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Smoking around baby

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Question: Do you think CPS should be allowed to get involved if a parent is smoking around their baby?

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Yes, its neglectful and dangerous for their health.

No, its no one's business if people smoke in their own home.

Other, because there's always an "other".


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Do you think CPS should be allowed to get involved when a parent smokes around their baby indoors?

I know a woman who is generally a great mom; she feeds her baby on a schedule, takes good care of him, bathes him every day, cuddles him and plays with him, keeps up with his physical therapy and sings to him all the time. But, shes failing him in a big way; she sits at her computer for an hour at a time, a couple of times a day while hes napping and she smokes while shes online... he naps in his bouncer not even a foot away from her chair! She says its okay because smoke travels up, but shes sitting under an AC vent, so its actually blowing on him, and even if she weren't, its still in the air all around the room, travels through the AC return and is expelled from every vent in the house... I wish CPS could get involved and make her smoke outside, like just start showing up randomly to enforce it because if it smells like smoke in the house her baby is being poisoned. I smoke too, but I smoke outside in a hoodie that stays out there and I tie my hair back and put the hood on because I want to protect my baby.

I know CPS can't do anything, but I think they should be able to at least make parents take a class on second hand smoke in children and how dangerous it is. :( Poor baby.


Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 8, 2013 at 12:52 PM
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Redwoods_Mama
by Platinum Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:00 PM
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Well, that's just a mess.

 

 

That honestly can kill a newborn.  I think you should have a Come to Jesus with her about the SIDS risk, at least.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:01 PM

We're in Texas, the AC is on lol

Quoting Anonymous:

No I don't think cps should get involved. There are children chained in their basement as we speak and this is what we (general) get all up in arms about. I know it's bad but I am just saying. Tons of calls are made daily with False or stupid claims, and the children who are truly abused fall through the cracks.


And I doubt the a/c is on. It's February



MsRkg
by Gold Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:01 PM
Their house , their kid, they can do as they like. I like to leave CPS for the real issues like children being starved to the point of malnutrition and getting the shit beat out of them , than have them waste their time over something like this.
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acbbsmama
by Silver Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:01 PM

 While I do think smoking around your children is incredibly selfish and harmful, I don't think that alone warrants CPS involvement.

"We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that s/he is someone today"

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:01 PM
I smoked pot when I was pregnant. After being hospitalized 3 times for severe dehydration and dry heaving for hours on end I turned to the devil's lettuce. And my doctor knew.

My 8 year old is very advanced and charismatic too :)


Quoting Anonymous:

Ya I do, however I also think that women who smoke during pregnancy should get their kids taken away just like they would if they were smoking pot *even though pot is less harmful*


locaporbebe
by Gold Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:02 PM
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I wish someone had convinced my parents to smoke outside. I have terrible asthma and I was sick my entire childhood. I blame them and think that they should have to cover my asthma related costs. That said I also do not like the idea of more laws that tell you what you can and cannot do with your child.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:02 PM

 Smoking is legal, and if CPS were to get involved with every family who had a smoker, they'd have  alot of cases and it would take away from the mom who is beating her child and the father who is raping his toddler.

grow up and mind your buisness, there is way worst going on than you worrying about someone who smokes cigarettes.

kmugs
by Gold Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:02 PM

I voted other.

If a child has a diagnosis of something such as asthma that makes smoking near them dangerous, then Iwould report them to CPS.

If the child is is good health - then it is a crappy, selfish, ill-health promoting things to do...but not imminently dangerous, so I would not report someone to CPS over it.

 I might try and get the mom to change her behaviour - such as any time I was visiting and she lit up, I might suggest we go outside so she can smoke and not bother the baby.  I might try and bring her to playgroup, and quietly talk to a leader there to see if they can devote a session to smoking around kids or something like that.  I think it is a bad enough behaviour that I might try and get her to change the behaviour .I know this might fail and might drive a wedge in the friendship - but I am okay with that, smoking 1 foot from a baby is pretty bad and I do not care if she feel "judged".  It is not CPS worthy, however. 

supercarp
by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:02 PM

It's a bad thing to do, but it's not a CPS issue.

MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Feb. 8, 2013 at 1:02 PM

 No I do not. MIL smoked like a chimney indoors when the kids were over there. It was just who she was, She loved those kids to pieces. (She died if lung cancer 2 years ago)

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