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How to keep mother in laws at arms length ?

Mine gets in my DH ear then the next thing I know everything I thought we agreed on ....we don't

She tries to tell our DD'S what to wear if we go somewhere,drives me crazy!

We used to get along really well,then she got really rude,made nasty comments towards my family.So I stopped talking to her.She moved 4 hours away but it hasn't stopped her.HELP ANY ADVICE without me being rude back towards her.I don't want my DD'S to see me act the same way she does.They already see how she acts.I want to be better than that.

Sorry if I didnt space my words right,or if I have run on sentences .I just need advice.Thanks

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:58 PM
Replies (51-60):
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 8, 2013 at 3:41 PM

 I ask myself why must this person keep coming back just to have the last word....

Maybe she thinks it makes her look smarter or that  she has 'won' which is completely false. I don't care whether I have the last word or not, some people aren't even worth arguing with. Someone who knows they're right, doesn't feel the need to prove it to anyone.


Quoting Anonymous:

I did not, I said I would appreciate being corrected if I sounded like someone who is taking English as a second language, and that still says nothing about Native Americans. Again, reading comprehension darling. And I don't have to go to bed, I'm on maternity leave. I'm not a bully, if you would stop responding with silly statements, poor grammar and a complete lack of understanding of the words you are reading, you wouldn't hear from me again. 

 

Quoting Anonymous:

You just stated I need to take English as a second course .Didn't you ????
I find it soooooooooooo funny you don't have the balls to respond to all the others who are coming down on about your comments just me...hmmmm BULLY !!!!! GO TO BED GET READY FOR SCHOOL IF YOU ARE REALLY A TEACHER ! I BET YOU JUST LIKE RUNNING YOUR MOUTH THOUGH BECAUSE YOUR BEHIND THAT COMPUTER ! IT'S CALLED HAVING COMPUTER BALLS ,WON'T SAY IT FACE TO FACE ONLY ONLY THROUGH A COMPUTER!

Quoting Anonymous:

Who said anything about Native Americans? A reading comprehension class may be in order as well.


Quoting Anonymous:

When did I ever say I was a native American.Have you ever heard of sometimes when others speak who aren't sometimes words get mixed up.You shouldn't always assume.Yes I did go to Yale don't care if you believe or not .That is not what I posted about to begin with.Also I came here not knowing any english finished highschool.I teach our kids if you work hard you can achieve anything you want and I did.I am very proud.



Quoting Anonymous:

 

You went to Yale and don't even know the plural of "mother n law"? I don't believe you. I don't need to pretend that I went to an ivy league school, I graduated from Concord College, class of '98. I have no insecurities, I just think its a common courtesy to correct other's grammar; I sure would appreciate others correcting mine if I sounded like someone taking English as a second language... perhaps that's just because I value knowledge more than the average 'merican.



Quoting Anonymous:

Ma'am what college did you go to that allowed or handed you a degree?I myself went to Yale hopefully my kids will folllow.You shouldn't always past judgement .Haven't you heard that said before? Did your mother or dad ever teach you that? Sounds to me like maybe you are little insecure,that could be why you feel the need to pick on others .





Quoting Anonymous:

 

Ahhh, it warms my soul to see children overcome the ignorance of their parents. Good on them!




Quoting Anonymous:

The only problem is I didn't ask for this "favor"you gave.I am not your student.I didn't get pissy with you.Get off your high horsepeople like you who say I am a teacher I know everything .Your kids must be awful,trash,dumb etc WRONG.My daughters are a A honor and in sports.So stop judging,no one is perfect .You are not perfect..Bless your heart and the students you teach.To say you never make a mistake makes me laugh !!!! BLESS YOUR HEART







Quoting Anonymous:

No, what's silly is for someone to get pissy when another person corrects their grammar because doing so is a favor. If you behave that way, it is safe to assume that you have taught your offspring to do so as well... and that's why kids today don't know how to speak properly.

 





Quoting Anonymous:

Not sure why my children are being brought into to this? I asked advise about my MIL.Why are you being so mean towards me?Is it only because I wrote mother in laws ??? Now that sounds silly for a grown woman.









Quoting Anonymous:

I hope you children aren't so resistant to learning proper grammar; most decent people appreciate being corrected when they sound ignorant from a lack of proper grammar. 

 






Quoting Anonymous:

Honestly get a life ..mother in laws..mothers in law ..lord











Quoting Anonymous:

*Mothers in law.

 






 

 





 

 




 

 



 

 


 

 

 

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 8, 2013 at 3:47 PM

lol Why comment again if you don't "want the last word"? Why not just be the bigger person and walk away? If she is so petty, just give her what she wants and let her think shes won.

Different anon, btw.


Quoting Anonymous:

 I ask myself why must this person keep coming back just to have the last word....

Maybe she thinks it makes her look smarter or that  she has 'won' which is completely false. I don't care whether I have the last word or not, some people aren't even worth arguing with. Someone who knows they're right, doesn't feel the need to prove it to anyone.


Quoting Anonymous:

I did not, I said I would appreciate being corrected if I sounded like someone who is taking English as a second language, and that still says nothing about Native Americans. Again, reading comprehension darling. And I don't have to go to bed, I'm on maternity leave. I'm not a bully, if you would stop responding with silly statements, poor grammar and a complete lack of understanding of the words you are reading, you wouldn't hear from me again. 


Quoting Anonymous:

You just stated I need to take English as a second course .Didn't you ????
I find it soooooooooooo funny you don't have the balls to respond to all the others who are coming down on about your comments just me...hmmmm BULLY !!!!! GO TO BED GET READY FOR SCHOOL IF YOU ARE REALLY A TEACHER ! I BET YOU JUST LIKE RUNNING YOUR MOUTH THOUGH BECAUSE YOUR BEHIND THAT COMPUTER ! IT'S CALLED HAVING COMPUTER BALLS ,WON'T SAY IT FACE TO FACE ONLY ONLY THROUGH A COMPUTER!

Quoting Anonymous:

Who said anything about Native Americans? A reading comprehension class may be in order as well.


Quoting Anonymous:

When did I ever say I was a native American.Have you ever heard of sometimes when others speak who aren't sometimes words get mixed up.You shouldn't always assume.Yes I did go to Yale don't care if you believe or not .That is not what I posted about to begin with.Also I came here not knowing any english finished highschool.I teach our kids if you work hard you can achieve anything you want and I did.I am very proud.



Quoting Anonymous:


You went to Yale and don't even know the plural of "mother n law"? I don't believe you. I don't need to pretend that I went to an ivy league school, I graduated from Concord College, class of '98. I have no insecurities, I just think its a common courtesy to correct other's grammar; I sure would appreciate others correcting mine if I sounded like someone taking English as a second language... perhaps that's just because I value knowledge more than the average 'merican.



Quoting Anonymous:

Ma'am what college did you go to that allowed or handed you a degree?I myself went to Yale hopefully my kids will folllow.You shouldn't always past judgement .Haven't you heard that said before? Did your mother or dad ever teach you that? Sounds to me like maybe you are little insecure,that could be why you feel the need to pick on others .





Quoting Anonymous:


Ahhh, it warms my soul to see children overcome the ignorance of their parents. Good on them!




Quoting Anonymous:

The only problem is I didn't ask for this "favor"you gave.I am not your student.I didn't get pissy with you.Get off your high horsepeople like you who say I am a teacher I know everything .Your kids must be awful,trash,dumb etc WRONG.My daughters are a A honor and in sports.So stop judging,no one is perfect .You are not perfect..Bless your heart and the students you teach.To say you never make a mistake makes me laugh !!!! BLESS YOUR HEART







Quoting Anonymous:

No, what's silly is for someone to get pissy when another person corrects their grammar because doing so is a favor. If you behave that way, it is safe to assume that you have taught your offspring to do so as well... and that's why kids today don't know how to speak properly.






Quoting Anonymous:

Not sure why my children are being brought into to this? I asked advise about my MIL.Why are you being so mean towards me?Is it only because I wrote mother in laws ??? Now that sounds silly for a grown woman.









Quoting Anonymous:

I hope you children aren't so resistant to learning proper grammar; most decent people appreciate being corrected when they sound ignorant from a lack of proper grammar. 







Quoting Anonymous:

Honestly get a life ..mother in laws..mothers in law ..lord











Quoting Anonymous:

*Mothers in law.































happinessforyou
by Gold Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 3:49 PM

IMO- "CONFRONTING" her sounds like you want/need a fight! lol

How about meeting her 1/2 way for coffee/lunch and ask her what's going on? You used to get along? What changed? Sometimes some open dialogue goes a lot farther than a confrontation. KWIM :)


Quoting childofgod04:

I would just confront her and tell her how you feel and if she doesn't listen then she can't be around your kids.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 8, 2013 at 4:05 PM

 Great another one.I did leave it alone she decided to start it up again today not me ! She started with the name calling and putting me down .All I did was post asking for something and I get corrected over and over again as if I were her student or child.That is not what I asked for.If she didnt have any advice to offer she should have went on to the next one.Maybe she could find someone else to pick on or bully.Whatever you would like to call it I didnt like it.I have that right ...I thought

Quoting Anonymous:

lol Why comment again if you don't "want the last word"? Why not just be the bigger person and walk away? If she is so petty, just give her what she wants and let her think shes won.

Different anon, btw.

 

Quoting Anonymous:

 I ask myself why must this person keep coming back just to have the last word....

Maybe she thinks it makes her look smarter or that  she has 'won' which is completely false. I don't care whether I have the last word or not, some people aren't even worth arguing with. Someone who knows they're right, doesn't feel the need to prove it to anyone.


Quoting Anonymous:

I did not, I said I would appreciate being corrected if I sounded like someone who is taking English as a second language, and that still says nothing about Native Americans. Again, reading comprehension darling. And I don't have to go to bed, I'm on maternity leave. I'm not a bully, if you would stop responding with silly statements, poor grammar and a complete lack of understanding of the words you are reading, you wouldn't hear from me again. 

 

Quoting Anonymous:

You just stated I need to take English as a second course .Didn't you ????
I find it soooooooooooo funny you don't have the balls to respond to all the others who are coming down on about your comments just me...hmmmm BULLY !!!!! GO TO BED GET READY FOR SCHOOL IF YOU ARE REALLY A TEACHER ! I BET YOU JUST LIKE RUNNING YOUR MOUTH THOUGH BECAUSE YOUR BEHIND THAT COMPUTER ! IT'S CALLED HAVING COMPUTER BALLS ,WON'T SAY IT FACE TO FACE ONLY ONLY THROUGH A COMPUTER!

Quoting Anonymous:

Who said anything about Native Americans? A reading comprehension class may be in order as well.


Quoting Anonymous:

When did I ever say I was a native American.Have you ever heard of sometimes when others speak who aren't sometimes words get mixed up.You shouldn't always assume.Yes I did go to Yale don't care if you believe or not .That is not what I posted about to begin with.Also I came here not knowing any english finished highschool.I teach our kids if you work hard you can achieve anything you want and I did.I am very proud.



Quoting Anonymous:

 

You went to Yale and don't even know the plural of "mother n law"? I don't believe you. I don't need to pretend that I went to an ivy league school, I graduated from Concord College, class of '98. I have no insecurities, I just think its a common courtesy to correct other's grammar; I sure would appreciate others correcting mine if I sounded like someone taking English as a second language... perhaps that's just because I value knowledge more than the average 'merican.



Quoting Anonymous:

Ma'am what college did you go to that allowed or handed you a degree?I myself went to Yale hopefully my kids will folllow.You shouldn't always past judgement .Haven't you heard that said before? Did your mother or dad ever teach you that? Sounds to me like maybe you are little insecure,that could be why you feel the need to pick on others .





Quoting Anonymous:

 

Ahhh, it warms my soul to see children overcome the ignorance of their parents. Good on them!




Quoting Anonymous:

The only problem is I didn't ask for this "favor"you gave.I am not your student.I didn't get pissy with you.Get off your high horsepeople like you who say I am a teacher I know everything .Your kids must be awful,trash,dumb etc WRONG.My daughters are a A honor and in sports.So stop judging,no one is perfect .You are not perfect..Bless your heart and the students you teach.To say you never make a mistake makes me laugh !!!! BLESS YOUR HEART







Quoting Anonymous:

No, what's silly is for someone to get pissy when another person corrects their grammar because doing so is a favor. If you behave that way, it is safe to assume that you have taught your offspring to do so as well... and that's why kids today don't know how to speak properly.

 





Quoting Anonymous:

Not sure why my children are being brought into to this? I asked advise about my MIL.Why are you being so mean towards me?Is it only because I wrote mother in laws ??? Now that sounds silly for a grown woman.









Quoting Anonymous:

I hope you children aren't so resistant to learning proper grammar; most decent people appreciate being corrected when they sound ignorant from a lack of proper grammar. 

 






Quoting Anonymous:

Honestly get a life ..mother in laws..mothers in law ..lord











Quoting Anonymous:

*Mothers in law.

 






 

 





 

 




 

 



 

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

SillySally83
by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 4:09 PM

I understand its frustrating when someone is picking and picking, but its the internet hon, if you don't respond she will just go away. We can't really be bullied online unless we let it happen in most cases. Just ignore the twats and they will find someone else to pick on :)


Quoting Anonymous:

 Great another one.I did leave it alone she decided to start it up again today not me ! She started with the name calling and putting me down .All I did was post asking for something and I get corrected over and over again as if I were her student or child.That is not what I asked for.If she didnt have any advice to offer she should have went on to the next one.Maybe she could find someone else to pick on or bully.Whatever you would like to call it I didnt like it.I have that right ...I thought

Quoting Anonymous:

lol Why comment again if you don't "want the last word"? Why not just be the bigger person and walk away? If she is so petty, just give her what she wants and let her think shes won.

Different anon, btw.


Quoting Anonymous:

 I ask myself why must this person keep coming back just to have the last word....

Maybe she thinks it makes her look smarter or that  she has 'won' which is completely false. I don't care whether I have the last word or not, some people aren't even worth arguing with. Someone who knows they're right, doesn't feel the need to prove it to anyone.


Quoting Anonymous:

I did not, I said I would appreciate being corrected if I sounded like someone who is taking English as a second language, and that still says nothing about Native Americans. Again, reading comprehension darling. And I don't have to go to bed, I'm on maternity leave. I'm not a bully, if you would stop responding with silly statements, poor grammar and a complete lack of understanding of the words you are reading, you wouldn't hear from me again. 


Quoting Anonymous:

You just stated I need to take English as a second course .Didn't you ????
I find it soooooooooooo funny you don't have the balls to respond to all the others who are coming down on about your comments just me...hmmmm BULLY !!!!! GO TO BED GET READY FOR SCHOOL IF YOU ARE REALLY A TEACHER ! I BET YOU JUST LIKE RUNNING YOUR MOUTH THOUGH BECAUSE YOUR BEHIND THAT COMPUTER ! IT'S CALLED HAVING COMPUTER BALLS ,WON'T SAY IT FACE TO FACE ONLY ONLY THROUGH A COMPUTER!

Quoting Anonymous:

Who said anything about Native Americans? A reading comprehension class may be in order as well.


Quoting Anonymous:

When did I ever say I was a native American.Have you ever heard of sometimes when others speak who aren't sometimes words get mixed up.You shouldn't always assume.Yes I did go to Yale don't care if you believe or not .That is not what I posted about to begin with.Also I came here not knowing any english finished highschool.I teach our kids if you work hard you can achieve anything you want and I did.I am very proud.



Quoting Anonymous:


You went to Yale and don't even know the plural of "mother n law"? I don't believe you. I don't need to pretend that I went to an ivy league school, I graduated from Concord College, class of '98. I have no insecurities, I just think its a common courtesy to correct other's grammar; I sure would appreciate others correcting mine if I sounded like someone taking English as a second language... perhaps that's just because I value knowledge more than the average 'merican.



Quoting Anonymous:

Ma'am what college did you go to that allowed or handed you a degree?I myself went to Yale hopefully my kids will folllow.You shouldn't always past judgement .Haven't you heard that said before? Did your mother or dad ever teach you that? Sounds to me like maybe you are little insecure,that could be why you feel the need to pick on others .





Quoting Anonymous:


Ahhh, it warms my soul to see children overcome the ignorance of their parents. Good on them!




Quoting Anonymous:

The only problem is I didn't ask for this "favor"you gave.I am not your student.I didn't get pissy with you.Get off your high horsepeople like you who say I am a teacher I know everything .Your kids must be awful,trash,dumb etc WRONG.My daughters are a A honor and in sports.So stop judging,no one is perfect .You are not perfect..Bless your heart and the students you teach.To say you never make a mistake makes me laugh !!!! BLESS YOUR HEART







Quoting Anonymous:

No, what's silly is for someone to get pissy when another person corrects their grammar because doing so is a favor. If you behave that way, it is safe to assume that you have taught your offspring to do so as well... and that's why kids today don't know how to speak properly.






Quoting Anonymous:

Not sure why my children are being brought into to this? I asked advise about my MIL.Why are you being so mean towards me?Is it only because I wrote mother in laws ??? Now that sounds silly for a grown woman.









Quoting Anonymous:

I hope you children aren't so resistant to learning proper grammar; most decent people appreciate being corrected when they sound ignorant from a lack of proper grammar. 







Quoting Anonymous:

Honestly get a life ..mother in laws..mothers in law ..lord











Quoting Anonymous:

*Mothers in law.


































Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 8, 2013 at 4:14 PM

I'm just saying, by not ignoring the bullies, you give them power.


Quoting Anonymous:

 Great another one.I did leave it alone she decided to start it up again today not me ! She started with the name calling and putting me down .All I did was post asking for something and I get corrected over and over again as if I were her student or child.That is not what I asked for.If she didnt have any advice to offer she should have went on to the next one.Maybe she could find someone else to pick on or bully.Whatever you would like to call it I didnt like it.I have that right ...I thought

Quoting Anonymous:

lol Why comment again if you don't "want the last word"? Why not just be the bigger person and walk away? If she is so petty, just give her what she wants and let her think shes won.

Different anon, btw.


Quoting Anonymous:

 I ask myself why must this person keep coming back just to have the last word....

Maybe she thinks it makes her look smarter or that  she has 'won' which is completely false. I don't care whether I have the last word or not, some people aren't even worth arguing with. Someone who knows they're right, doesn't feel the need to prove it to anyone.


Quoting Anonymous:

I did not, I said I would appreciate being corrected if I sounded like someone who is taking English as a second language, and that still says nothing about Native Americans. Again, reading comprehension darling. And I don't have to go to bed, I'm on maternity leave. I'm not a bully, if you would stop responding with silly statements, poor grammar and a complete lack of understanding of the words you are reading, you wouldn't hear from me again. 


Quoting Anonymous:

You just stated I need to take English as a second course .Didn't you ????
I find it soooooooooooo funny you don't have the balls to respond to all the others who are coming down on about your comments just me...hmmmm BULLY !!!!! GO TO BED GET READY FOR SCHOOL IF YOU ARE REALLY A TEACHER ! I BET YOU JUST LIKE RUNNING YOUR MOUTH THOUGH BECAUSE YOUR BEHIND THAT COMPUTER ! IT'S CALLED HAVING COMPUTER BALLS ,WON'T SAY IT FACE TO FACE ONLY ONLY THROUGH A COMPUTER!

Quoting Anonymous:

Who said anything about Native Americans? A reading comprehension class may be in order as well.


Quoting Anonymous:

When did I ever say I was a native American.Have you ever heard of sometimes when others speak who aren't sometimes words get mixed up.You shouldn't always assume.Yes I did go to Yale don't care if you believe or not .That is not what I posted about to begin with.Also I came here not knowing any english finished highschool.I teach our kids if you work hard you can achieve anything you want and I did.I am very proud.



Quoting Anonymous:


You went to Yale and don't even know the plural of "mother n law"? I don't believe you. I don't need to pretend that I went to an ivy league school, I graduated from Concord College, class of '98. I have no insecurities, I just think its a common courtesy to correct other's grammar; I sure would appreciate others correcting mine if I sounded like someone taking English as a second language... perhaps that's just because I value knowledge more than the average 'merican.



Quoting Anonymous:

Ma'am what college did you go to that allowed or handed you a degree?I myself went to Yale hopefully my kids will folllow.You shouldn't always past judgement .Haven't you heard that said before? Did your mother or dad ever teach you that? Sounds to me like maybe you are little insecure,that could be why you feel the need to pick on others .





Quoting Anonymous:


Ahhh, it warms my soul to see children overcome the ignorance of their parents. Good on them!




Quoting Anonymous:

The only problem is I didn't ask for this "favor"you gave.I am not your student.I didn't get pissy with you.Get off your high horsepeople like you who say I am a teacher I know everything .Your kids must be awful,trash,dumb etc WRONG.My daughters are a A honor and in sports.So stop judging,no one is perfect .You are not perfect..Bless your heart and the students you teach.To say you never make a mistake makes me laugh !!!! BLESS YOUR HEART







Quoting Anonymous:

No, what's silly is for someone to get pissy when another person corrects their grammar because doing so is a favor. If you behave that way, it is safe to assume that you have taught your offspring to do so as well... and that's why kids today don't know how to speak properly.






Quoting Anonymous:

Not sure why my children are being brought into to this? I asked advise about my MIL.Why are you being so mean towards me?Is it only because I wrote mother in laws ??? Now that sounds silly for a grown woman.









Quoting Anonymous:

I hope you children aren't so resistant to learning proper grammar; most decent people appreciate being corrected when they sound ignorant from a lack of proper grammar. 







Quoting Anonymous:

Honestly get a life ..mother in laws..mothers in law ..lord











Quoting Anonymous:

*Mothers in law.


































childofgod04
by Bronze Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 5:55 PM
1 mom liked this

That's what I meant. Sit down and talk to her. I guess confrontation wasn't the best word to use. I agree with you though.

Quoting happinessforyou:

IMO- "CONFRONTING" her sounds like you want/need a fight! lol

How about meeting her 1/2 way for coffee/lunch and ask her what's going on? You used to get along? What changed? Sometimes some open dialogue goes a lot farther than a confrontation. KWIM :)


Quoting childofgod04:

I would just confront her and tell her how you feel and if she doesn't listen then she can't be around your kids.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:33 AM

LOL I love how at first you were like, "my bad"  and then you were like, "get a life" LOL. Thanks for the laugh. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Honestly get a life ..mother in laws..mothers in law ..lord

Quoting Anonymous:

*Mothers in law.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2013 at 1:53 PM

 I thought it funny as well ....THANKSwelcome

Quoting Anonymous:

LOL I love how at first you were like, "my bad"  and then you were like, "get a life" LOL. Thanks for the laugh. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Honestly get a life ..mother in laws..mothers in law ..lord

Quoting Anonymous:

*Mothers in law.


 

redheadstar
by Ruby Member on Feb. 11, 2013 at 10:26 AM

respect is a two way street, I was married to 12 years and didnt see eye to eye with my MIL, she hardly respected me, loved trying to control my every move.... in the end the marriage ended

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