okay so alot of you women on here agree that its all b.s. and they just need discipline, or the mothers just want a check or something from the goverment.
well lets see what you all think about this.
my son is diagnosed with autism and spd
i myself believe that in some cases it is overly diagnosed.
hell sometimes i even question my own parenting in wondering if i could somehow make him diffrent,
however, i do not recieve ssi for him.
i refuse to apply because its like a scar on his name, and even when hes an adult it will make it hard for him to get a job because he will have the history of being on ssi.
I firmly believe in discipline and spanking.
which really stands me apart from most of the special needs community, and most moms on here.
i do not take any of my sons bad behavior.
however it does not change.
i have tried every punishment, every reward, every redirection it does not help with him, he does not learn.
i treat him as a regular child. and do not baby him at all for him problems.
My brother is asbergers never formally dx'd hes weird arrogant but he works, and holds a job well. he made it, and was never treated differently by my parents.
I believe i have SPD, but will i go get myself dx'd no, it doesnt matter, i learn to cope with my problems, and i try not to let them affect my day to day life, and trust me, i have alot of difficulties.
yes i want my son to have a better life than me and my twin had, but im not gunna baby him and cave to his wants and meltdowns .
it wont prepare him at all for reality.
so while i agree with both sides of the arguement, i will say this
these disorders do exsist, they are in cases overly dx'd, and some moms harm their children more by babying them, than being more strict.
I will never judge a specifc mom for her choice in how to raise her kid, unless its in a way that will effect others or is abusive.
everyone has their own thing that works.
and some of us just do what we can because nothing works.
their is no need to bash other mothers, or argue and demand that they are wrong and you are right, every mother, father, child is different, and has different skills, ablities, and ideas on parenting, and behaving.
500 plus replies of arguing about something neither side will budge on is simply pointless, and just makes both sides sound stupid.