Might be pregnant by another man! My husband of two years whom I have one beautiful daughter with decided he was done. He told me 6 months ago that if I found someone else who was interested that I was free to move on even though the divorce isnt finalized. He now has her most of the time because of my health, and while I was on what was supposed to be a two week mini vacation to meet a long distance friend, I instead found my soulmate (who knew our friendship had gone so far? I didnt until I saw him for the first time and went "DANGIT, I love this man." He felt the same way) and in the same breath developed a pulmonary embolism. They IMMEDIATELY took me off the pill and put me on blood thinners. He and I had been using condoms every time EXCEPT, of course, the day I developed the chest pain. My AF showed up the next day, hallelujah.
Flash forward two weeks. I woke up having ovulation pains one morning, they went away and my partner (thats the only word strong enough to describe me and my soulmates relationship) and I resumed our intimacy. He is, to put it politely, just a smidge under the "too big for normal condoms" line, and the condom snapped RIGHT as he was finishing up, so to speak. Nailed that one RIGHT on the head, didn't I? ALSO, my partner tends to keep going after he has finished, and last night I realized that it caused the condom to leak (don't say it, I should have known all along. I know, I'm not used to being with "equipped" guys who can keep going).
HERES MY ISSUE: I can't take the morning after pill because it could kill me, the nurses at the hospital said so. A miscarriage could kill me as well as a pregnancy with ANY complications (my first was a little complicated, to say the least), even a normal pregnancy could mean death because of the increased clotting risk. Now I have to sit and wait to discover my fate, so to speak.
My family is made up of largely STRICT Christians and would not understand. I am considering moving here for the next year to be with him since I just found out my housing situation will not work anymore. I would fly to visit my daughter as often as I could, but I'm scared to fly home and face the shame of becoming pregnant by someone while technically married to someone else. Any advice/anyone in the same or similar boat?