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Wtf is wrong with my hair??

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I don't know if you can tell from the pic but it's very coarse. It has like...indentions running down the hairs. It's never been dyed or straightened, not been curled or blow dried in 10+ years.

What's wrong and how do I fix it??
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:07 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:27 AM
Thank you. It's embarrassing!! Do I need to go when it's freshly washed?


Quoting Anonymous:

Go to a salon. As a stylist all I see is damaged hair, however if I felt it I would know more. They could tell you the problem and take steps to help you correct it.

40sandPreg
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:28 AM
I'd go to an Aveda salon - not that AvEEda stuff from grocery stores Aveda - expect to spend money.

Otherwise I'd blow dry to get the kinks out & make them straighter. Since that's what you're going for.


Quoting Anonymous:

What kind of specialist??




Quoting mummyLauano:

ITS CRYING FOR A LIL TLC (TENDER - LOVE AND CARE) go to a hair salon and ask a specialist.. she knows better .. good luck ;)


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The_Doodle
by Platinum Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:28 AM

If I were you I would do a water/apple cider vinegar rinse to get shampoo/conditioner buildup off the hair then find some type of hair treatment and do that the next day. I've never had my hair do this though so I have no idea if that would work.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:28 AM
Yes, it works on the rest which is softer but does nothing for these pieces.


Quoting marihla:

Have you tried hot oil treatments? Some women swear by them.. even warmed up olive oil.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:29 AM

Stop using John Frieda. It is junk, no offense. I would not even put a shampoo on my hair if it didn't say sulfate free, and even then you have to be choosy. Secondly, I would aim for a few more times a year than that. Your hair is splitting and getting breakage. It is a hair type that is prone to doing so, so it needs a little more attention. Moisturizing and regular trims is going to be the best thing for your hair type, and don't let conditioner fool you. A lot of it is just silicones that plug your hair cuticle, and make it LOOK smooth. It does not actually moisturize necessarily. In reality, putting it on your hair too much can plug it, and when your hair needs moisture, it can't get in because of the silicones, so actually cut down some on the conditioning, and get some EVCO and use it once a week or so. Sleep with it in, and get a shower cap to wear over your head. 

Quoting Anonymous:

About 4x a year, it grows so slowly. I use John Frieda. It's like cracked or something all the way down. At least half of it is like this. I went to a hairdresser on Sunday who said I needed to stop using heat on it. I haven't done that in years :-(.


Quoting Anonymous:

How often do you get it trimmed, and what shampoo and conditioner are you using? It looks like major splitting?



RLT2
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:29 AM

First of all, is that a pube? Because that shit is almost as long as mine, not that I'm bragging...

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:29 AM
The coarsest hairs are on the very top of my head. They're the ones that are the shortest. It starts at the root and goes to the end.


Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

Is the coarse part of the hair all the way up and down, or is it near shoulders/mid back?  Sometimes with longer hair it can get messed up by the backs of chairs.



Quoting Anonymous:

If I wear it up, I just do a loose ponytail to keep it out of my face. It's about at the middle of my back. I live in Tennessee so pretty mild all the time. No more sun than normal.



I will try that tomorrow, thank you!!





Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

Do you wear your hair up, use clips, bobby pins or anything?  It could be crimping if those things are too tight.

What is the environment like?  Hot or cold?  Are you getting more sun than normal?

It is also possible it is just changing some with age.

Another trick to use, but it will take time:
Make the water hot while the conditioner is in your hair.  This opens the follicle and allows the conditioning agents to seep deep in.  Then, use cooler water to rinse the conditioners out.  This closes the follicle, locking conditioning agents in, and helping the hair to remain smooth. 




Quoting Anonymous:

White.


Wavy but mostly straight.


Every 3 days or so--gets dry otherwise.


Soft water.


I use a conditioner and a leave-in.


I let it air dry and comb it with a big comb, I only use a brush to gather it if I have to put it up (once a week).








Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

Ethnicity?
Straight or Curly?
How often do you wash it?
Hard or soft water?
Do you use conditioners?
How do you dry it and comb it?














Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:30 AM
Lol no that is disgusting. That's the hair on my head.


Quoting RLT2:

First of all, is that a pube? Because that shit is almost as long as mine, not that I'm bragging...


marihla
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:30 AM

Ugh. That sucks. I got nothing.

Quoting Anonymous:

Yes, it works on the rest which is softer but does nothing for these pieces.


Quoting marihla:

Have you tried hot oil treatments? Some women swear by them.. even warmed up olive oil.



rkkeller13
by Kristy on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:30 AM
It seems to be normal. I would be able to be 100% sure unless I saw it in person. As we get "older" our hair does change in texture and color. I don't see any red flags in the strand but again I can't really be sure from a pic. If your really concerned get a physical from your Dr and have them check your thyroid. The thyroid can mess with your hair as well. I hope this helped a lil. Oh fyi I am a state licensed cosmotologist with several years under my belt working in an upscale salon and spa. I am currently a SAHM tho cause I don't want to miss a sec on my sons life, lol.
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