should i let his family be involved even though he doesnt want to be?

[Anonymous]

Ds is 3 weeks old my stbxh wants NOTHING to do with him...he hasnt seen him and doesnt want to either.his sister sent me a facebook message last night saying her and the rest of the family really want to see him and spend time with him and they know im breastfeeding so they would love it if we would both come over for dinner or something so we can talk and they can meet ds.im not sure how i feel about this and im not sure what to do.i know my stbxh didnt even want them to know about ds but we saw his sister in walmart and he looks just like his dad and when she asked if he was stbxh i told her the truth.he left when i was 3 months pregnant(HE cheated)and we hadnt told anyone yet.i love his family but i dont want ds involved in drama and i feel his dad will start a ton if i let them see him...advice please

[jillbailey26]

I'd go over.  Just because your son's dad doesn't want anything to do with him doesn't mean you have to alienate his whole family.  Maybe your ex will take a hint and step up and be the father he should be.  If not, at least your son will know the other side of his family.

[lauren.m]

There may be drama but the more people who love the child the better it is for the child IMO. Good luck with whatever decision you make. And Congrats on the new baby!!

[Sassy762]

IF the family wants to have a relationship with the child and they are cool about you not being with your Ex, then I say go for it.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

thank you

Quoting lauren.m:

There may be drama but the more people who love the child the better it is for the child IMO. Good luck with whatever decision you make. And Congrats on the new baby!!

[Sekirei]

Quoting jillbailey26:

I'd go over.  Just because your son's dad doesn't want anything to do with him doesn't mean you have to alienate his whole family.  Maybe your ex will take a hint and step up and be the father he should be.  If not, at least your son will know the other side of his family.

Yup.. I agree with her^^ :3

[karisma22]

You shouldn't keep his family from seeing your son just because your ex is an ass and doesn't want to be involved.  It's not their fault that he doesn't want to be involved.

[kngarber]

 Yes.  They didn't do you wrong.  He did.  If they are good people don't punish them.  Good luck!!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

they havent seen or talked to him since we split.he is to far up his gf's ass

Quoting Sassy762:

IF the family wants to have a relationship with the child and they are cool about you not being with your Ex, then I say go for it.

[barrelracer1699]

That is his family. They deserve to get to know him too!

[fullxbusymom]

This

Quoting jillbailey26:

I'd go over.  Just because your son's dad doesn't want anything to do with him doesn't mean you have to alienate his whole family.  Maybe your ex will take a hint and step up and be the father he should be.  If not, at least your son will know the other side of his family.