard, but it's there problem. If they want to come over they need to respect your wishes.
BeAmour
by Tonya on Feb. 6, 2013 at 9:59 PM

 Fuck them.

ElitestJen
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 9:59 PM



Quoting mary841108:

 because my kids really want to see them

Quoting ElitestJen:

You're getting upset over nothing.  You don't want smoke.  They don't want to come. What is there to be offended about?

What is with everyone getting butthurt over boundaries? 

 

So take your kids over there.

Or meet them at McDonalds.

Or tell your kids to suck it up.

Why do people have to come to your house to see your kids?


baquick
by Ruby Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 9:59 PM
Especially in a house with children.

Quoting beachbabies6:

Your house , your rules , I am a smoker , I wouldn't even think of smoking in a house of non smokers 

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mama_carmel
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:00 PM
You are not over reacting. It's your house. If the rule is "no smoking" that means NO SMOKING.
leavinglasvegas
by Bronze Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:00 PM

I smoke, but I don't smoke in my house or anyone else's - I smoke outside. If anyone is in my home and smokes, they can smoke outside as well. If they won't spend time with you because they care more about smoking in your house than spending time with you, then better that they stay at home.

brittany208
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:00 PM

I wouldn't be offended. Maybe you could visit them? Or they could come on a day when its not as cold. Even in the winter, there are days when it isn't freezing and it wouldn't hurt them to be outside for 5 minutes in 40* weather. but i wouldn't be upset over it.

Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:00 PM

No I wouldn't be offended at all. Better they stay away from my house with those stinky cancer causing sticks that would get shoved up their nostrils IF they tried to sneak one at my house, lol

sorcha1945
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:00 PM
This. Your house, your rules and thay are abiding by it. Whats the problem?

Quoting ElitestJen:

You're getting upset over nothing.  You don't want smoke.  They don't want to come. What is there to be offended about?

What is with everyone getting butthurt over boundaries? 

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