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Undiagnosed autism?

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My nephew is going to be 5 next month. He doesn't say a single word. He is still in diapers and he shows no emotion. He still chews on everything. Everyone in the family says he has autism...everyone except his parents. They say his pediatrician says its normal. They were supposed to see a specialist over a year ago and never went. My fear is they are just going to try and throw him in a normal kindergarten class and he is going to have such a hard time. He needed to be getting help two years ago and I feel its too late. It seems as if they don't want to accept that there is something wrong with their child.
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 7, 2013 at 8:26 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 8, 2013 at 12:35 PM
Thank you :) I always try to talk to my SIL about it but she doesn't listen. We can all see there is something not quite right about him.


Quoting sweetboys4me:


Have his parents call the school districts special education dept in the morning and see what they suggest.  It may take some time to get him observed, go over the results, write an IEP, and get him started.  My son was evaluated the tuesday after Labor Day.  Took about 4-5 wks for the specialists and psychologists to analyze the info and write a report.  We had his IEP on October 18th where we set specific goals for him to meet during the school year (included various therapists and specified therapies).  Took about a week for transportation to work him into their system.  His first day of school was Oct 30th.  With that said, we knew he was needing services and it still took 2 months to get him in the system. For the sake of your nephew, beg his parents to call and get the ball rolling asap!!!  I'll keep him in my thoughts.  Best wishes


Quoting Anonymous:

He is 4 almost 5. His parents think it's normal but my niece was speaking, reading, and knew math and numbers by that age while my nephew acts like my 1 year old.





Quoting sweetboys4me:


No one over the internet can diagnose a child.  How old is he though? 

There are various programs (federally funded) to evaluate and serve children with disabilities up to the age of three.  He will need to be refered for evaluation by a doctor.  The process is simple.  Fill out questionaires and go in for evauation/observation to see if he qualifies for services.  I'm in GA so cannot speak for everywhere else.  All therapies were done in my house.  No transporting anywhere after he was deemed eligible.

If he is over the age of three (don't quote me on this but I am pretty sure he does not need a referal), have his parents call the school district he is in and have him evaluated for special needs placement.  The parents will have to fill out a questionaire and take him in for an evaluation/observation as well. 

Whatever you do, do not panic!!!  Many children have delays and are not autistic! 



Quoting Anonymous:

Does that mean my nephew might be autistic? He still acts like a baby and doesn't talk yet


I think him and my 1 year old act the same and babble the same way.











sweetboys4me
by Gold Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:05 PM

All you can do is suggest. Don't take it personal if they do not take your advice.  Just try and be supportive as much as possible. How often do you see him?  What are his behaviors?  He doesn't talk, but does he communicate in other ways like pointing?  Or does he seem to always melt down into a tantrum? If you are around him often there are some different strategies you can try to help him.  My son and I are going for a walk tomorrow with my neighbor who is an ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) therapist.  She is going to be helping me work on ways to get him to not run off when we go outside.  If you have any questions you would like me to ask her for you, just PM me.  She was an ABA therapist for 4 years (working exclusively with autistic children) and she is currently a special education teacher for the moderately disabled.  Share with me whatever you are comfortable with, and I will talk to her on your nephews behalf.   Unfortunately the parents have to initiate any sort of medical evaluation or treatment, but you may be able to do certain things to help him in the meantime. 


Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you :) I always try to talk to my SIL about it but she doesn't listen. We can all see there is something not quite right about him.


Quoting sweetboys4me:


Have his parents call the school districts special education dept in the morning and see what they suggest.  It may take some time to get him observed, go over the results, write an IEP, and get him started.  My son was evaluated the tuesday after Labor Day.  Took about 4-5 wks for the specialists and psychologists to analyze the info and write a report.  We had his IEP on October 18th where we set specific goals for him to meet during the school year (included various therapists and specified therapies).  Took about a week for transportation to work him into their system.  His first day of school was Oct 30th.  With that said, we knew he was needing services and it still took 2 months to get him in the system. For the sake of your nephew, beg his parents to call and get the ball rolling asap!!!  I'll keep him in my thoughts.  Best wishes


Quoting Anonymous:

He is 4 almost 5. His parents think it's normal but my niece was speaking, reading, and knew math and numbers by that age while my nephew acts like my 1 year old.





Quoting sweetboys4me:


No one over the internet can diagnose a child.  How old is he though? 

There are various programs (federally funded) to evaluate and serve children with disabilities up to the age of three.  He will need to be refered for evaluation by a doctor.  The process is simple.  Fill out questionaires and go in for evauation/observation to see if he qualifies for services.  I'm in GA so cannot speak for everywhere else.  All therapies were done in my house.  No transporting anywhere after he was deemed eligible.

If he is over the age of three (don't quote me on this but I am pretty sure he does not need a referal), have his parents call the school district he is in and have him evaluated for special needs placement.  The parents will have to fill out a questionaire and take him in for an evaluation/observation as well. 

Whatever you do, do not panic!!!  Many children have delays and are not autistic! 



Quoting Anonymous:

Does that mean my nephew might be autistic? He still acts like a baby and doesn't talk yet


I think him and my 1 year old act the same and babble the same way.













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