S.O. drama with ex fiancé ***update after talking***
Here is my situation, W has not seen or spoke to H since the breakup almost 3 years ago. When we got together he told me about that relationship and I asked if he would ever try to get in contact with H or her child again, he said never there was too much hurt there. So today I get a call from W saying he has an opportunity to see the child again and wants to know my opinion. I told W I wasn't comfortable with him starting a relationship ( as friends) with the child and mother again. It went from him saying he just wants to see how the child is doing to providing for the child if they don't have something and that he wants to be active in the childs life. I am floored that in the same breath as him wanting me and my kid to relocate to live with him and start our own family that he would go and contact H to start a relationship back up with her child.
Am I wrong for not wanting him to be around this kid he helped raised but hasn't had contact with for the last 3 years?
I told W I don't want him seeing this girl since its not just a friendship with the child he would have to have but with his ex as well. He told me he's seeing the child and I can just deal with it or move on because I'm just being selfish. He said the girl would call him by his first name and when I asked if it would be just a one time thing since he initially said all he wanted was to make sure she's taken care of he said he hasn't decided if spending time with them will become a regular thing. I'm pissed that he isn't taking my feelings into account at all and when I said I don't want this meeting done at the exs place he said I have no right to place restrictions on him, at this point it's looking like our relationship won't be lasting much longer.