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So...online (adult) chat rooms,

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Cheating or not?! I personally think it is a form of cheating. SO WHY HAVE I DONE IT?!! I'm still trying to figure out if I feel so guilty then why did I keep doing it?! I no longer go to adult chat rooms, since one guy in particular wanted to start talking just one on one. That was it for me, crossing the line. Random strangers to have naughty talks with was one thing, but just one on one regular conversations seem like an online affair. Have you ladies done this?
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2013 at 6:10 AM
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LaughingTattoo
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 7:19 AM

 Im just gonna base off the fact that you managed to get online and obviously have some basic typing skills/spelling........but you must possess the ability to be literate. A quick scan through can answer that question. No college degree required


Quoting Anonymous:

how does it feel to be a cheater? Yes that is considered having an affair....


 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 9, 2013 at 7:22 AM

Cheating looking or saying anything to anyone other than a spouse or SO  is cheating in my book. Might not be in others but for me it is.

I have never done anything like that is Chat rooms CM is enough for me.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2013 at 7:27 AM
It feels like I have made a huge mistake!!!! I found pics and videos on my husbands phone of girls and I wanted to have fun of my own. Turned out it wasn't fun and I am ashamed!! I found this site(CM) to have the kind of conversations I need as a good wife and mother. Honest and true about real life not fantasy.


Quoting Anonymous:

how does it feel to be a cheater? Yes that is considered having an affair....

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2013 at 7:34 AM
I googled free chat and there's alot.


Quoting mysticalmalissa:

Where are there any chat rooms anymore?

Yahoo closed theirs up a couple weeks ago. :(


LetoLiebe
by Silver Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 7:36 AM
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No, I go in and "chat room watch" some times, but I don't communicate with any one. Just like to see what's going on every once in while. My husband knows, we do all things related to sex or of an "adult" nature together. No secrets there. We both like to explore different things, but not necessarily act on every thing if that makes sense, like we don't hide any curiosities from each other, but we don't act on them either if it would effect our relationship in any negative way and when in those chat rooms it's more like people watching than anything else, then we move on and forget about it, no big deal. If you do it alone, and your husband doesn't know about it, and you can't seem to stop I would consider it a mild form of cheating. Maybe you feel neglected and don't realize it. Maybe your husband isn't flirting with you or flattering you enough, or maybe you feel sexually inhibited with him and not amongst anonymous strangers in a chat room and that pleases you. IDK, but maybe you could gently clue him in. Good luck  

LetoLiebe
by Silver Member on Feb. 9, 2013 at 8:45 AM
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This site is good for women in a lot of ways it can be helpful, informative, fun and just funny some times, it can also be helpful in exposing your self and others to different perspectives and life views, that's one thing I find I really like about it, along with the enormous range of topics and things that can be discussed, this is second, though, to the hot guy posts, those are my favourite:), but If you don't want fantasy, then expect to be criticized and get replies like the one you responded to here often...criticism doesn't stop at the sign in screen and that's good in that we can express freely, but you'll notice some times that some people just live to criticize and judge, sometimes on even the smallest thing imaginable (not your case but you know what I'm getting at). Just a heads up...if your not used to it yet.  

Quoting Anonymous:

It feels like I have made a huge mistake!!!! I found pics and videos on my husbands phone of girls and I wanted to have fun of my own. Turned out it wasn't fun and I am ashamed!! I found this site(CM) to have the kind of conversations I need as a good wife and mother. Honest and true about real life not fantasy.


Quoting Anonymous:

how does it feel to be a cheater? Yes that is considered having an affair....

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2013 at 8:48 AM
The thing that spurred me into looking was jealousy at porn i found on my husbands phone. I felt like i was "getting even" It was flattering at first then just horrifying and disgusting. I have learned a lesson and that is important.




Quoting LetoLiebe:

No, I go in and "chat room watch" some times, but I don't communicate with any one. Just like to see what's going on every once in while. My husband knows, we do all things related to sex or of an "adult" nature together. No secrets there. We both like to explore different things, but not necessarily act on every thing if that makes sense, like we don't hide any curiosities from each other, but we don't act on them either if it would effect our relationship in any negative way and when in those chat rooms it's more like people watching than anything else, then we move on and forget about it, no big deal. If you do it alone, and your husband doesn't know about it, and you can't seem to stop I would consider it a mild form of cheating. Maybe you feel neglected and don't realize it. Maybe your husband isn't flirting with you or flattering you enough, or maybe you feel sexually inhibited with him and not amongst anonymous strangers in a chat room and that pleases you. IDK, but maybe you could gently clue him in. Good luck  


Pink.Sunshine
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 8:53 AM
Inappropriate sexual/romantic conversation with someone other than your SO, that your SO doesn't know about is definitely cheating.
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Jentily
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 8:56 AM

yes it is absolutely cheating! 

Anything that you do that you do not want your significant other to know about is a form of deception. 

i hope you get caught....(sorry but i do)

Jentily
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 8:58 AM


2 wrongs do not make a right!!! 

It sounds to me that you and your husband seem to think it is ok because it is not physical.. it is just an online thing ... whatever works for you I guess.

Quoting Anonymous:

The thing that spurred me into looking was jealousy at porn i found on my husbands phone. I felt like i was "getting even" It was flattering at first then just horrifying and disgusting. I have learned a lesson and that is important.




Quoting LetoLiebe:

No, I go in and "chat room watch" some times, but I don't communicate with any one. Just like to see what's going on every once in while. My husband knows, we do all things related to sex or of an "adult" nature together. No secrets there. We both like to explore different things, but not necessarily act on every thing if that makes sense, like we don't hide any curiosities from each other, but we don't act on them either if it would effect our relationship in any negative way and when in those chat rooms it's more like people watching than anything else, then we move on and forget about it, no big deal. If you do it alone, and your husband doesn't know about it, and you can't seem to stop I would consider it a mild form of cheating. Maybe you feel neglected and don't realize it. Maybe your husband isn't flirting with you or flattering you enough, or maybe you feel sexually inhibited with him and not amongst anonymous strangers in a chat room and that pleases you. IDK, but maybe you could gently clue him in. Good luck  




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